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Anonymous wrote:That's the beauty of being an adult, you don't HAVE to do anything.

True - you have every right to be rude.

OH give me a fucking break! Send a card that is thrown away after you verbally thank people and host them? Get over your pompous self and jump into the real world. No one gives a shit about the thank you cards.

I do. I really enjoy receiving them. Sometimes the child will draw a picture on the card, or write something himself (if old enough to write). Even if the child is too young to write the card himself, I still appreciate a note from the mom that says something like "thank you for the puzzle; Joey really seems to like it." And my DD really loves receiving and opening mail addressed to her! All in all, it's a classy gesture on the part of the party-thrower, and requires little time and effort.

I'm glad you're raising a daughter as self absorbed and self important as you. Congratulations!

I'm the poster you quoted. I wrote that we enjoy receiving thank you cards, and that my DD enjoys receiving mail, and that I think sending thank you cards is a classy gesture. I don't see how you interpret that as my daughter and me being self-absorbed and self-important.

As you can tell by their language, there are very few classy people in the "no note" crowd.

Anonymous wrote:I think sending thank you cards is classy and shows good manners. I did send thank you cards to those who attended my DDs 1st bday. It was all adults who brought gifts for my daughter and some without kids showed up because it was an event for us/our family. How does a 1 year old say thank you anyway? I send cards for all gifts given to me, or events hosted for me (farewell lunch at work). At the end of the day I appreciate someone I give a gift to acknowledging it and saying thank you with a card. If I don't get one I don't hold it against the person but I do notice.

Let's get real, how is a 1 yr old throw a party? You did. Adults sending thank you cards are nice for baby showers, farewell parties, weddings, etc. They have a place. Thank you cards for a child/infants party are bullshit.

Anonymous wrote:If my kid says "thank you" for the gift, the giver can consider themselves thanked. Done.

Spoken like a true american - lazy, and only willing to do the very bare minimum

Anonymous wrote:What about a thank you email blast sent to all those who attended a party - not thanking individually for the specific gifts just a generic general thank you to the mass?

I've been the recipient of this a few times, and I wasn't impressed. I think that if someone buys a gift for your child, an individualized, sincere thank you - either by written note (best) or e-mail (not great, but better than nothing) is warranted.

What about a thank you email blast sent to all those who attended a party - not thanking individually for the specific gifts just a generic general thank you to the mass?

I think sending thank you cards is classy and shows good manners. I did send thank you cards to those who attended my DDs 1st bday. It was all adults who brought gifts for my daughter and some without kids showed up because it was an event for us/our family. How does a 1 year old say thank you anyway? I send cards for all gifts given to me, or events hosted for me (farewell lunch at work). At the end of the day I appreciate someone I give a gift to acknowledging it and saying thank you with a card. If I don't get one I don't hold it against the person but I do notice.

If my kid says "thank you" for the gift, the giver can consider themselves thanked. Done.

NP here.

On more than one occasion, we've been at a big party where all the presents get dumped in a "Jr's presents go here" bin and then Jr.'s parents collect everything and take it home and then don't receive a thank you note. Honestly, I just want to make sure they got it and that it didn't end up in some other bin, or with the "from" tag fallen off.

A thank you note would be nice.

Also, I grew up writing thank you notes and drawing pictures for my grandparents. I still write thank you notes today for gifts or just acts of kindness. I make sure my son (2nd grade) writes thank you notes for his friends & family. It is a good life skill to have.

I'm of the school that thinks that gifts received and opened in person and followed by a verbal thanks do not need a thank you note. Any other gift that is mailed or not opened in front of the giver gets a thank you note or phone call of thanks. It's the rule I follow and the rule my kids follow. Guess I'm not satisfying everyone, but I think it's reasonable.

If someone says thank you in person, that's enough for me. It did annoy me a very little bit that one of DS's friends had a party where the gifts were not opened (fine by me), and no one said thanks there or followed up after to say thanks. An email would have been fine. I don't care all that much - DS's friend is lovely, and I'm sure she liked her gift - but it just seemed weird that no one said thank you in any context.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with PP who said it's an important skill to develop for later in life.

Nice manners are never wrong.

I agree with you that it is nice to send thank you cards and appreciative, but if someone doesn't receive one, why all the drama?

The only drama I see in this thread is from the OP.

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I agree with you that it is nice to send thank you cards and appreciative, but if someone doesn't receive one, why all the drama?

What drama?

Anonymous wrote:Agree with PP who said it's an important skill to develop for later in life.

Nice manners are never wrong.

I agree with you that it is nice to send thank you cards and appreciative, but if someone doesn't receive one, why all the drama?

Agree with PP who said it's an important skill to develop for later in life.

Nice manners are never wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:That's the beauty of being an adult, you don't HAVE to do anything.

True - you have every right to be rude.

OH give me a fucking break! Send a card that is thrown away after you verbally thank people and host them? Get over your pompous self and jump into the real world. No one gives a shit about the thank you cards.

I do. I really enjoy receiving them. Sometimes the child will draw a picture on the card, or write something himself (if old enough to write). Even if the child is too young to write the card himself, I still appreciate a note from the mom that says something like "thank you for the puzzle; Joey really seems to like it." And my DD really loves receiving and opening mail addressed to her! All in all, it's a classy gesture on the part of the party-thrower, and requires little time and effort.

I'm glad you're raising a daughter as self absorbed and self important as you. Congratulations!

I'm the poster you quoted. I wrote that we enjoy receiving thank you cards, and that my DD enjoys receiving mail, and that I think sending thank you cards is a classy gesture. I don't see how you interpret that as my daughter and me being self-absorbed and self-important.