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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We went through this and just dealt with our own kid. I had no evidence about others and frankly didn't consider it my business. And I did not assume that my kid was an innocent bystander. And the other kids were not "the wrong sort", just smart kids doing dumb stuff.

We grounded, drug tested (nothing else found), and are much stricter on activities and supervision. So far so good. Grades back up and better attitude.

Do you think his friends stopped too? Or did he start hanging around other friends?

Mostly the latter. I have no idea about the former actually.

How did you get him to start hanging around other friends and sort of drop or give up the drug using friends?

Anonymous wrote:Levels of THC in pot have increased over the last 40 years. A quick iPhone google found lots of articles, like this one:

http://articles.cnn.com/2009-05-14/health/marijuana.potency_1_average-thc-potent-marijuana-marijuana-users?_s=PM:HEALTH


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And what kinds of horrible things has it led to? Extra munchies?

Levels of THC in pot have increased over the last 40 years. A quick iPhone google found lots of articles, like this one:

http://articles.cnn.com/2009-05-14/health/marijuana.potency_1_average-thc-potent-marijuana-marijuana-users?_s=PM:HEALTH


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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We went through this and just dealt with our own kid. I had no evidence about others and frankly didn't consider it my business. And I did not assume that my kid was an innocent bystander. And the other kids were not "the wrong sort", just smart kids doing dumb stuff.

We grounded, drug tested (nothing else found), and are much stricter on activities and supervision. So far so good. Grades back up and better attitude.

Do you think his friends stopped too? Or did he start hanging around other friends?

Mostly the latter. I have no idea about the former actually.

Anonymous wrote:We went through this and just dealt with our own kid. I had no evidence about others and frankly didn't consider it my business. And I did not assume that my kid was an innocent bystander. And the other kids were not "the wrong sort", just smart kids doing dumb stuff.

We grounded, drug tested (nothing else found), and are much stricter on activities and supervision. So far so good. Grades back up and better attitude.

Do you think his friends stopped too? Or did he start hanging around other friends?

Anonymous wrote:OP

I'm the PP with the 15 year old son. If I caught him smoking pot, I'd focus on him and not his friends or his dealer.

You can't tell the school, your son might get drawn into it, he could get suspended or even expelled.

OP- I agree that you need to focus on your son, but disagree that you can't tell the school or the police about the seller. Yes, your son might suffer some negative consequences from the school, but better now for minor offenses than later for bigger ones. If everyone turns a blind eye and lets this continue, the problem will only get bigger.

Yes, it is the individual who is using that is responsible for his/her behavior, but it is also those who are supplying that are breaking the law and making it accessible... they are all responsible for their own behavior - and the consequences it brings. If a college student gets thrown out for dealing, it may be the wake up call he/she needs to make changes and move on as well.

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Anonymous wrote:Thanks for all the advice. In addition to grounding him, any other suggestions for consequences? I know the college student who is selling it. Should I provide an anonymous tip to the police? Should I tell his school about one or two of the boys who are really promoting pot use? If they get kicked out it would really scare my son and it would be one less temptation.

You are a horrible person. As a general rule you should avoid trying to mess up other people's lives, have them thrown out of college, etc. Your own son is probably "promoting pot use".

As a general rule, it is illegal to sell pot. I'd argue it is also especially unethical for an adult (over 21) to sell drugs to a 15 year old. Frankly I'd like to get drug pushers/sellers off the streets. They have messed up millions of people's lives, including my sisters, who is now dead. If a college student is selling drugs they should know they are risking being arrested and kicked out of school. By selling drugs they are messing up their own life.

I understand why you're sensitive about the situation, but you think the drug sellers ruined your sister's life, not that she did?

OP

I'm the PP with the 15 year old son. If I caught him smoking pot, I'd focus on him and not his friends or his dealer.

You can't tell the school, your son might get drawn into it, he could get suspended or even expelled.

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Anonymous wrote:Thanks for all the advice. In addition to grounding him, any other suggestions for consequences? I know the college student who is selling it. Should I provide an anonymous tip to the police? Should I tell his school about one or two of the boys who are really promoting pot use? If they get kicked out it would really scare my son and it would be one less temptation.

You are a horrible person. As a general rule you should avoid trying to mess up other people's lives, have them thrown out of college, etc. Your own son is probably "promoting pot use".

As a general rule, it is illegal to sell pot. I'd argue it is also especially unethical for an adult (over 21) to sell drugs to a 15 year old. Frankly I'd like to get drug pushers/sellers off the streets. They have messed up millions of people's lives, including my sisters, who is now dead. If a college student is selling drugs they should know they are risking being arrested and kicked out of school. By selling drugs they are messing up their own life.

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for all the advice. In addition to grounding him, any other suggestions for consequences? I know the college student who is selling it. Should I provide an anonymous tip to the police? Should I tell his school about one or two of the boys who are really promoting pot use? If they get kicked out it would really scare my son and it would be one less temptation.

You are a horrible person. As a general rule you should avoid trying to mess up other people's lives, have them thrown out of college, etc. Your own son is probably "promoting pot use".

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for all the advice. In addition to grounding him, any other suggestions for consequences? I know the college student who is selling it. Should I provide an anonymous tip to the police? Should I tell his school about one or two of the boys who are really promoting pot use? If they get kicked out it would really scare my son and it would be one less temptation.

Yes and yes. Why wouldn't you? What are you so afraid of?

Well one thing for her to be afraid of is that her DS will be kicked out along with the others. Why are they any more guilty, from the perspective of the school, than the OPs son?

Anonymous wrote:So how do you drug-test your kid?

There are urine tests available at the drug store (like CVS and Rite Aid). Takes a couple of minutes to get the results. A single test will test for multiple drugs.

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for all the advice. In addition to grounding him, any other suggestions for consequences? I know the college student who is selling it. Should I provide an anonymous tip to the police? Should I tell his school about one or two of the boys who are really promoting pot use? If they get kicked out it would really scare my son and it would be one less temptation.

If the college student is receiving financial aid, he'll lose it if he's convicted of a drug offense.

Report him if you'd like, since he is breaking the law. But you'll have to live with the fact that you had a hand in messing with this kid's education and the consequences for your kid won't be nearly the same, although your kid is also a drug-using, lying slacker.

So how do you drug-test your kid?

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for all the advice. In addition to grounding him, any other suggestions for consequences? I know the college student who is selling it. Should I provide an anonymous tip to the police? Should I tell his school about one or two of the boys who are really promoting pot use? If they get kicked out it would really scare my son and it would be one less temptation.

Yes and yes. Why wouldn't you? What are you so afraid of?