OP here. There is nothing in my first post that says anything about the other kid. Those of you are commenting on the other kid are having your own side conversation here! My kid did not move when the other kid told him to move (they were sitting in the sandbox). She intentionally kicked him in the face. She also drew blood from another child a few weeks earlier with her fingernails. I simply asked how you would expect to be communicated to and by whom, if your 5 y.o. is kicked in the face by another kid. I am not happy with how I was communicated with about it and don't think I should have received a vague email from a nurse who was not present, saying "from what I heard," with the suggestion that I get details from my child. I think I should have been communicated with directly from a teacher or someone who had the entire story. If you are going to email me about something that happened to my dc, give me details and facts not a piece of the story.

Oh my....You are in for a very long 14 years or so. Kids get hurt. Sometimes by other kids. Some of the time it's an accident. And sometimes it's purposeful.

Unless there was enough blood to require more than a Band-aide, I would expect a phone call from the nurse letting me know that my child got hurt and that she cleaned him up, gave him a little TLC, and sent him back to the classroom.

And that would be the end of it. Keep in mind, your kid may have been the instigator. I know mine have been.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised at the nonchalant responses of most parents here.

It seems like OP indicated that the child who kicked her DC has hurt other children before; if that's the case, it also sounds like the kick may have been intentional.

OP, I would bring the incident up to the assistant principal or principal, to see if you can learn more about what happened, and also and ask if anything is being done to help the child doing the kicking. I did this when my DD mentioned that a certain little girl was mean to her and would hit her. Turns out the hitter was known to be "fussy" and would sometimes pick on little kids. Teachers/asst prinicpal assured me that the hitter, who was older, was moving to the next class up shortly, and also watched to keep my DD and the hitter separated as much as possible in the interim. I later learned from other parents that this child has some behavioral issues and the school was working with the parents to get outside consultation.

I expect if my DD is hitting, biting, etc, that teachers will tell me so I can help address the issue (and at my DD's school, they do); you should expect the same at your school, that the teachers will alert the parents of the kicker.

But all of these things are issues for the parents of the kicker, not for you. It's really none of your business. If your child is getting repeatedly kicked, then you can ask the school what they are doing to keep your child safe, but how they are working with another child is not your business.

Exactly! It's not your business what's going on with the other child. You also shouldn't gossip with other parents about children that are not your own.

Alternatively, is your child doing something (provocation or bullying) to be the recipient of a swift kick? That too, may require psychological therapy?

Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised at the nonchalant responses of most parents here.

It seems like OP indicated that the child who kicked her DC has hurt other children before; if that's the case, it also sounds like the kick may have been intentional.

OP, I would bring the incident up to the assistant principal or principal, to see if you can learn more about what happened, and also and ask if anything is being done to help the child doing the kicking. I did this when my DD mentioned that a certain little girl was mean to her and would hit her. Turns out the hitter was known to be "fussy" and would sometimes pick on little kids. Teachers/asst prinicpal assured me that the hitter, who was older, was moving to the next class up shortly, and also watched to keep my DD and the hitter separated as much as possible in the interim. I later learned from other parents that this child has some behavioral issues and the school was working with the parents to get outside consultation.

I expect if my DD is hitting, biting, etc, that teachers will tell me so I can help address the issue (and at my DD's school, they do); you should expect the same at your school, that the teachers will alert the parents of the kicker.

But all of these things are issues for the parents of the kicker, not for you. It's really none of your business. If your child is getting repeatedly kicked, then you can ask the school what they are doing to keep your child safe, but how they are working with another child is not your business.

I'm surprised at the nonchalant responses of most parents here.

It seems like OP indicated that the child who kicked her DC has hurt other children before; if that's the case, it also sounds like the kick may have been intentional.

OP, I would bring the incident up to the assistant principal or principal, to see if you can learn more about what happened, and also and ask if anything is being done to help the child doing the kicking. I did this when my DD mentioned that a certain little girl was mean to her and would hit her. Turns out the hitter was known to be "fussy" and would sometimes pick on little kids. Teachers/asst prinicpal assured me that the hitter, who was older, was moving to the next class up shortly, and also watched to keep my DD and the hitter separated as much as possible in the interim. I later learned from other parents that this child has some behavioral issues and the school was working with the parents to get outside consultation.

I expect if my DD is hitting, biting, etc, that teachers will tell me so I can help address the issue (and at my DD's school, they do); you should expect the same at your school, that the teachers will alert the parents of the kicker.

OP this has to be your first kid? Right? I am now on Kid two and I am waaaay more laid back in preschool. I am guessing if child went to nurse you are at a n-8 school or n-12 school ie not a little preschool with no nurse. So..they have to have procedures in place and you would know if it was serious. Chances are it wasn't and you need to relax or you will be "that" parent..not a great place to be. Don't get me wrong..I am sorry for your child but at some point..your child will hit someone etc and you will appreciate that schools put in procedures not only for safety but to contain overprotective parents.

Anonymous wrote:I think if a mark is left they have to give an incident report. If there is no mark the only case where I feel they must tell me is if there is a head injury in case it ends up being more severe than they initially thoughr.

This is closest to where I am. I accept that all kids get hurt fairly often when they play -- sometimes by accident and sometimes intentionally. If the injury is minor (skinned knee, minor bumps and bruises, some crying), I don't need anything. If my child gets some moderate-major injury (big cut, big bruise, head injury, major upset of some sort), then I'd like to hear something from the school. I don't need a formal incident report, but I'd like to get some communication -- a teacher's note home in the child's backpack, a nurse's voicemail, an email, etc -- to let me know how my child got hurt, and that someone was paying enough attention to make sure the injury was not serious. Unless there is some specific reason (for example, a concerning pattern of some specific other child picking on my child, or maybe a pattern of my child doing dangerous things with another specific child), I don't need the school to tell me who else was involved. YMMV, obviously.

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If your pre-k child is injured (kicked in the mouth) by another child while playing on the playground (in sandbox), by whom and how do you expect to be contacted? Child was hurt and crying (but not seriously injured). Teachers came to see what happened, when another child told them what happened. TIA

From the information in this note alone, I would be mentally and psychologically unstable to expect any report at all save that from my child.

Sorry to break it to you, but you are the one who sounds psychologically unstable and irrational here. Go away!

I think if a mark is left they have to give an incident report. If there is no mark the only case where I feel they must tell me is if there is a head injury in case it ends up being more severe than they initially thoughr.

It's hard OP. Secretly I'd love to wrap my kids in bubble wrap and send them off the school, but I know I have to suck it up and trust that the teachers are handing things. If I was concerned a kid was intentionally hurting my child I would definitely express concern to the teacher and see what her interpertation is.

If your pre-k child is injured (kicked in the mouth) by another child while playing on the playground (in sandbox), by whom and how do you expect to be contacted? Child was hurt and crying (but not seriously injured). Teachers came to see what happened, when another child told them what happened. TIA

From the information in this note alone, I would be mentally and psychologically unstable to expect any report at all save that from my child.

Obviously, uncoordinated play of children is a "no touch" affair with regards her child only and this infected person feels entitled to reports and contacts from on high (code red emergency) --- signs and symptoms of the entitlement syndrome that infests American culture living in this pocket of the country.

If a child is sent to the nurse, who then informs you, consider the nurse the funnel. Unless it is mega-serious--being contacted by the nurse, an authority figure in the school, is just fine.

Anonymous wrote:I would expect the school to call if my child were seriously injured. Otherwise, I'd expect them to notify me at the end of the day.

This has been my experience in both daycare and ES. My kids never got hurt after ES, so I don't know what happens. This makes sense to me. I don't need to be called unless I need to come get my kid or unless I need to follow up on something, like watch for some symptom in the evening. The end of the day is soon enough to hear. And, while we are never told the identity of the perpetrator if the injury was caused by someone else, by the time your kid is two or three they will tell you if you care to know.

Anonymous wrote:If your pre-k child is injured (kicked in the mouth) by another child while playing on the playground (in sandbox), by whom and how do you expect to be contacted? Child was hurt and crying (but not seriously injured). Teachers came to see what happened, when another child told them what happened. TIA.

I would expect a full police report delivered in person by the officer that responded to the call. I would expect written apologies from the offender's parents delivered on the wings of white doves. I would expect said offender to be placed in juvie till he turns 18.

If your pre-k child is injured (kicked in the mouth) by another child while playing on the playground (in sandbox), by whom and how do you expect to be contacted? Child was hurt and crying (but not seriously injured). Teachers came to see what happened, when another child told them what happened. TIA

From the information in this note alone, I would be mentally and psychologically unstable to expect any report at all save that from my child.