Yeah, not my scene either. My first friend to get married had a stripper come to the house. We all thought it would be funny, and it kind of was, but the guy just pranced around trying to put his cock in everybody's face. Sorry, but outside of the situation that would be sexual assault. I didn't like it, felt totally uncomfortable the entire time, and was just completely miserable. We faked we were having fun for about 2 minutes and then another friend and I left early. It was so awful.

OP, don't go if you don't want to. Really, I don't get this whole strip club business. I'm not judging others, I just don't GET it. I can't think of anything less pleasant than some jacked dude putting his wang in my face. No.

Is it Hangar Club or somewhere similar? Because I've been to bachelorette parties there and it's really not that bad. Yeah, it wouldn't be my choice. But it's actually pretty goofy and silly. It's a bunch of women cheering and laughing and making fun of the dancers under their breath. It's too silly to be sleazy, and there's no nudity. (You'd see just as much skin at a competitive swim meet.)

So if you feel like supporting the SIL, go. You'll live. And bring $1s.

Tee hee I love it how everyone is telling the op to "suck it up" .....tee heed.. Some sort of Freudian slip!,,,

Oh please, everyone knows all those dancers are gay anyway. What do you think is going to happen? You can't suck it up for one night for someone else? Does it always have to be about what you want, OP?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"No, thanks; it's really not my thing, but have a good time." is not judgmental.

"I refuse to go and I am appalled that this is your idea of fun" is judgmental.

Exactly. OP, if you're not comfortable with it, don't go. It seems like it would be obvious to the people hosting this event that it wouldn't be everyone's cup of tea. It would be ridiculous of them to be offended if you politely decline.

I agree. Don't see why not wanting to go to a strip club means OP is a prude or judgemental. It's not everyone's cuppa and nothing wrong with that.

Strip clubs for women are so different than strip clubs for men. More funny than erotic, more prankster ish than sexy. And, absolutely no risk of the women sleeping or getting oral sex from the strippers. I think they are stupid really. Much how I view bowling: it's supposed to be fun, silly time but it's really not. But, not offensive at all. However, if you are offended or it's not your style to the extent where you don't feel like you can suck it up, come up with a different reason than the truth. This party is not about you or your values, and I wouldn't make it so.

Ew. I wouldn't go, either.

One of my friend's went to Vegas for her bachelorette and I used the excuse of my children, etc... The truth was that I didn't want to go to strip clubs, etc. AND be out at least a grand.

Another friend who also skipped Vegas and I took her to the spa for a massage and then out to a nice dinner.

Anonymous wrote:"No, thanks; it's really not my thing, but have a good time." is not judgmental.

"I refuse to go and I am appalled that this is your idea of fun" is judgmental.

Exactly. OP, if you're not comfortable with it, don't go. It seems like it would be obvious to the people hosting this event that it wouldn't be everyone's cup of tea. It would be ridiculous of them to be offended if you politely decline.

I don't think the OP is being judgy, I think she doesn't feel comfortable at strip clubs and thats' fine. OP, either suck it up and go for an hour OR be honest and say you don't feel comfortable at a strip club, maybe you can meet them out before or afterwards.

Male or femal strip club

"No, thanks; it's really not my thing, but have a good time." is not judgmental.

"I refuse to go and I am appalled that this is your idea of fun" is judgmental.

Are they doing anything before the strip club? Why not organize a dinner for beforehand, then bow out for the strip club part? At least this way, you have participated in her bachorlette party. BTW, I've been to one of these type of bachorlette parties. While it wouldn't have been my choice of activities, it didn't hurt me to go and I know it meant a lot to the bride that all her closest friends were there. I'd strongly reconsider taking one for the team and attending. She will be your SIL for years (hopefully, the rest of your life) and most likely, the strip club experience will only last a couple of hours. In the very least, I'd try to participate in the night in someway, even if you don't go to the strip club.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it's not to your taste, fine. But many women do this. And many men. I don't see making a big issue of it. What's wrong with it? She's not sleeping with the dancers.

If you don't want to go, just don't go. But take off your judge's robes. You are going to have a long relationship with this woman. Would you like to be judged on your Bachelorette party? Ridiculous.

This. A thousand times this.

this. what a pain in the ass.

Anonymous wrote:If it's not to your taste, fine. But many women do this. And many men. I don't see making a big issue of it. What's wrong with it? She's not sleeping with the dancers.

If you don't want to go, just don't go. But take off your judge's robes. You are going to have a long relationship with this woman. Would you like to be judged on your Bachelorette party? Ridiculous.

This. A thousand times this.

Is she organizing her own bachelorette party?