Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm a teacher and we are supposed to be a team with the parents and the child. If you came in like this it would make it clear that you were a "difficult case". The question you raise makes it seem like you are ashamed of your child's condition which will translate in teachers who will be less than forthcoming with you. If they feel that you don't disclose information they might regard it to be in the child's best interest to not reach out to communicate with you. Amenable, helpful parents who are real team players make a world of difference in outcome.
I can't phrase this any more gently, but is your shame so great that you can't do what is best for your child so that the whole team can have all of the information?
NP here. Gosh, aren't you clueless. But you do sound like a typical arrogant teacher.
It's not shame. It's a mother's instinct to protect her child.
Anonymous wrote:I'm a teacher and we are supposed to be a team with the parents and the child. If you came in like this it would make it clear that you were a "difficult case". The question you raise makes it seem like you are ashamed of your child's condition which will translate in teachers who will be less than forthcoming with you. If they feel that you don't disclose information they might regard it to be in the child's best interest to not reach out to communicate with you. Amenable, helpful parents who are real team players make a world of difference in outcome.
I can't phrase this any more gently, but is your shame so great that you can't do what is best for your child so that the whole team can have all of the information?
Anonymous wrote:NP here. OP, I think PPs have been far too unnecessarily harsh. I am also a teacher and if you did not ask the question in a combative manner but merely in an innocent information-gathering-way, I would not think you were being difficult. As a personal matter, I am strong believer in privacy and can completely understand why one would hesitate to answer--to PPs, I don't see it being ashamed, I see it as being private.
Anonymous wrote:New poster here.
Why would it be relevant to the discussion of the IEP whether the child was taking medication or not?
I see the question as idle curiosity.
If the answer is "yes, my child is being medicated for ADHD" would that change anything in the IEP? The team is not supposed to suggest changes to medication in the IEP surely. The only member of the team qualified to state an opinion about meds might be the psychiatrist, but I doubt it was a psychiatrist at that meeting, much more likely an educational psychologist, who really should NOT be suggesting changes in medication.
If the answer is "No, my child is not being medicated for ADHD" again -- how would that change anything in school or on the IEP? Would something different be written into the IEP? Would teachers say, "This child shows such and such symptoms and we believe he should be taking medication to change those behaviors?" Again -- I don't think so.
So teachers -- tell me -- why do you need to know if a child is being medicated or not? How does it change how you teach the child? How does it impact what is written into the IEP?
18:17 again--yes, this is exactly what I was getting at! It doesn't affect the IEP at all, and therefore it is hardly harming the child to keep such information private.
Anonymous wrote:I have to say that I am siding with OP also. We are starting the IEP process this year and I have been advised by our consultant not to share all of our medical findings for fear that our kid would be labeled. Granted, I don't think it was a really out of the ballpark question for the team since it's a disorder that is often medicated. In her shoes I probably would have said that he was not getting meds for ADHD and left it at that. OP is smart to realize that the IEP team members are not her friends and that they have their own agendas. Information should be on a need to know basis. If the med does not have a direct relation to the education it's really none of their business. I stopped providing non-essential details to our various therapists and school people long ago--they will use it to second guess you and weigh in where they haven't been asked to.