Anonymous
Post 04/12/2012 16:58     Subject: How much does your DH drink each night?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DH makes his own beer and drinks at least one pint every night- frequently two (yes, every single night). We've both wondered whether he's an alcoholic - and he did start making his beer a little lower in alcohol (mostly so he could drink more of it, i think). He's slender and fit and extremely productive, a good provider, a musician (frequently filling our home with live music), a great father, husband, family member. I've rarely seen him drunk (2-3 or 4 times in 12 years). We decided if this is alcoholic, bring it on.


As someone who grew up with someone who truly was a "functioning alcoholic", i.e. got hammered Wednesday-Saturday night of every week, slept all day Sunday in a hangover, and was only around and not partying on Mondays and Tuesdays, was able to hold down a job but got arrested for DUI twice and drove drunk way more often and frequently stayed gone all weekend with no phone call of explanation until walking back in on Sunday morning holding Burger King for breakfast- your post is gross and offensive. If your husband were truly an alcoholic (and drinking a pint or two of his homemade beer a night is NOT an alcoholic) you would be suffering so many of the side consequences (lying, manipulation, misplaced anger, deception) there is no way you'd be saying "bring it on." You are seriously such a dumb ass.


I respectfully disagree. A functioning alcoholic can certainly drink two beers a night. Have you seen the size of some of the beers that are sold at Total Beverage and looked at the alcohol content? If he's brewing his own he can manipulate that.

And really, your experience sounds horrible but your description is not a FUNCTIONING alcoholic. The person that you grew up with was a FULL BLOWN alcoholic. Get your definitions straight.

And why call people dumb asses? Is that what you took away from growing up in an alcoholic household?


Someone took a very serious issue (alcoholism), compared it to their issue (not alcoholism) and said "Bring it on!" It's insulting. It's like saying "My husband likes to spank me during sex, if this is spousal abuse, I say bring it on!" Someone whose husband beat the shit out of her for half their marriage is not going to find that amusing. Her husband is not a functioning alcoholic. He's a beer drinker.
Anonymous
Post 04/12/2012 16:46     Subject: How much does your DH drink each night?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DH makes his own beer and drinks at least one pint every night- frequently two (yes, every single night). We've both wondered whether he's an alcoholic - and he did start making his beer a little lower in alcohol (mostly so he could drink more of it, i think). He's slender and fit and extremely productive, a good provider, a musician (frequently filling our home with live music), a great father, husband, family member. I've rarely seen him drunk (2-3 or 4 times in 12 years). We decided if this is alcoholic, bring it on.


As someone who grew up with someone who truly was a "functioning alcoholic", i.e. got hammered Wednesday-Saturday night of every week, slept all day Sunday in a hangover, and was only around and not partying on Mondays and Tuesdays, was able to hold down a job but got arrested for DUI twice and drove drunk way more often and frequently stayed gone all weekend with no phone call of explanation until walking back in on Sunday morning holding Burger King for breakfast- your post is gross and offensive. If your husband were truly an alcoholic (and drinking a pint or two of his homemade beer a night is NOT an alcoholic) you would be suffering so many of the side consequences (lying, manipulation, misplaced anger, deception) there is no way you'd be saying "bring it on." You are seriously such a dumb ass.


I respectfully disagree. A functioning alcoholic can certainly drink two beers a night. Have you seen the size of some of the beers that are sold at Total Beverage and looked at the alcohol content? If he's brewing his own he can manipulate that.

And really, your experience sounds horrible but your description is not a FUNCTIONING alcoholic. The person that you grew up with was a FULL BLOWN alcoholic. Get your definitions straight.

And why call people dumb asses? Is that what you took away from growing up in an alcoholic household?
Anonymous
Post 04/12/2012 16:42     Subject: Re:How much does your DH drink each night?
Anonymous wrote:1-2 glasses of wine 5x week. No, I don't think he's an alcoholic.


x2

Honestly, I forgot how there are some DCUMers who think that anybody who drinks more nights than not automatically equals an alcoholic....despite the fact that a glass of wine a night is actually BENEFICIAL to your health...
Anonymous
Post 04/12/2012 16:41     Subject: Re:How much does your DH drink each night?
We usually split a beer (seriously, how lame are we) or each have a small glass of wine 1-2 times a week, mostly because it's good with the food we're eating (DH is Asian and beer pairs well with some of the spicier foods).
Anonymous
Post 04/12/2012 16:40     Subject: How much does your DH drink each night?
My husband doesn't drink much at all. Maybe a few beers a month. Works our wonderfully for me as I can drink and he will drive! Seriously though, I have always been a drinker and surrounded myself with other drinkers, and being with a non drinker makes me realize what 'normal' is.
Anonymous
Post 04/12/2012 16:38     Subject: Re:How much does your DH drink each night?
Anonymous wrote:1-2 glasses of wine 5x week. No, I don't think he's an alcoholic.


This is what I drink.
Anonymous
Post 04/12/2012 16:31     Subject: Re:How much does your DH drink each night?
1-2 glasses of wine 5x week. No, I don't think he's an alcoholic.
Anonymous
Post 04/12/2012 16:21     Subject: How much does your DH drink each night?
Anonymous wrote:DH makes his own beer and drinks at least one pint every night- frequently two (yes, every single night). We've both wondered whether he's an alcoholic - and he did start making his beer a little lower in alcohol (mostly so he could drink more of it, i think). He's slender and fit and extremely productive, a good provider, a musician (frequently filling our home with live music), a great father, husband, family member. I've rarely seen him drunk (2-3 or 4 times in 12 years). We decided if this is alcoholic, bring it on.


As someone who grew up with someone who truly was a "functioning alcoholic", i.e. got hammered Wednesday-Saturday night of every week, slept all day Sunday in a hangover, and was only around and not partying on Mondays and Tuesdays, was able to hold down a job but got arrested for DUI twice and drove drunk way more often and frequently stayed gone all weekend with no phone call of explanation until walking back in on Sunday morning holding Burger King for breakfast- your post is gross and offensive. If your husband were truly an alcoholic (and drinking a pint or two of his homemade beer a night is NOT an alcoholic) you would be suffering so many of the side consequences (lying, manipulation, misplaced anger, deception) there is no way you'd be saying "bring it on." You are seriously such a dumb ass.
Anonymous
Post 04/12/2012 16:05     Subject: How much does your DH drink each night?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DH makes his own beer and drinks at least one pint every night- frequently two (yes, every single night). We've both wondered whether he's an alcoholic - and he did start making his beer a little lower in alcohol (mostly so he could drink more of it, i think). He's slender and fit and extremely productive, a good provider, a musician (frequently filling our home with live music), a great father, husband, family member. I've rarely seen him drunk (2-3 or 4 times in 12 years). We decided if this is alcoholic, bring it on.


So what you are saying is that he's a functioning alcoholic and you are an enabler that is very good at making excuses for him. Yes? Am I correct?

A functioning alcoholic can be all the things you mentioned above and STILL be an alcoholic.

Get a clue - http://rethinkingdrinking.niaaa.nih.gov/IsYourDrinkingPatternRisky/WhatsYourPattern.asp


You seriously think a 1-2 beer drinker is a functional alcoholic? According to your own link, men who drink 14 or fewer drinks per week are low risk for alcohol abuse. Although its true that a functional alcoholic can do many things wiout seeming impaired, it doesn't follow that anyone who is not impaired and also drinks is an alcoholic. I think this PP is the one who needs a clue.
Anonymous
Post 04/12/2012 08:35     Subject: How much does your DH drink each night?
Just enough to block out the ghastliness.

An alcoholic is someone who drinks more than you.

By DCUm standards most Europeans would be alcoholics.
Anonymous
Post 04/12/2012 08:32     Subject: Re:How much does your DH drink each night?
Yes, I'd say he's some sort of alcoholic. Doesn't drink at all during the week, but drinks too much on weekends. His tolerance is amazing.
Anonymous
Post 04/12/2012 08:10     Subject: How much does your DH drink each night?
My husband may have a drink at special events. To the OP, read up on alcoholism. One does not have to be falling down drunk all the time to be an alcoholic. Can your husband give up alcohol willingly and not go back to it?

Good luck. This is a difficult issue.

Al Anon (for people who have alcoholics in their lives) can be useful for some to understand the issue. I have been to some meetings (my mother is an alcoholic) where people just whine about how horrible their lives are, so attend different meetings if you are curious. Some meetings are more useful to some people than others.
Anonymous
Post 04/12/2012 07:24     Subject: How much does your DH drink each night?
He drinks less than I do and I drink somewhere behind none and Mad Men.

What do you hope to get out of this discussion?
Anonymous
Post 04/12/2012 07:14     Subject: Re:How much does your DH drink each night?
Anonymous wrote:None. However, all the husbands of all my friends who are married to white men drink a couple of beers a night.



I had no idea gay marriage had become so common.
Anonymous
Post 04/12/2012 07:10     Subject: Re:How much does your DH drink each night?
Anonymous wrote:Maybe one or two glasses (of wine...or one or two beers) , a couple times a week. No, he is not an alcoholic.


Same (add an occasional whiskey-sipped).

His dad is definitely a (functional) alcoholic. He goes through a couple of cases a week and is pretty much bombed every weekend.