Anonymous
Post 04/11/2012 09:56     Subject: Re:Would your spouse have married you if you were any other race?
No. And I wouldn't have married him either.
Anonymous
Post 04/11/2012 09:55     Subject: Would your spouse have married you if you were any other race?
Anonymous wrote:Hmmm, the OP's question assumes that race would not impact one's outlook, personality, demeanor, etc. IMO, there is no way I would be the person I am today (I am Asian American, btw) if I were born white or black. In other words, my race has undoubtedly shaped the person I am today. Would DH have married me if I were white or black or some other color? I don't know because that person would not exist.

OP's question is moot.


what if you were adopted into a family of a different race. Would your husband have married an Asian woman raised by white parents?
Anonymous
Post 04/11/2012 09:48     Subject: Would your spouse have married you if you were any other race?
Hmmm, the OP's question assumes that race would not impact one's outlook, personality, demeanor, etc. IMO, there is no way I would be the person I am today (I am Asian American, btw) if I were born white or black. In other words, my race has undoubtedly shaped the person I am today. Would DH have married me if I were white or black or some other color? I don't know because that person would not exist.

OP's question is moot.
Anonymous
Post 04/11/2012 09:16     Subject: Would your spouse have married you if you were any other race?
Anonymous wrote:How can you have the same basic looks and be a different race? We are an interracial couple and my answer is no - I'm attracted to my dh which is largely due to his race color/features etc


Height weight and so on. Basic good looking or average or below average...
Anonymous
Post 04/11/2012 09:06     Subject: Re:Would your spouse have married you if you were any other race?
Another way to look at this is, if you and your spouse are the same race, say white, would your spouse have married you if you were Asian or African American?
Anonymous
Post 04/11/2012 08:56     Subject: Would your spouse have married you if you were any other race?
I dont understand this thread. WHAT???
Anonymous
Post 04/11/2012 02:23     Subject: Would your spouse have married you if you were any other race?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How can you have the same basic looks and be a different race? We are an interracial couple and my answer is no - I'm attracted to my dh which is largely due to his race color/features etc


Are you serious?



DH is South Asian, I'm South American and when we went to each others' home country people were amazed to see how similar looking we were to our local folks. We blended in perfectly. I can totally see DH being my race and me being his race.


with is South american? It's a continent, not a race. Is your DH much darker skinned than you? That would explain a lot...Sounds like he married down for color.
Anonymous
Post 04/11/2012 02:19     Subject: Re:Would your spouse have married you if you were any other race?
I get your question OP--like the black guy who marries a white woman with much lower qualifications than himself. No way would say Jim Vance be married to a black female equivalent of his wife, for instance. This is a very real phenomenon. In interracial marriages, the partner of color tends to be of a much higher status than the white spouse--
Anonymous
Post 04/11/2012 01:26     Subject: Would your spouse have married you if you were any other race?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:no


one honest person.


15% of new marriages are interracial.
Anonymous
Post 04/11/2012 01:00     Subject: Would your spouse have married you if you were any other race?
Anonymous wrote:My DH and I are black. He would not marry a white woman, so "no".

Prior to marriage, I've never been open to dating outside of my race; however, the me I am today would be, so my answer would be "yes".


There are other races besides white and black.
Anonymous
Post 04/11/2012 00:53     Subject: Would your spouse have married you if you were any other race?
No.
Anonymous
Post 04/10/2012 23:43     Subject: Would your spouse have married you if you were any other race?
My DH and I are black. He would not marry a white woman, so "no".

Prior to marriage, I've never been open to dating outside of my race; however, the me I am today would be, so my answer would be "yes".
Anonymous
Post 04/10/2012 23:28     Subject: Would your spouse have married you if you were any other race?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How can you have the same basic looks and be a different race? We are an interracial couple and my answer is no - I'm attracted to my dh which is largely due to his race color/features etc


Are you serious?



DH is South Asian, I'm South American and when we went to each others' home country people were amazed to see how similar looking we were to our local folks. We blended in perfectly. I can totally see DH being my race and me being his race.
Anonymous
Post 04/10/2012 23:27     Subject: Re:Would your spouse have married you if you were any other race?
Yes. We're different races. He has said that the only real impediments for him would have been vast disagreements on religion and politics. If you were to ask him today, he'd throw family in there. We are sometimes at odds regarding how much is too much when it comes to dealing with family.
Anonymous
Post 04/10/2012 23:27     Subject: Would your spouse have married you if you were any other race?
I think this is a really interesting question, actually. My husband and I are white, the last serious girlfriend he had before me was black. But I still think my answer is no. FIL is seriously racist, and although my husband is not, I'm not sure whether that would have been too big a hurdle for him to marry someone of another race.