Anonymous wrote:I got away. I didn't call the police. I am afraid.

Well done OP on getting away. Are you with family / friends? Are you safe where you are?

If you aren't ready to call police, please call the crisis lines to stay connected to people who can support you through this. Do you have a therapist/counselor you have seen in the past or are seeing that you could talk to about this?

Thanks for letting us know you are okay, I had wondered too how you were doing.

My heart goes out to you, OP. I understand your fear, but hope you will re-consider calling the police. Explain your fears to them so that they can help you. And call the numbers that PPs posted. You'll find healing with these organizations.

You're in my prayers.

I would recommend following the advice of others on this site. They all seemed rational suggestions. You are scared and hurt. There seem to be a lot of resources for a victim like yourself. You reached out here. Follow up, be brave, and it will be great. I wish you luck!

I got away. I didn't call the police. I am afraid.

I too want to know....this is really a very upsetting topic.

OP, now that the weekend has passed, checking back in to see if you have been able to get away and call for help.

Anonymous wrote:I think the advice here is right and honestly, the thread should be closed now. Otherwise it encourages hoaxes and abusive posts.

What is wrong with you? I would keep it open so that she can get more good advice. When she wants it closed she will ask.

Call Doorways for Women and Families. They will help you. Numbers are below.

Doorways’ Domestic Violence Program:
Resources for Individuals and Families Experiencing Domestic Violence
Hotline, Safehouse, and Court Advocate Services
(703) 237-0881 24-hour hotline and Safehouse
(703) 244-5165 Court Advocate: Monday-Friday, 9-5
(if outside business hours call the hotline for assistance)
The Domestic Violence Program provides safe shelter and assistance to women and their children who are experiencing domestic violence. Free and confidential crisis support, information and referrals are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

that is absolutely rape. Get away when you can this weekend and get support!

This is beyond horrible. Follow all the above advice, and, I would contact police and a good lawyer. You did nothing wrong. We are cheering you on for the best outcome and solution possible.

I live near the DC border. I'm still in shock. We have been seperated for a few months. Part of me felt like it couldn't really be raped because we are still married. But it doesn't feel right to my spirit. I can't sleep, and I keep crying.
He started sodomizing me in my sleep. I cried, and asked for him to stop he wouldn't. He got more rough. Afterwards he just said sorry. I feel so disgusting. I keep showering, and I still smell him. The smell wont go away.

OP this happened to my someone in my family. It was a terrifying period but we all supported her and helped her and she got through it. It's really good that you're not keeping this secret.

OP, do you live in DC or another jurisdiction? If you are not in DC, we can point you to some resources specific to your area.

I am so sorry you are going through this. Please know that there are a lot of kind, compassionate people out there who want to help.

Anonymous wrote:I didn't know about the DC rape crisis center I'll give them a call. I called the Police depts non emergency line to ask about reporting it this weekend. The woman was so nice to me. She told me I wasn't crazy for delaying reporting because I am scared of him and his family. It may sound stupid, but just calling up there and talking to her made me feel empowered.

Yes! You are NOT crazy and you CAN get your power back! Nurture that feeling! My thoughts are with you, OP!

I didn't know about the DC rape crisis center I'll give them a call. I called the Police depts non emergency line to ask about reporting it this weekend. The woman was so nice to me. She told me I wasn't crazy for delaying reporting because I am scared of him and his family. It may sound stupid, but just calling up there and talking to her made me feel empowered.