Anonymous
05/31/2012 07:01
Subject: Evening/Weekend Infant Child Care?
What do you do when your child gets sick? Daycare. - home or center - usually stick to the rule that if your child is sick one day then you need to wait 24 hours before your child can return.
What about doctors appts? If you have a long commute, your childs doctor is near your house, how will that work when you need to take time off?
I agree with a pp - your situation doesn't sound like a good fit for parenthood right now. It doesn't always just work out and you really may need to rethink your job situation to accomodate this next phase of life.
What about doctors appts? If you have a long commute, your childs doctor is near your house, how will that work when you need to take time off?
I agree with a pp - your situation doesn't sound like a good fit for parenthood right now. It doesn't always just work out and you really may need to rethink your job situation to accomodate this next phase of life.
Anonymous
05/30/2012 23:33
Subject: Evening/Weekend Infant Child Care?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Gosh, that's really tough. I really would not be comfortable with my infant being at day care from 6 AM until 7 PM, and I'm not sure any centers actually do those hours. I think you will be best served by a nanny or ideally an au pair. That would solve your weekend/evening problem as well.
Nice passive aggressive. Almost seem like you really care with Gosh. I really would not be comfortable with my infant being at day care from 6 AM until 7 PM,..that part gave your trolliness away.
OP VA law limits daycare to 10 hours a day. Do you both have to work retail?
I would like to see where Va law limits to 10 hours. The county tells us they will pay for a subsidy child up to 10 hours of care but if the family requires longer hours, those are the responsibility of the parents. What about parents who work as a nurse or other profession where they work 12 hour shifts?
look it up. I asked on one of my many tours and i got a wink. like its marijuana possession. It is a rule, perhaps, only enforced for parents that re not liked
I wouldnt say it is a parent not liked in particular, maybe a provider who doesnt want those long hours.
I would have some of my kids from 8am until 10 pm a couple nights a week so mom (single) could go to school. Sometimes I kept them overnight even, because the child had school the following day and it was just easier. Mom was getting subsidy help, and paid me for the night. I gave her a reduced price to help her out and because her daughter was like family to us at that point. As most of my kids have become over the years.
Do you have space now?
Anonymous
05/30/2012 23:32
Subject: Evening/Weekend Infant Child Care?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Gosh, that's really tough. I really would not be comfortable with my infant being at day care from 6 AM until 7 PM, and I'm not sure any centers actually do those hours. I think you will be best served by a nanny or ideally an au pair. That would solve your weekend/evening problem as well.
Nice passive aggressive. Almost seem like you really care with Gosh. I really would not be comfortable with my infant being at day care from 6 AM until 7 PM,..that part gave your trolliness away.
OP VA law limits daycare to 10 hours a day. Do you both have to work retail?
I would like to see where Va law limits to 10 hours. The county tells us they will pay for a subsidy child up to 10 hours of care but if the family requires longer hours, those are the responsibility of the parents. What about parents who work as a nurse or other profession where they work 12 hour shifts?
look it up. I asked on one of my many tours and i got a wink. like its marijuana possession. It is a rule, perhaps, only enforced for parents that re not liked
do you have space now?
I wouldnt say it is a parent not liked in particular, maybe a provider who doesnt want those long hours.
I would have some of my kids from 8am until 10 pm a couple nights a week so mom (single) could go to school. Sometimes I kept them overnight even, because the child had school the following day and it was just easier. Mom was getting subsidy help, and paid me for the night. I gave her a reduced price to help her out and because her daughter was like family to us at that point. As most of my kids have become over the years.
Anonymous
05/30/2012 19:11
Subject: Evening/Weekend Infant Child Care?
My husband and I work crazy schedules like you and your husband, so I totally understand. I would suggest a great day care to cover daytime hours. Daycare has set hours and tends to be open rain, sleet, or snow. You wouldn't have to worry about coverage when an individual provider gets sick or has to take time off. Daycares tend to be less expensive as well. For the evening and weekends, you could go to a site like care.com or sittercity, and post a job. Thats what we did, and were able to find 2 great providers to cover us in the evenings and on the weekends at an affordable hourly rate. Don't be discouraged, it is doable.
Anonymous
05/30/2012 19:01
Subject: Evening/Weekend Infant Child Care?
My husband and I work crazy schedules like you and your husband, so I totally understand. I would suggest a great day care to cover daytime hours. Daycare has set hours and tends to be open rain, sleet, or snow. You wouldn't have to worry about coverage when an individual provider gets sick or has to take time off. Daycares tend to be less expensive as well. For the evening and weekends, you could go to a site like care.com or sittercity, and post a job. Thats what we did, and were able to find 2 great providers to cover us in the evenings and on the weekends at an affordable hourly rate. Don't be discouraged, it is doable.
Anonymous
03/15/2012 23:26
Subject: Re:Evening/Weekend Infant Child Care?
OP, I disagree with the idea that there is no "ideal" time to have a baby. Some times are more ideal than others. A time when both parents face a lot of stress is not a good one.
From what you've described, you and your husband are already on a tight budget. Your work schedules sound pretty stressful and you both sound stretched. if you do it well, parenting takes an enormous amount of energy and can be very stressful in itself. I say this as a mom who worked 70 to 80 hour weeks, had my baby signed up for daycare 6weeks into conception, and who planned to go back to work. After my child's birth, I quickly saw that there was no way I could be a good parent while working the job I had. I quit my job.
i'm not saying you or your husband should quit your jobs. However, you might want to consider if your jobs will enable you to be good parents, i.e. have enough time, emotional, and physical energy to meet your child's needs. If not, you might want to consider other kinds of work and/or co sider postponing parenting until you're in a better place. the thing about parenting is that once you begin, you can't stop at will. If you do it badly, you can scar your child.
From what you've described, you and your husband are already on a tight budget. Your work schedules sound pretty stressful and you both sound stretched. if you do it well, parenting takes an enormous amount of energy and can be very stressful in itself. I say this as a mom who worked 70 to 80 hour weeks, had my baby signed up for daycare 6weeks into conception, and who planned to go back to work. After my child's birth, I quickly saw that there was no way I could be a good parent while working the job I had. I quit my job.
i'm not saying you or your husband should quit your jobs. However, you might want to consider if your jobs will enable you to be good parents, i.e. have enough time, emotional, and physical energy to meet your child's needs. If not, you might want to consider other kinds of work and/or co sider postponing parenting until you're in a better place. the thing about parenting is that once you begin, you can't stop at will. If you do it badly, you can scar your child.
Anonymous
03/15/2012 13:49
Subject: Re:Evening/Weekend Infant Child Care?
I would try an in-home daycare for weekdays because they might be more flexible. Then I'd supplement with a babysitter on the weekends. I use sittercity.com for sitters
Anonymous
03/15/2012 13:26
Subject: Re:Evening/Weekend Infant Child Care?
Anonymous wrote:check out infant-toddler.com (if you live in VA.) some of their providers are flexible. not sure about weekends though.
sorry, it's infanttodller.com (no dash.)
Anonymous
03/15/2012 13:25
Subject: Re:Evening/Weekend Infant Child Care?
check out infant-toddler.com (if you live in VA.) some of their providers are flexible. not sure about weekends though.
Anonymous
03/14/2012 12:41
Subject: Re:Evening/Weekend Infant Child Care?
You.might.try.a.home.day.care.
Depending.on.where.you.live,there.are.some.who.are.open.for.nights.and.weekends.
You.may.also.want.to.factor.in.how.tired.you.will.be.at.the.beginning.
Retail.can.be.exhausting.work,especially.if.your.shift.is.rotating.It.will.be.hard.for.you.to.get.your.rest.if.you.aren't.sleeping.at.regular.times.Babies.generally.don't.start.sleeping.for.4-5hour.stretches.for.several.weeks...if.not.closer.to.4months.
Perhaps.DH.can.work.a.part-time.second.job.for.3-6.months,so.you.won't.have.to.work.as.much.
(Sorry,for.the.weird.syntax.Toddler.got.a.hold.of.the.spacebar.
)
Depending.on.where.you.live,there.are.some.who.are.open.for.nights.and.weekends.
You.may.also.want.to.factor.in.how.tired.you.will.be.at.the.beginning.
Retail.can.be.exhausting.work,especially.if.your.shift.is.rotating.It.will.be.hard.for.you.to.get.your.rest.if.you.aren't.sleeping.at.regular.times.Babies.generally.don't.start.sleeping.for.4-5hour.stretches.for.several.weeks...if.not.closer.to.4months.
Perhaps.DH.can.work.a.part-time.second.job.for.3-6.months,so.you.won't.have.to.work.as.much.
(Sorry,for.the.weird.syntax.Toddler.got.a.hold.of.the.spacebar.
)
Anonymous
03/14/2012 12:00
Subject: Evening/Weekend Infant Child Care?
If a center is open say 6am -6pm you can leave your child there for any time slot during that time. They don't care, but you do have to pay them for the full 5 days/week.
VA does not have any 10 hour limit law. OUr daycre was open 11 hours a day (7-6pm). They didn't recommend leaving your child there that long as that is a long day for the child, but if you had to you could.
Weekends are tougher. You'd have to hire a sitter and in this area they aren't cheap. at least $12-15/hr
Do you both work the same hour? Could you alternate weekends so one person is home with the baby?
VA does not have any 10 hour limit law. OUr daycre was open 11 hours a day (7-6pm). They didn't recommend leaving your child there that long as that is a long day for the child, but if you had to you could.
Weekends are tougher. You'd have to hire a sitter and in this area they aren't cheap. at least $12-15/hr
Do you both work the same hour? Could you alternate weekends so one person is home with the baby?
Anonymous
03/14/2012 10:55
Subject: Evening/Weekend Infant Child Care?
OP, you mention that your and your DH are managers. Do you work for a large department store? I would suggest talking to other managers at your store that are parents and find out how they make it work. Heck, maybe you could even find a family willing to do a nanny share with you! Lean on people who have a similar lifestyle to yours, because many on DCUM do not get it.
Your colleagues will have tips about how they have managed. Good luck!
Your colleagues will have tips about how they have managed. Good luck!
Anonymous
03/14/2012 10:38
Subject: Re:Evening/Weekend Infant Child Care?
If you live or work near a hospital, perhaps it would be worthwhile to call and ask about a center there. They may be more likely to be open 24 hours and on weekends to accomodate the hospital staff's hours and also be able to handle the fact that your schedules change from time to time. Medical residents' schedules usually don't come out until a week or so in advance for the following month and may involve switching from dayshift to nightshift even within the same month, so a hospital daycare center may be able to flex with you. You could also call the residency program offices (you will need to specify which residency program -- the Emergency Medicine residency program would be one option, since they have swinging shifts) or the main nursing office at a hospital close by and give your contact information and request that if any medical residents or nurses have children in care that you would appreciate talking with them to get a sense of what's available in the area. Hopefully, someone would call you back, although I obviously wouldn't hold up your search waiting on this.
Anonymous
03/14/2012 10:19
Subject: Evening/Weekend Infant Child Care?
A nanny would be best in this situation. It would be less stressful and they will be able to work with you better in terms of work hors et. and your child will be the only one they would care for. And when the day is windding down i'm sure a center or home wants to get off at a certain time so they can have time for themselves with out ANY kids.
MCJD1010
03/14/2012 00:45
Subject: Evening/Weekend Infant Child Care?
Anonymous wrote:PS if you can post your email address, i would be more than happy to give you info
I'd prefer not to post my email but I created an account so you can private message me.