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Anonymous wrote:Agree with OP that fishing for three gifts is just tacky. I would also RSVP no.

So, you would punish the new mom and her baby for the "tackiness" of the hostess?

I've only been to a few showers, but the mom-to-be was heavily involved in each. One PP did say that her friend who was hosting did something like this without asking, but at the ones I've been to, the moms were consulted. And one was very like this. I too found it obnoxious. Not so much the expense as the request for three separate items. It's a pain in the ass. And I was close to the friend so I felt I had to do it. I think I wound up skipping the book, actually, as all the ones I could think of were for a much older child (I don't have kids yet). Of course, I dislike showers in general, so perhaps it's me.

Is a wishing well a registry? If not, how is it different?

Anonymous wrote:Agree with OP that fishing for three gifts is just tacky. I would also RSVP no.

So, you would punish the new mom and her baby for the "tackiness" of the hostess?

Anonymous wrote:So the hostess will be bombarded with "Where is she registered?" if that info is not included with the invite. It isn't tacky. It is practical.

Anyone who can't go online for five minutes and search for registries at BRU, Target, and Amazon without being told to do so is a moron.

Agree with OP that fishing for three gifts is just tacky. I would also RSVP no.

I am a pretty big stickler for etiquette, and including registry info on a shower invite is not in bad taste. Shower invitations are the only place where it is acceptable to list a registry. The entire purpose of any type of shower is to give gifts. If you don't understand that, I am not sure what you think they are for. If you don't like it, RSVP no.

Surely I'm not the only person who received multiple non returnable board books. Regift one of those. Throw in a bottle of gas meds for the wishing well.

Get a reasonable gift either from the registry or not and be done.

So the hostess will be bombarded with "Where is she registered?" if that info is not included with the invite. It isn't tacky. It is practical.

Anonymous wrote:My friends had a shower for me and wrote on the invite where I was registered. They also asked everyone to bring their favorite childhood book to start a book collection for my child. It isn't tacky. Don't do it if you don't want to.

Sorry, but requesting specific presents IS tacky, and making it a request for a second present compounds the tackiness.

I'm with you OP. It's tacky!!!

Anonymous wrote:Including registry information IS tacky, as is asking for three presents. Yes, the purpose of a shower is to shower the recipient with gifts. If a guest doesn't know what to buy, s/he can ask the host or hostess where the parents are registered. Or just check and see if the person is registered at BRU or Target.

Those of you who registered: Were you registered someplace obscure? Or could anyone have looked it up on the Internet in a minute or two?

No, it's not. Not for a shower.

OP, if I got this invite I would be annoyed.

The invite basically asks for 3 separate gifts. I think that's just rude.

Although I do usually get a few other little items besides what's on the registry, I would prefer to do it on my own accord. It's rude to make all these requests on an invitation.

Including registry information IS tacky, as is asking for three presents. Yes, the purpose of a shower is to shower the recipient with gifts. If a guest doesn't know what to buy, s/he can ask the host or hostess where the parents are registered. Or just check and see if the person is registered at BRU or Target.

Those of you who registered: Were you registered someplace obscure? Or could anyone have looked it up on the Internet in a minute or two?

My friends had a shower for me and wrote on the invite where I was registered. They also asked everyone to bring their favorite childhood book to start a book collection for my child. It isn't tacky. Don't do it if you don't want to.

Good Golly
U can go to the Dollar Tree and get board books.