Anonymous wrote:It is different when its your sister or brothers kids vs. Your BIL/SILs kids.

Yes, my feelings for BILs kids are dictated by my relationship with my BIL/SIL. More tolerant of sister's kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Another thought is how is her relationship with other members of your family? If it is distant or strained, she probably will not be very interested in developing a close relationship.

Quite the opposite. She's always tagging my mom on her posts and vice-versa exchanging recipes, pictures, etc. She's a nice girl and my brother treats her well. I need ideas to grow closer to her without being pushy.

You seem to have done all of the right things. It may really just be an unequal expectations issue. I think trying too hard to be friends is a turn off for many people, maybe try falling back some to see if she will contact you.