Well, I'm a hugger raised in a family of wavers, so it's taken me a while, but my hugger side is definitely asserting itself. Maybe it's more a touch thing? I definitely touch people - on the arms, on the back - when I'm talking or sitting next to them, and I do it without thinking much how about how he/she would react. But, perhaps because I was surrounded by them growing up, I can spot a waver a mile away and would NEVER try to hug one. Makes me blush just thinking about it You huggers are safe with me!

NO -- I don't usually hug people unless I know them very well. I think the European way of greeting people with air kisses..that works much better for me.

No but I love huggers! I am otherwise very gregarious and social, but spontaneously hugging people who are not DH and DH just doesn't come naturally to me. I always feel stiff and awkward when I attempt it.

occasional half-ass hugger. I work in international affairs and in some cultures hugs/kisses are appropriate greetings. I accomodate by doing the one-arm, half-assed hug or half-assed cheek-to-cheek kiss.

I'm a hugger - but never at the office or in professional settings. But I have a question for those non-huggers or limiting-huggers who only hug close friends/family. How do you handle a situation like having a dinner party or get together with people that aren't your close friends, but that you get together with occassionally? To me it seems a handshake or head-nod is very cold and business-like. I quick lean in with shoulder-touch seems appropriately friendly without being too intimate? I always lean in for a quick hug/shoulder-touch when evening is ending and we're parting. to me, it's a nice balance. What do you non-huggers do in this situation?

Anonymous wrote:I hope the two of you don't work at my office.

Don't worry, we only hug nice people.

Anonymous wrote:No. Don't fucking touch me. Go spread your happiness someplace else thanks.

Sounds like someone needs a hug! C'mere, little fella. Let Momma give you some sugar.

I hope the two of you don't work at my office.

Anonymous wrote:Love a god hug! But I'm aware of the time, place, and person rules. No strangers, colleagues only if they're friends too and only if we haven't seen each other in a while.

I'm part of a pretty touchy crowd in general. Lots of hugging, cheek kissing, standing with arms around each other. I think this goes with tucking in the tags on people's shirts. Some people HATE that. Oh, and I also sit on my husband's lap. Seems like a lot of DCUMs would hate me.

I like you. I'm the same way.

Love a god hug! But I'm aware of the time, place, and person rules. No strangers, colleagues only if they're friends too and only if we haven't seen each other in a while.

I'm part of a pretty touchy crowd in general. Lots of hugging, cheek kissing, standing with arms around each other. I think this goes with tucking in the tags on people's shirts. Some people HATE that. Oh, and I also sit on my husband's lap. Seems like a lot of DCUMs would hate me.

Not a hugger, and right, "many huggers don't look for social clues". I wish they would be more aware, but they are just so happy with themselves I don't think it is possible.

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Anonymous wrote:Are those don't hug me folks who send out don't hug me vibes petite? I think sometimes people like to give a nice huge to smaller sized people and maybe wouldn't do that with much bigger people.

Why would you hug someone based on their size? I'm a freakin adult, at work doing my job. Does it matter that I am 5'2''?

I'd like to hear from people who are "huggers". Why would you hug a coworker or other acquaintence?

Bigger people seem more intimidating?

Anonymous wrote:Are those don't hug me folks who send out don't hug me vibes petite? I think sometimes people like to give a nice huge to smaller sized people and maybe wouldn't do that with much bigger people.

Why would you hug someone based on their size? I'm a freakin adult, at work doing my job. Does it matter that I am 5'2''?

I'd like to hear from people who are "huggers". Why would you hug a coworker or other acquaintence?

I'm going to hug you unless you recoil very quickly. I may even give you a peck on the cheek if you're not spry enough.

Are those don't hug me folks who send out don't hug me vibes petite? I think sometimes people like to give a nice huge to smaller sized people and maybe wouldn't do that with much bigger people.