Anonymous wrote:If it isn't my child, I wouldn't have changed a dirty diaper either.

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Anonymous wrote:
As for the comments, my shrink says that 99% of the time when people criticize they are actually projecting what they feel about themselves. So, when she tells you that you are a bad mother, what she really means is that she thinks she is a bad mother. The way I handle it with my mother is to change the subject by complimenting her. It works like a charm. Literally act like she has said nothing horrible at all and then ask her for her wonderful chicken recipe or whatever. She'll be flattered and the subject will change and she will start to think you are great because who doesn't love people who compliment them?

Wow, you are definitely a better person than me. There is NO WAY I could do that. But, I do give you credit for being the bigger person!

Anonymous wrote:If it isn't my child, I wouldn't have changed a dirty diaper either.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
As for the comments, my shrink says that 99% of the time when people criticize they are actually projecting what they feel about themselves. So, when she tells you that you are a bad mother, what she really means is that she thinks she is a bad mother. The way I handle it with my mother is to change the subject by complimenting her. It works like a charm. Literally act like she has said nothing horrible at all and then ask her for her wonderful chicken recipe or whatever. She'll be flattered and the subject will change and she will start to think you are great because who doesn't love people who compliment them?

Wow, you are definitely a better person than me. There is NO WAY I could do that. But, I do give you credit for being the bigger person!

Anonymous wrote:
As for the comments, my shrink says that 99% of the time when people criticize they are actually projecting what they feel about themselves. So, when she tells you that you are a bad mother, what she really means is that she thinks she is a bad mother. The way I handle it with my mother is to change the subject by complimenting her. It works like a charm. Literally act like she has said nothing horrible at all and then ask her for her wonderful chicken recipe or whatever. She'll be flattered and the subject will change and she will start to think you are great because who doesn't love people who compliment them?

Anonymous wrote:Kinda sounds likes you enable her too. Going out to buy fresh muffins? Allowing her to abuse you re the sinus prescription? Just say no. Don't offer. Let your DH cater to them if he likes but don't get involved ourself. She's clearly mentally ill. The only thing you can change is your own behavior.

Anonymous wrote:i FEEL YOUR PAIN!!!
1.) As others have said, your husband needs to step up to the plate. Enough of this suck it up crap. Your husband endorses her ways by keeping silent. He needs to make it clear what respectful behavior is needed. He also should be the one getting the friggin muffins!

Onto ways to be passive aggressive with in-laws if you are not allowed to assert yourself and your husband won't do his part..

*Be a lousy cook

*Train the child in diapers to say "I only want grammy to change my poopy diapers."

*Get some mice from a pet store or wherever people buy mice these days and set them loose in the house. Alternativey, non harmful spiders or roaches would do.

*During dinner nonchalantly bring up that your neighborhood is being studies because of the high incidence of lyme disease and west nile virus.

*Mention that the kids have poop worms and lice again and no matter how much you sanitize EVERYONE get these critters.

*Feed the kids lots of beans and high fiber and high sulfur food snd let the smelly farting begin...

*Give your dog whatever dogfood makes him/her have the worst smelling farts and tell them Fido insists on sleeping with guests.

Anonymous wrote:i FEEL YOUR PAIN!!!
1.) As others have said, your husband needs to step up to the plate. Enough of this suck it up crap. Your husband endorses her ways by keeping silent. He needs to make it clear what respectful behavior is needed. He also should be the one getting the friggin muffins!

Onto ways to be passive aggressive with in-laws if you are not allowed to assert yourself and your husband won't do his part..

*Be a lousy cook

*Train the child in diapers to say "I only want grammy to change my poopy diapers."

*Get some mice from a pet store or wherever people buy mice these days and set them loose in the house. Alternativey, non harmful spiders or roaches would do.

*During dinner nonchalantly bring up that your neighborhood is being studies because of the high incidence of lyme disease and west nile virus.

If you want to sink to your MIL's level, these are some excellent suggestions for heading in that direction . . .

*Mention that the kids have poop worms and lice again and no matter how much you sanitize EVERYONE get these critters.

*Feed the kids lots of beans and high fiber and high sulfur food snd let the smelly farting begin...

*Give your dog whatever dogfood makes him/her have the worst smelling farts and tell them Fido insists on sleeping with guests.