I can kind of relate. I'm a single mom and last year, my ex got deployed for 4 months. I actually kind of didn't mind most of the time. We got into a nice routine, and his parents came into town for a weekend every few weeks so I did get some breaks. They were much better at planning ahead than he generally is.

That said, I'm better off with him in town. There were a couple of times that I just about lost it after 20 days/nights straight with my daughter. And that was BEFORE she hit the terrible three's she's in now.

Anonymous wrote:Mine travels a lot and it's awesome!! Sure I miss him but it's so easy to love him and miss him when the daily annoyances don't exist because he's not here! I think his frequent travel for work has made the time we actually spend together at home 50% happier. I get to look forward to him coming home from a trip rather than dreading the moment he walks in the door like some women do. Sometimes it is really inconvenient, and too much travel in a short time period is hard, but overall, I think it's a huge boon to our marriage.

Do you have kids??

I am with you. I feel like I need more time alone than other people do. My husband traveled a lot last year. It was perfect when he was gone 4-5 days during the week. It made the routine with kids go easier, house stayed cleaner, etc. I do prefer that he's home on the weekends though. We were also better about really taking time to enjoy each other when he was home.

OP, I could have written your post. It's all true and I LOVE my husband he is awesome! I SAH.

The house stays clean and for some reason I feel like I have a ton of time to myself. I watch whatever I want on TV. I don't bother cooking or can make what I want not what he wants (always heavy, hearty, loads of meat...ugh)
I am always so much more productive, too.

My husband travels frequently. I like it for the first day or two because there is no giant snoring body in my bed, keeping me awake.

But then it gets old, and because I work and do daycare, the great "schlep" starts to wear on me....and I start to really miss having him there in the AM to do the drop off. Plus, after a few days, the toddler gets extra cranky from being in daycare for extra long and generally being off our routine.

Oh, and then there is the anxiety of being home alone with only the baby. I suddenly start to freak out about every noise and when the friggin security lights go on in the yard due to cats or squirrels or whatever, I freak and decide the home invasion is upon us.

Anonymous wrote:I lose weight when he's gone! And I write more. And I watch whatever I want to on tv. I can play NPR on the radio as often and as loud as I want. I miss him a lot but at the same time I enjoy the space.

Did I write this in my sleep? When my DH is away, things go much more smoothly and as one SAHM said, I don't mind cleaning up as much because I don't have the expectation of help as I know I am alone. When DH is around and not doing his share, I get resentful but if he isn't here to begin with - there is no one to get angry with. FWIW I WOH.

No way! I hate when DH goes out of town. Life is so much easier with him here. And, he's pretty good about cleaning (better than me) so I think the place is cleaner with him here!

Absolutely! My husband gets much too stressed about everything and likes to micromanage our home. I would love for him to travel more. I am a wohm and care for the kids after work most days anyway.