Anonymous wrote:me too - I just get my husband to give me an orgasm with his hand and then the short sex doesn't bother me. Sometimes I even cum again if it's the right position (and I touch myself)... and he doesn't cum in 30 seconds. Not kidding. Sigh.

The last guy I dated before my husband was wild in bed. A poet, soccer player, really sensual. Bad for a whole host of other reasons, but damn it was hot sex. I was so aghast with my husband that I had to deal with this too. And I just simply told him I needed more foreplay and talked about what I liked. He was more than eager to try and meet my expectations.

Get a bottle of wine and tell him you want more touching first. That you need foreplay and that when you're ready, you'll guide him in (or tell him it's time) so not to try before that. It will become a comfortable routine.