Anonymous wrote:I suspect the honor roll kids are super self starter kids--and their parents are heavily involved in their homework, despite their protestations here and elsewhere. It is very fashionable to say, "oh I don't care how or what my kid's homework is" at the JKLM schools, I've noticed. Since pre-k, everyone acts very detached but the reality is they are constantly pushing the kids. It's insane. The demands on family time are just increasing--6 hours school day+1 hour study hall +2 hours of homework= barely enough time to sleep, dress, eat and poop. Forget hanging out in a non stressful way with your parents or friends.
Anonymous wrote:OP - Re: the organization club - I asked my daughter and your child can get help with organization during ZAP time which happens at lunch. I believe its offered for all of the teams. I would also check in with the guidance counselors for more support around organization and they should be able to give some helpful tips. Also how are your child's friends handling the assignments?
And just to set the record straight 2-3 hours of home work per night is not the norm at Deal and kids are not teaching themselves. I think the expectation is that the child is managing all of their work and is proactive about getting help. Also don't forget that your child can retake tests! Those usually make up a big percentage of the grade. When my daughter is unhappy with a grade on a test - she schedules time to retake it. She also takes advantage of any extra credit assignments to keep her grades up. In one of the weekly Deal Bulletins they included an article about the importance of allowing kids to re-do tests and assignments.
HTH
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Are there guidelines about how much homework per night? If so, just follow them and be done with it.
Elementary school is over dear. Grades do matter in middle school and just because you want your little snowflake to have copious amounts of free time doesn't mean it is advisable to skip required homework.
Anonymous wrote:OP - Re: the organization club - I asked my daughter and your child can get help with organization during ZAP time which happens at lunch. I believe its offered for all of the teams. I would also check in with the guidance counselors for more support around organization and they should be able to give some helpful tips. Also how are your child's friends handling the assignments?
And just to set the record straight 2-3 hours of home work per night is not the norm at Deal and kids are not teaching themselves. I think the expectation is that the child is managing all of their work and is proactive about getting help. Also don't forget that your child can retake tests! Those usually make up a big percentage of the grade. When my daughter is unhappy with a grade on a test - she schedules time to retake it. She also takes advantage of any extra credit assignments to keep her grades up. In one of the weekly Deal Bulletins they included an article about the importance of allowing kids to re-do tests and assignments.
HTH
Anonymous wrote:Pp and yes I have three children. And yes, I would let them fail. It's their education and character being shaped, not mine. I am not saying to ignore the child completely, but some drastic pulling back seems in order to let kid know that this is a kid problem, not a parent problem. I would make a bet that there isn't 2-3 hours of homework assigned, but that the kid is dragging feet and being difficult because of some sort of psych drama/power play with mom.
I know that is a lot to discern from a short anonymous posting, so the OP can totally ignore it if it doesn't fit. But if something about it rings true, she should back way off and let kid take on the work and the consequences.