Anonymous wrote:Your diet is your diet. Don't blame stuff on him, even if he isn't being supportive. His "support" isn't going to get you to lose weight: your resolve is. So just resolve and do it.

Agreed. Just because you decide to go on a diet, doesn't mean he has to. I would just ask him nicely if he can try to keep most of the crap at work, or hidden out of sight, but I wouldn't get too mad at him.

Anonymous wrote:Fish and veggies as a sole diet aren't real food and get almighty boring almighty fast

That is a very ignorant remark. Vegan cookbooks and websites are full of delicious, healthy, filling, low-cal recipes. If someone is bored with vegetables, it's because you haven't learned how to prepare them easily in endless variety.

I have the same problem of a DH who brings junk food into the house. It is very hard to exert my willpower when the junk food is right there. One thing that helps is to keep on hand a container of raw veggies (such as baby carrots, celery, cucumber, zucchini, beets, daikon radish) and healthy dips (such as hummus made without olive oil, guacamole, baba ghanoush) and then snack on those - with just a bit of spread on the end of each veggie to perk it up - when you get hit with a craving for the junk food.

It also helps to include healthy whole grains and legumes in each meal, but lay off the pasta.

Fish and veggies as a sole diet aren't real food and get almighty boring almighty fast

Anonymous wrote:I can't tell if he's trying to sabotage your diet, or if he's just not digging the diet food. If it's the food, you might sit down with him and go over a menu for the week, picking out meals both of you like. Check out Cooking Light magazine for some ideas on 300-400 calorie meals. Also, remember you can eat pretty much anything you want, so long as you portion it out and keep your meal less than 500 calories (depending on how much you want to lose) -- that way, he can't eat however much steak he wants, but you could eat about 3-4 oz. and still be satisfied.

can eat, not can't

I can't tell if he's trying to sabotage your diet, or if he's just not digging the diet food. If it's the food, you might sit down with him and go over a menu for the week, picking out meals both of you like. Check out Cooking Light magazine for some ideas on 300-400 calorie meals. Also, remember you can eat pretty much anything you want, so long as you portion it out and keep your meal less than 500 calories (depending on how much you want to lose) -- that way, he can't eat however much steak he wants, but you could eat about 3-4 oz. and still be satisfied.

Anonymous wrote:Poor guy. Pasta is bad for you and fish and veggies sound pretty pitiful. How about eating real food? Check out nom nom paleo?

You need real food and real fat to lose weight and be healthy, not a bunch of processed carbs.

If you imposed fish and veggies on me and threw out my fav munchies I'd do the same thing.

Fish and vegetables are real food. What are you talking about?

OP, maybe you didn't notice before that you had all of this bad stuff in the house because you were buying it yourself. Since you decided to stop buying it, maybe he did instead. Anyways, you are both grown ups and you can eat and bring whatever you want into the house. Ultimately, it's up to you to lose the weight. Join Weight Watchers. It exists so you have someone to support you outside of the house (and if you work, that is where you spend most of your waking hours anyways).

Poor guy. Pasta is bad for you and fish and veggies sound pretty pitiful. How about eating real food? Check out nom nom paleo?

You need real food and real fat to lose weight and be healthy, not a bunch of processed carbs.

If you imposed fish and veggies on me and threw out my fav munchies I'd do the same thing.

OP - sorry if I missed this, but could your DH stand to lose some weigh too?

I called my DH up last week and we both agreed that we needed to eat healthier options. Low calorie, but still good. So I did a bunch of research and found recipes that were low-cal but still yummy. Like a lean ground beef chili. If you mind your portions, you can eat pretty much anything (tracking your overall calories of course).

Perhaps your husband is irritated b/c it seems like you universally imposed eating conditions on him (e.g., you'd normally go grocery shopping and buy foods that he likes as well, and have stopped doing so) without any input from him?

Maybe instead try my approach (not saying it is better, just different) and get his input into things and try to find recipies that are healthy and low cal, but ones he likes as well. You can still eat steak - just buy lean cuts of meat and prepare them with no added fat. Make the portions smaller for you and add more veggies.

Good luck to you.

OP - ignore the bitchy useless comments telling you to use more self-control. Your DH sounds like a jerk, if he doesn't typically buy the stuff you listed.
He should be more supportive of your efforts. Except for meat and produce, I would throw it out!

Anonymous wrote:He's an unsupportive self-absorbed jerk because you have no self-control?

By the way, pasta is probably more fattening than the lean steak--and guac is good for you. Just eat less.

Exactly, just dont eat what he buys. I could understand your anger if you took you out for dinner at a burger joint!

Anonymous wrote:(Obese) DH here.

If the guy hasn't brought junk food before, this is pretty odd and I don't think the OP deserves the flaming she's getting.

Agree. OP, if he doesn't normally buy that type of food, at best he is totally freakin' clueless, or at worst, he is a passive aggressive ass. I would try to talk to him about it if you can.

While it is true that it is ultimately up to you, it sure makes it a heck of a lot easier if your loved ones support you. If you can't get the support from home and are interested, I would recommend taking a look at Weight Watchers. You can go to meetings and/or join online. They have message boards (like DCUM, but nice ) where you can get tips support.

Best of luck OP.

(Obese) DH here.

If the guy hasn't brought junk food before, this is pretty odd and I don't think the OP deserves the flaming she's getting.

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You can join him and lose weight too. Pasta's going to hurt your weight-loss efforts, and you need to eat actual healthy fats too (guac is great).

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