20:06-This.

Problem being, some people are just really bad with money given any time or any place. And yes, putting money toward a wedding 20plus years away is the definition of bad with money. Ask any worthwhile financial planner.

That and the only one or two people I know like this will do anything for their DD to have a lavish wedding. It is extremely telling in itself! I am betting here and now that day will be all about the mother of the bride. Talk about a nightmare about what is to be if it is to your a son! Yikes!

Anonymous wrote:I'll give her money for a house, not a wedding!

+1. Give it as a gift to her before marriage. That way she can take out the proportional equity if she later gets divorced rather than 50/50.

I'm hoping the crazy, waste of money, equivalent to a coronation, wedding trend ends by the time my DDs are old enough to marry.

I'll give her money for a house, not a wedding!

If I have the money, I probably will as a gift but she will definitely know not to expect it. The problem arises when kids feel like they are entitled to it.

I'd like to contribute to our kids wedding, but not a crazy amount. Right now we just have a daughter, but I'd give equal amounts to both if we end up having a second child who is a boy. My parents gave me a lump sum, which ended up being about half of our total costs. DH and I paid the rest. I think the wedding industry is insane and I hope our kids will grow up with similar financial views!

Absolulely not.

My parents did not pay for my wedding. I was in my 30's when I married and making as much money as my dad and can't imagine having asked.

I hope in today's age parents of sons might think of helping out as well.

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Anonymous wrote:Personally, I think big weddings are a total waste of money. I will give my daughter (and son) a substantial down payment on a house, but will not throw away money on wedding reception.

Same here. I would/will contribute money towards property, but not for a party.

I also agree with this. My wedding was at the courthouse, and my parents did pay for lunch after (I think there were 8 guests), at a total of about $400. I would happily do the same for either of my kids. But throwing a lavish, 10's of thousands of dollars party...no way. The marriage is what's important, not the wedding. And my parents also gave us money towards a downpayment for our home. I am much more grateful for that than I would have been for the same amount of money wasted on one night.

Anonymous wrote:Personally, I think big weddings are a total waste of money. I will give my daughter (and son) a substantial down payment on a house, but will not throw away money on wedding reception.

Same here. I would/will contribute money towards property, but not for a party.

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Anonymous wrote:She states she is going to be a princess. So I am counting on the prince and royal fam to pick up the tab.

Good luck to your daughter! Prince Harry is still available.

DD is 3. I think Harry likes the cougars like his Dad anyway.

It never even occurred to me to save for this.

I think that I would be inclined to give my child a lump sum as a wedding gift, to be used for a party if they wish, or for some more responsible purpose. Under no circumstances, including winning the Power Ball or finding a sunken spanish galleon with all its gold intact, will I foot the bill for a lavish capital-W Wedding.

No. Single mom more worried about college than weddings.

I'd pay for pre-marital counseling and then quietly save for any possible future divorce

I'll give whatever seems reasonable at the time. That is what my parents did and I was thankful they were in a position to give anything but certainly didn't expect it. Of course, I would have eloped, but my parents viewed it as an opportunity to get everyone together before grandparents started dying off, so I figured what the hell.