Anonymous wrote:If my DH ever left, he would wind up in a rundown apartment with laundry all over the place and a sink full of dirty dishes. He would be miserable not seeing the kids all the time and be so pathetic that few women would want him. He knows this so I don't think he is leaving.

While it sounds horrible, that is my ex. But he hit me, so it's karma.

If my DW left me, I would first of all fall on my knees and praise Jesus for answering my prayers. She is such a miserable human being. I sometimes feel the best part of my day comes between my waking up and her waking up! After that, it is all down hill. The miserable wench has over the years cut me off from most of my friends and family, belittled my career and made my financial life chaotic. I would love to divorce the ****, but cannot afford a lawyer and don't want to pay her any spousal support. I wish sometimes, she would just up and die!

Now, once I got off my knees, my next move would be to take care of my kids (I do that now anyway). Well, maybe I would change the locks to make sure she cannot come back. And then I will never.ever.get.married.again!

Anonymous wrote:My wife and I have talked about splitting up so this topic is close to me. We have been together for over 20 years and see the world differently. The things we like to do, how we resolve conflict, and handle raising kids are way more apart than when we first met.

Long story short, if she threw in the towel for any of the OP's reasons it would be extremely difficult for me emotionally but financially things would be OK. I have no interest in cheating her out of assets. We still love each other but every day is a struggle. And I would not even think about dating. Might do some group therapy and on a casual basis start getting involved in some activities so I don't become isolated, which is easy for men to do because usually we don't have the support systems that women have.

This made me feel really sad for you. I hope you can either work through it with your wife or separate after the kids are gone b/c life is hard enough without the support of your spouse. My sense of security and wellness comes from knowing my husband is my life-partner who unconditionally loves me. I know he feels that same comfort and trust with me. You deserve this too, and if you can't find it with your wife I hope you can find it elsewhere.

DH here... My first concern would be for my kids and making sure that they recover as fast and smoothy as possible. I would not go out and buy things or do things like I was a bachelor again because that would negatively impact the kids. I would try to get back into running consitantly again. I would try to meet and date eventually but I am not sure how fast I would want to get remarried.

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Anonymous wrote:Chances are we loved you and we'll miss you. Maybe even shed a private tear or two. But the bottom line is we spend so much time getting used to having shit we love taken away by our wives that when it turns out it's them that ends up gone we do what we always do in these situations. Jack off, get piss drunk, break some shit, sleep it off, then move on.

What is this supposed to mean?

I think he means that all his hobbies, things he liked to do with his friends, are put in the past by wives (e.g. you can't play softball, watch football, etc.)

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Anonymous wrote:My husband would move in with his parents and be much happier. They don't expect anything of him, and still spoil him like a child.

Ha ha ha.

Probably true of many men. Just need to be in the basement so he can have his own space to do *his thing* and pretend the parents live with him.

Too funny. Too true.

Anonymous wrote:Chances are we loved you and we'll miss you. Maybe even shed a private tear or two. But the bottom line is we spend so much time getting used to having shit we love taken away by our wives that when it turns out it's them that ends up gone we do what we always do in these situations. Jack off, get piss drunk, break some shit, sleep it off, then move on.

What is this supposed to mean?

I would be very nervous about getting involved with a woman and letting her know me. Never liked casual sex so what I do is concentrate on the kids and job, work out, and sooner or later meet a woman who is in the same situation as the first sentence.

The benefit for this woman is that I would be so pent up sexually that I would have the horniness of a HS guy.

Anonymous wrote:I'm in my early 40s and would look for a woman ten years older who is totally horny because she was previously in an unhappy marriage and is looking to do all sorts of things.

I'm not 10 years older - but CALL ME!

If my DH left me i would prob have a blast dating, flirting, fucking my brains out with men
The trouble would start when I got close to the men and vulnerable and then disappointed when they weren't enough or didn't think i was.
My ego would be pretty fragile after DH walked out. I would get off on my sexual power (I am pretty cute and fit) i have over other men but would ultimately feel empty.

I like being with my wife, but assuming that she left me, I would call two girls who are single, good looking, and interested in companionship, and I would invite them over. I'd hang out with them for a weekend and see if it was worth hanging out with them longer. Yes- I already know these girls. They already know me. If neither worked out, I would not know what to do as I have built a social life around my DW, and she around me. I don't think there's any risk of her leaving nor of me leaving her because we are more than just married- we are best friends. We have built a friendship that involves a lot of sex, and that seems to work for us.

Anonymous wrote:In terms of companionship, the most likely way I would meet a woman is though a friend, at work, or an activity like a cultural event. For me to want to spend time with her, it would have to be someone who is incredibly open and honest. And finally, I would never get married again. Once is enough under these circumstances. I would want a person who is also in her 40s and wants a companion - someone to do things with, ask how the day went, and care about her but not interested in a trip down the aisle or living with a man.

Op, I am 41 and you sound like just the man that I would want if I ever leave my husband. Good to know that people like you are out there.

Anonymous wrote:I also think it is telling that the man's scenarios are all about them doing whatever they need to do to survive the emotional crisis (like sports cars, getting drunk etc.) I haven't read the wives' thread, but if my husband ever left me, my first, second and third thought would be about doing what needs to be done for my kids by myself. I don't think I would even have time to have a crisis a la sports car...

The OP didn't sound like that at all and the women on the other thread talked about going out and having sex with other men so the responses run the gamut.

I also think it is telling that the man's scenarios are all about them doing whatever they need to do to survive the emotional crisis (like sports cars, getting drunk etc.) I haven't read the wives' thread, but if my husband ever left me, my first, second and third thought would be about doing what needs to be done for my kids by myself. I don't think I would even have time to have a crisis a la sports car...

If my DH ever left, he would wind up in a rundown apartment with laundry all over the place and a sink full of dirty dishes. He would be miserable not seeing the kids all the time and be so pathetic that few women would want him. He knows this so I don't think he is leaving.