Anonymous
Post 11/10/2011 20:50     Subject: Is the Penn State story making anyone else feel horrible?

I am extremely sickened by this entire story. As a mom, I want to lock my kids in a room and never let them out. As a victim of rape myself, I feel for the boys who are victims of not only Sandusky, but also of everyone who knew and did not stop it with the appropriate authorities.
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2011 20:45     Subject: Is the Penn State story making anyone else feel horrible?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:YES. after reading the grand jury report i feel like *i* saw it.

i already have very little trust in unrelated men around my child. this does not help.


I don't want to make you feel worse, but please learn about the alarming statistic: the great majority of molesters are known to their victims.

And, sadly, many are family members.
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2011 20:45     Subject: Re:Is the Penn State story making anyone else feel horrible?

Yes, OP, I also feel sickened. But I feel slightly better reading that a lot of feel like I do, and that most of us are sickened by it.

Yes, Sandusky will probably get violently raped in jail, but the truth is that it will be nowhere near as destructive as abuse is for children.
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2011 20:44     Subject: Is the Penn State story making anyone else feel horrible?

Anonymous wrote:YES. after reading the grand jury report i feel like *i* saw it.

i already have very little trust in unrelated men around my child. this does not help.


I don't want to make you feel worse, but please learn about the alarming statistic: the great majority of molesters are known to their victims.
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2011 20:35     Subject: Re:Is the Penn State story making anyone else feel horrible?

I was outraged and disgusted by *ss rape pre-kids. That scene in Prince of Tides made me vomit. I know as a college student I would have been disgusted by the whole thing and not put there protesting unless it was AGAINST the ppl that did nothing.

Now that I have two young handsome boys of my own I know that I would commit homicide if someone did something like that to them. If I were on a jury I would let the parent off that t ook revenge on a pedophile.
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2011 19:36     Subject: Is the Penn State story making anyone else feel horrible?

Anonymous wrote:
I feel seriously outraged by the entire story, but more so, by the fact that McQuery is supposed to be at the game Saturday. WTF? Why is this guy still not fired?

I heard McQuery might be an earlier victim of Sandusky. The time line works.


The timeline works how? Was McQuery part of his foundation as a child? I don't understand.
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2011 19:06     Subject: Is the Penn State story making anyone else feel horrible?

This is a tragedy for all involved. If you really think about it, it's unspeakable. I was brought to tears watching the news this morning.
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2011 17:03     Subject: Is the Penn State story making anyone else feel horrible?

Anonymous wrote:
I feel seriously outraged by the entire story, but more so, by the fact that McQuery is supposed to be at the game Saturday. WTF? Why is this guy still not fired?

I heard McQuery might be an earlier victim of Sandusky. The time line works.


Shi, it.
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2011 17:03     Subject: Is the Penn State story making anyone else feel horrible?

Anonymous wrote:This was from a Washington Post chat this morning and it made me cry, "Until I read your article: "According to the testimony from the graduate assistant who caught them, Sandusky and the boy saw him. If true, the boy must have been thinking, "Finally, maybe this will stop. Maybe someone will help me." But no one did. "


Huh, just realized this happened to me when I was a kid. An authority figure found out. I was so happy for a few days b-c I believed the abuse would stop. I'll never forget that. All the authority figure did was tell the abuser to stop. He didn't stop. Funny, I didn't see the connection until now.
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2011 16:58     Subject: Is the Penn State story making anyone else feel horrible?


I feel seriously outraged by the entire story, but more so, by the fact that McQuery is supposed to be at the game Saturday. WTF? Why is this guy still not fired?

I heard McQuery might be an earlier victim of Sandusky. The time line works.
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2011 16:55     Subject: Re:Is the Penn State story making anyone else feel horrible?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:

But seeing a child being raped in a shower stall, or hearing that it happened, isn't a gray area. No adult should see that and have to think for a nanasecond "Do I need to take steps to stop this?" If you need ethics training for that basic lesson there's problem.



AMEN!!!!!!!


I feel seriously outraged by the entire story, but more so, by the fact that McQuery is supposed to be at the game Saturday. WTF? Why is this guy still not fired?
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2011 16:53     Subject: Is the Penn State story making anyone else feel horrible?

This was from a Washington Post chat this morning and it made me cry, "Until I read your article: "According to the testimony from the graduate assistant who caught them, Sandusky and the boy saw him. If true, the boy must have been thinking, "Finally, maybe this will stop. Maybe someone will help me." But no one did. "
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2011 16:34     Subject: Is the Penn State story making anyone else feel horrible?

I feel horrible and sickened, too, but on the other hand, so glad that people are outraged and empathetic toward the young victims' suffering.
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2011 16:33     Subject: Re:Is the Penn State story making anyone else feel horrible?

Anonymous wrote:

But seeing a child being raped in a shower stall, or hearing that it happened, isn't a gray area. No adult should see that and have to think for a nanasecond "Do I need to take steps to stop this?" If you need ethics training for that basic lesson there's problem.



AMEN!!!!!!!
Anonymous
Post 11/10/2011 16:30     Subject: Re:Is the Penn State story making anyone else feel horrible?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm in higher ed and I'd thought that I'd seen the good and bad of university administration and disciplinary processes. I guess it's just crazy to me that an adult would see what he perceived to be a sexual assault by an adult on a child in a public place and he wouldn't think yell for help and then call 911.

I want to keep my kid safe, but this whole situation has me thinking about how much I also want to train her to be a person who does the right thing as an adult.


It's called ethics training that most organization have.


I think ethics training is great for helping people figure out what to do in gray areas where there may be some uncertainty about what the right thing to do is.

But seeing a child being raped in a shower stall, or hearing that it happened, isn't a gray area. No adult should see that and have to think for a nanasecond "Do I need to take steps to stop this?" If you need ethics training for that basic lesson there's problem.

I'm very glad he's fired.