You moms living alone don't have a person checking on you every day????

Anonymous wrote:Friends think I am weird about this, but I cannot watch Steel Magnolias again. I can't get the image out of my mind of the little boy dressed in his Halloween costume, while his mother is in a coma on the deck. Water is boiling over on the stove, and he is wailing.

And Dexter? Forget about it. I almost had to seek therapy after seeing the two year old covered in blood after witnessing his mom die.

I need to go read something happy right now.

Oh this.

I made the mistake of watching Steel Magnolias on one of the weekends my 14mo was at his fathers. We lived alone in the country at the time. Just the baby and I. No neighbors within 3mi, no family in the area, no friends. I'd talk to my mom every day, but as she was 1500mi away, she couldn't do much. I did work FT, but no one knew where I lived (no mail delivery, just a PO box). If something like that had happened to us, it would have easily been more than 3 days before someone noticed something was wrong. DS was too little to use a phone, open a door, feed himself. After watching the movie, I think I called my mom and just sobbed.

I still have nightmares about this kind of thing and we live with family now. Dying alone with DS is one of my biggest fears, not only for what it would do to him, but the fact that he'd have to go live with his dipshit father afterwards . . . just one of those things I've tried to prepare for but also try really hard not to think about. Ever.

Anonymous wrote:Another one with the irrational fear that this will happen to me. I've actually shown my daughter how to make a call on my cell a few times, and made sure that her dad and her grandparents all have photos associated with their numbers. She can't read yet, but she might be able to push buttons til a familiar picture shows up.

A less-irrational fear is that I will be injured and that even if I can call 911, she won't be able to let the police in. She can't reach the lock, and doesn't have the strength to turn the key anyway. Also, she would be distraught. Her dad fell down a full flight of stairs last year, and she cried for over an hour, even though he was only slightly injured. She broke down repeatedly over the next several days remembering it.

Would the police just knock down the door in this situation? I thought that they would, to get inside, and respond to the 911 call?

Friends think I am weird about this, but I cannot watch Steel Magnolias again. I can't get the image out of my mind of the little boy dressed in his Halloween costume, while his mother is in a coma on the deck. Water is boiling over on the stove, and he is wailing.

And Dexter? Forget about it. I almost had to seek therapy after seeing the two year old covered in blood after witnessing his mom die.

I need to go read something happy right now.

Another one with the irrational fear that this will happen to me. I've actually shown my daughter how to make a call on my cell a few times, and made sure that her dad and her grandparents all have photos associated with their numbers. She can't read yet, but she might be able to push buttons til a familiar picture shows up.

A less-irrational fear is that I will be injured and that even if I can call 911, she won't be able to let the police in. She can't reach the lock, and doesn't have the strength to turn the key anyway. Also, she would be distraught. Her dad fell down a full flight of stairs last year, and she cried for over an hour, even though he was only slightly injured. She broke down repeatedly over the next several days remembering it.

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WTF. You are scared about who will pick up the kids? They are at school, at a safe place, not left to care for themselves.

PP here. You're kind of a bitch, but now that I'm not on my phone I will elaborate. If I am unconscious at a hospital somewhere, or dead, how will anyone know I even have kids that need to be taken care of? I have no family in the area and my husband is on planes or otherwise unreachable (in court, conducting depositions) a LOT. Can anyone tell me what would happen? Schools can't keep kids indefinitely.

I am the kind of a bitch poster, and the children would go to the police station. Once again, in safe hands lady. Geez, bigger things to worry about. Your children would not starve, be dehydrated, left to take care of themselves, soil themselves, etc.

NP here. Just wanted to say you're not kind of a bitch. You're a total bitch.

Another NP, another vote for total bitch. Um, I'm simply scared I'll die and my children will grow up without a mother. That's a WTF worthy fear, I guess, since they aren't necessarily going to soil themselves immediately.

The article or story posted had nothing to do with growing up without a mother. I think everyone would prefer their kids have a mother. The 'bitch' poster is right. If the mom and dad were both unreachable, school officials have the responsibility to make sure the children would taken care of by someone via police or children's services. And if they come come to find you dead and are school age, surely they know better than to just sit with your dead body for days.

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Also, if you are unaware of how your school handles such situations, you need to ask them. This would really ease any unnecessary worrying about your children not being picked up. On another note, comparing a 3 year old to survive on their own, for a couple days, to a child not being picked up in the afternoon at school, is freaking CRAZY!

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WTF. You are scared about who will pick up the kids? They are at school, at a safe place, not left to care for themselves.

PP here. You're kind of a bitch, but now that I'm not on my phone I will elaborate. If I am unconscious at a hospital somewhere, or dead, how will anyone know I even have kids that need to be taken care of? I have no family in the area and my husband is on planes or otherwise unreachable (in court, conducting depositions) a LOT. Can anyone tell me what would happen? Schools can't keep kids indefinitely.

I am the kind of a bitch poster, and the children would go to the police station. Once again, in safe hands lady. Geez, bigger things to worry about. Your children would not starve, be dehydrated, left to take care of themselves, soil themselves, etc.

NP here. Just wanted to say you're not kind of a bitch. You're a total bitch.

Another NP, another vote for total bitch. Um, I'm simply scared I'll die and my children will grow up without a mother. That's a WTF worthy fear, I guess, since they aren't necessarily going to soil themselves immediately.

The article or story posted had nothing to do with growing up without a mother. I think everyone would prefer their kids have a mother. The 'bitch' poster is right. If the mom and dad were both unreachable, school officials have the responsibility to make sure the children would taken care of by someone via police or children's services. And if they come come to find you dead and are school age, surely they know better than to just sit with your dead body for days.

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WTF. You are scared about who will pick up the kids? They are at school, at a safe place, not left to care for themselves.

PP here. You're kind of a bitch, but now that I'm not on my phone I will elaborate. If I am unconscious at a hospital somewhere, or dead, how will anyone know I even have kids that need to be taken care of? I have no family in the area and my husband is on planes or otherwise unreachable (in court, conducting depositions) a LOT. Can anyone tell me what would happen? Schools can't keep kids indefinitely.

I am the kind of a bitch poster, and the children would go to the police station. Once again, in safe hands lady. Geez, bigger things to worry about. Your children would not starve, be dehydrated, left to take care of themselves, soil themselves, etc.

NP here. Just wanted to say you're not kind of a bitch. You're a total bitch.

Another NP, another vote for total bitch. Um, I'm simply scared I'll die and my children will grow up without a mother. That's a WTF worthy fear, I guess, since they aren't necessarily going to soil themselves immediately.

I don't think she was a bitch at all. I thought the same thing. School age kids who are at school are going to be looked after and can communicate. They can say my mom didn't show up and my dad is traveling, they will be taken care of. Not the same as a toddler spending days alone with a dead body.

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WTF. You are scared about who will pick up the kids? They are at school, at a safe place, not left to care for themselves.

PP here. You're kind of a bitch, but now that I'm not on my phone I will elaborate. If I am unconscious at a hospital somewhere, or dead, how will anyone know I even have kids that need to be taken care of? I have no family in the area and my husband is on planes or otherwise unreachable (in court, conducting depositions) a LOT. Can anyone tell me what would happen? Schools can't keep kids indefinitely.

I am the kind of a bitch poster, and the children would go to the police station. Once again, in safe hands lady. Geez, bigger things to worry about. Your children would not starve, be dehydrated, left to take care of themselves, soil themselves, etc.

NP here. Just wanted to say you're not kind of a bitch. You're a total bitch.