I haven't read all the posts, but as a recovering catholic, I found the Episcopal Church very inviting. I go a small one, with a mix of generations. There are several families with young children.
That said, I picked the Episcopal church because I LOVE the liturgy. I find comfort in it. However, I know many people that do not like the liturgy, and think its cold and repetitive and not open for changes. It sounds like you may be in this group.
The Lutheran Church is also very much like the Catholic church, and is liturgical. If you didn't like the Episcopal service, chances are you won't like Lutheran.
United Methodist and Presbyterian are not as liturgical, and each service is different. I went to Methodist churches for a while, and most have a traditional (more liturgical) service and a contemporary service. Check them out.
My sister, who can't stand liturgy, likes Calvary. I don't know much about them.
Steer clear of the more evangelical churches... mostly homophobes.
I highly recommend taking the Alpha course. Here's info on it.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alpha_course
It started in the Episcopal church (btw, Evangelical Anglican IS NOT evangelical AT ALL), and looks at the tenants of Christian faith. I taught it when we lived out west, with several denominations participating in teaching it. A lot of it is self discovery. The chapter I was in was completely not judgemental on how you chose to express your faith.