Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We are learning the hard way that although we thought we would fit our baby into our lives, she has other ideas! Before DD was born (a mere 15 weeks ago), I vowed not to be one of the moms who "disappeared" when they had a baby. My closest friend had a daughter 6 months before I was due, and she brought her everywhere, kept her up to all hours, let her nap in the carseat, etc. I thought we would be the same. Once DD was out of the newborn stage, however...no way. We would be over at a friend's house for dinner, out to a restaurant, or out and about during the day, and she would start having meltdowns. It finally dawned on me that she was tired, out of sorts, and she did much better with a routine in place. So, despite my best intentions, I have set and keep a strict routine. And you know what...it's not that bad at allSo I can't enjoy the social whirl as much as I used to...a well-rested, happy baby who gets 3 naps a day and is asleep by 7 is more valuable to me than carting her to someone's house. It's what works for us, and it truly all depends on the baby!!
That being said, parents who insist on not changing their lives (for no reason other than principle) when they have a baby are ridiculous. That same friend's baby started getting fussy every time they would come over for dinner, and not a week goes by now that she doesn't call to complain about how her daughter won't nap, had a meltdown while they were out, or wouldn't sit still at a restaurant they were at. I never want to say anything critical or judgemental when I'm not on an anonymous forum (), but it does seem to me that parents who (selfishly, IMO) deny what is best for their kids because their lives would be cramped don't really understand what it is to be parents. Before I get flamed for that strongly worded sentence, please note that I am NOT talking about parents with easily portable kids who don't need a schedule (some pp's have described their kids as such), but parents with kids like mine, who need routine to be happy, and are not getting it.
Yeah, because with 15w of parenthood under your belt you are an expert on what makes a good parent or not right? Get a grip PP!
You're a dolt PP. A person with a 3 or a 6 year old, or a 15 year old isn;t an expert either. But we can all have opinions on what makes decent parents--right or wrong. We have almost all had parents, so we have some insight. I am a mom of a 4 year old, and while things have changed in terms of specifics, my overall philosophy to parenting hasn't changed since the kid was a baby. Try to contribute something meaningful next time you run your flapper.
Huh, sorry but no. At 15w into parenthood no one can really understand "what is to be parents."
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We are learning the hard way that although we thought we would fit our baby into our lives, she has other ideas! Before DD was born (a mere 15 weeks ago), I vowed not to be one of the moms who "disappeared" when they had a baby. My closest friend had a daughter 6 months before I was due, and she brought her everywhere, kept her up to all hours, let her nap in the carseat, etc. I thought we would be the same. Once DD was out of the newborn stage, however...no way. We would be over at a friend's house for dinner, out to a restaurant, or out and about during the day, and she would start having meltdowns. It finally dawned on me that she was tired, out of sorts, and she did much better with a routine in place. So, despite my best intentions, I have set and keep a strict routine. And you know what...it's not that bad at allSo I can't enjoy the social whirl as much as I used to...a well-rested, happy baby who gets 3 naps a day and is asleep by 7 is more valuable to me than carting her to someone's house. It's what works for us, and it truly all depends on the baby!!
That being said, parents who insist on not changing their lives (for no reason other than principle) when they have a baby are ridiculous. That same friend's baby started getting fussy every time they would come over for dinner, and not a week goes by now that she doesn't call to complain about how her daughter won't nap, had a meltdown while they were out, or wouldn't sit still at a restaurant they were at. I never want to say anything critical or judgemental when I'm not on an anonymous forum (), but it does seem to me that parents who (selfishly, IMO) deny what is best for their kids because their lives would be cramped don't really understand what it is to be parents. Before I get flamed for that strongly worded sentence, please note that I am NOT talking about parents with easily portable kids who don't need a schedule (some pp's have described their kids as such), but parents with kids like mine, who need routine to be happy, and are not getting it.
Yeah, because with 15w of parenthood under your belt you are an expert on what makes a good parent or not right? Get a grip PP!
You're a dolt PP. A person with a 3 or a 6 year old, or a 15 year old isn;t an expert either. But we can all have opinions on what makes decent parents--right or wrong. We have almost all had parents, so we have some insight. I am a mom of a 4 year old, and while things have changed in terms of specifics, my overall philosophy to parenting hasn't changed since the kid was a baby. Try to contribute something meaningful next time you run your flapper.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We are learning the hard way that although we thought we would fit our baby into our lives, she has other ideas! Before DD was born (a mere 15 weeks ago), I vowed not to be one of the moms who "disappeared" when they had a baby. My closest friend had a daughter 6 months before I was due, and she brought her everywhere, kept her up to all hours, let her nap in the carseat, etc. I thought we would be the same. Once DD was out of the newborn stage, however...no way. We would be over at a friend's house for dinner, out to a restaurant, or out and about during the day, and she would start having meltdowns. It finally dawned on me that she was tired, out of sorts, and she did much better with a routine in place. So, despite my best intentions, I have set and keep a strict routine. And you know what...it's not that bad at allSo I can't enjoy the social whirl as much as I used to...a well-rested, happy baby who gets 3 naps a day and is asleep by 7 is more valuable to me than carting her to someone's house. It's what works for us, and it truly all depends on the baby!!
That being said, parents who insist on not changing their lives (for no reason other than principle) when they have a baby are ridiculous. That same friend's baby started getting fussy every time they would come over for dinner, and not a week goes by now that she doesn't call to complain about how her daughter won't nap, had a meltdown while they were out, or wouldn't sit still at a restaurant they were at. I never want to say anything critical or judgemental when I'm not on an anonymous forum (), but it does seem to me that parents who (selfishly, IMO) deny what is best for their kids because their lives would be cramped don't really understand what it is to be parents. Before I get flamed for that strongly worded sentence, please note that I am NOT talking about parents with easily portable kids who don't need a schedule (some pp's have described their kids as such), but parents with kids like mine, who need routine to be happy, and are not getting it.
Yeah, because with 15w of parenthood under your belt you are an expert on what makes a good parent or not right? Get a grip PP!
Anonymous wrote:PP- Have you had #2 yet b/c now that you've remarked about how easy your child is, you know #2 will be hellish, right?
Anonymous wrote:I think it is both tempermant and the parents ability to deal with a young child. For instance, if you freak out because your baby cries in public than its not likely you are going to be comfortable being out and about all the time.
Anonymous wrote:We are learning the hard way that although we thought we would fit our baby into our lives, she has other ideas! Before DD was born (a mere 15 weeks ago), I vowed not to be one of the moms who "disappeared" when they had a baby. My closest friend had a daughter 6 months before I was due, and she brought her everywhere, kept her up to all hours, let her nap in the carseat, etc. I thought we would be the same. Once DD was out of the newborn stage, however...no way. We would be over at a friend's house for dinner, out to a restaurant, or out and about during the day, and she would start having meltdowns. It finally dawned on me that she was tired, out of sorts, and she did much better with a routine in place. So, despite my best intentions, I have set and keep a strict routine. And you know what...it's not that bad at allSo I can't enjoy the social whirl as much as I used to...a well-rested, happy baby who gets 3 naps a day and is asleep by 7 is more valuable to me than carting her to someone's house. It's what works for us, and it truly all depends on the baby!!
That being said, parents who insist on not changing their lives (for no reason other than principle) when they have a baby are ridiculous. That same friend's baby started getting fussy every time they would come over for dinner, and not a week goes by now that she doesn't call to complain about how her daughter won't nap, had a meltdown while they were out, or wouldn't sit still at a restaurant they were at. I never want to say anything critical or judgemental when I'm not on an anonymous forum (), but it does seem to me that parents who (selfishly, IMO) deny what is best for their kids because their lives would be cramped don't really understand what it is to be parents. Before I get flamed for that strongly worded sentence, please note that I am NOT talking about parents with easily portable kids who don't need a schedule (some pp's have described their kids as such), but parents with kids like mine, who need routine to be happy, and are not getting it.
Anonymous wrote:We are learning the hard way that although we thought we would fit our baby into our lives, she has other ideas! Before DD was born (a mere 15 weeks ago), I vowed not to be one of the moms who "disappeared" when they had a baby. My closest friend had a daughter 6 months before I was due, and she brought her everywhere, kept her up to all hours, let her nap in the carseat, etc. I thought we would be the same. Once DD was out of the newborn stage, however...no way. We would be over at a friend's house for dinner, out to a restaurant, or out and about during the day, and she would start having meltdowns. It finally dawned on me that she was tired, out of sorts, and she did much better with a routine in place. So, despite my best intentions, I have set and keep a strict routine. And you know what...it's not that bad at allSo I can't enjoy the social whirl as much as I used to...a well-rested, happy baby who gets 3 naps a day and is asleep by 7 is more valuable to me than carting her to someone's house. It's what works for us, and it truly all depends on the baby!!
That being said, parents who insist on not changing their lives (for no reason other than principle) when they have a baby are ridiculous. That same friend's baby started getting fussy every time they would come over for dinner, and not a week goes by now that she doesn't call to complain about how her daughter won't nap, had a meltdown while they were out, or wouldn't sit still at a restaurant they were at. I never want to say anything critical or judgemental when I'm not on an anonymous forum (), but it does seem to me that parents who (selfishly, IMO) deny what is best for their kids because their lives would be cramped don't really understand what it is to be parents. Before I get flamed for that strongly worded sentence, please note that I am NOT talking about parents with easily portable kids who don't need a schedule (some pp's have described their kids as such), but parents with kids like mine, who need routine to be happy, and are not getting it.