Anonymous
06/18/2012 17:02
Subject: Step Parent Spanks His Own Kid....
Anonymous wrote:Divorced mom here. I am coming to this late, but I did want to comment. I applaud this man for raising his son. So many men walk out on their children and this man hasn't done so.
We can all disagree on a parent's discipline style. I happen to be a strict parent and I do spank my children when I think its necessary.
I think its important to take a broad view in a situation like this. Possibly, the child that is not being spanked will learn from what he is seeing and stay out of trouble. It might be a very good thing for him to see his step brother getting whooped. Perhaps, the two parents could try to learn from one another and "blend" their discipline styles. That might mean fewer spankings for the one boy, but both boys occasionally getting spanked.
If the step dad is not doing it abusively, I don't see anything wrong with him spanking both boys. He is the man of the house and they need to know that.
OMG... your child will probably be in therapy, same as OP's nephew. The "man" of the house? Please try to stop living in the 20th century. It is not necessary to spank to be a strict parent, nor should you take a broad view in a "situation like this". You should take the view of what fits with yours AND your child's comfort and interests. The nephew's mom obviously didn't consider her son's emotional health in the situation, and it sounds like you would act similarly. You probably think it's also ok to move in with some man with you child after only knowing him 6 months. Wait, are you OP's sister??
Good luck with all that.
FBO
06/18/2012 14:46
Subject: Step Parent Spanks His Own Kid....
Anonymous wrote:FBO wrote:Wait, do I have this right? The 'kid' not getting spanked is upset and in therapy because his step-brother (basically) is getting spanked?
Really?
No, that's incorrect. I explained back on page 1. But does it really matter at this point?
lol... Good point.
Best of luck to you... Seriously.
Anonymous
06/18/2012 14:44
Subject: Step Parent Spanks His Own Kid....
FBO wrote:Wait, do I have this right? The 'kid' not getting spanked is upset and in therapy because his step-brother (basically) is getting spanked?
Really?
No, that's incorrect. I explained back on page 1. But does it really matter at this point?
FBO
06/18/2012 12:58
Subject: Step Parent Spanks His Own Kid....
Wait, do I have this right? The 'kid' not getting spanked is upset and in therapy because his step-brother (basically) is getting spanked?
Really?
Really?
Anonymous
06/18/2012 12:52
Subject: Step Parent Spanks His Own Kid....
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
If the step dad is not doing it abusively, I don't see anything wrong with him spanking both boys. He is the man of the house and they need to know that.
OP here. I was surprised to see this thread show up again. They broke up a month or so ago, so the boyfriend is out of the house.
I don't really want to get into the spank/no spank debate, but I just wanted to point out that if you come from a non-spanking household, to actually see an adult spank another child can be quite disturbing, and in my newphew's case, it was. But he has a whole lot to deal with in general. Not just this. Fortunately, this aspect of his daily life is over. At least for now.
I'm sure everyone is completely surprised by this.
I know, I know. Trust me, I can't do anything about my sister, but my heart aches for my nephew.
Anonymous
06/18/2012 11:51
Subject: Step Parent Spanks His Own Kid....
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
If the step dad is not doing it abusively, I don't see anything wrong with him spanking both boys. He is the man of the house and they need to know that.
OP here. I was surprised to see this thread show up again. They broke up a month or so ago, so the boyfriend is out of the house.
I don't really want to get into the spank/no spank debate, but I just wanted to point out that if you come from a non-spanking household, to actually see an adult spank another child can be quite disturbing, and in my newphew's case, it was. But he has a whole lot to deal with in general. Not just this. Fortunately, this aspect of his daily life is over. At least for now.
I'm sure everyone is completely surprised by this.
Anonymous
06/18/2012 11:44
Subject: Step Parent Spanks His Own Kid....
Anonymous wrote:
If the step dad is not doing it abusively, I don't see anything wrong with him spanking both boys. He is the man of the house and they need to know that.
OP here. I was surprised to see this thread show up again. They broke up a month or so ago, so the boyfriend is out of the house.
I don't really want to get into the spank/no spank debate, but I just wanted to point out that if you come from a non-spanking household, to actually see an adult spank another child can be quite disturbing, and in my newphew's case, it was. But he has a whole lot to deal with in general. Not just this. Fortunately, this aspect of his daily life is over. At least for now.
Anonymous
06/16/2012 14:59
Subject: Step Parent Spanks His Own Kid....
OP, the kid is in therapy over this and your sister is not changing her plans? Is he her dealer or something? How much therapy is the kid going to need when he lives with it and is likely hit himself? Can your nephew go live with his father or is he a disaster too? Are they local? Could you take the kid sometimes to give him a mental break from the stress? Is there anyone who might get through to your sister? Some people are desperate and don't care all that much about their kids. Sucks to be your nephew.
Anonymous
06/16/2012 11:21
Subject: Step Parent Spanks His Own Kid....
Anonymous wrote:Forgot the judgment here. This upsets OP's nephew. That's huge. Yes some people still spank. It's gets very complicated with stepparents who spank and a biological parent who does not.
What to do, OP?
Yer, we wouldn't want to upset a kid, would we? Please.
Anonymous
06/16/2012 10:36
Subject: Step Parent Spanks His Own Kid....
Divorced mom here. I am coming to this late, but I did want to comment. I applaud this man for raising his son. So many men walk out on their children and this man hasn't done so.
We can all disagree on a parent's discipline style. I happen to be a strict parent and I do spank my children when I think its necessary.
I think its important to take a broad view in a situation like this. Possibly, the child that is not being spanked will learn from what he is seeing and stay out of trouble. It might be a very good thing for him to see his step brother getting whooped. Perhaps, the two parents could try to learn from one another and "blend" their discipline styles. That might mean fewer spankings for the one boy, but both boys occasionally getting spanked.
If the step dad is not doing it abusively, I don't see anything wrong with him spanking both boys. He is the man of the house and they need to know that.
We can all disagree on a parent's discipline style. I happen to be a strict parent and I do spank my children when I think its necessary.
I think its important to take a broad view in a situation like this. Possibly, the child that is not being spanked will learn from what he is seeing and stay out of trouble. It might be a very good thing for him to see his step brother getting whooped. Perhaps, the two parents could try to learn from one another and "blend" their discipline styles. That might mean fewer spankings for the one boy, but both boys occasionally getting spanked.
If the step dad is not doing it abusively, I don't see anything wrong with him spanking both boys. He is the man of the house and they need to know that.
Anonymous
05/22/2011 17:43
Subject: Step Parent Spanks His Own Kid....
He should spank both. Hopefully when either child does something wrong he will spank them both.
Anonymous
05/12/2011 23:08
Subject: Re:Step Parent Spanks His Own Kid....
how old are the kids?