Anonymous
Post 01/06/2013 11:06     Subject: Anyone read: "12 hours of sleep by 12 weeks old"?
Anonymous wrote:Yep, we fed constantly and on cue durign the day, and he tanked up pretty well all day, so in those first few weeks he really was sleeping long long stretches - like 7 hours at night. No books, just following his cues.

Forcing a newborn to go 4 hours between feeds is ridiculous and will probably lead to FTT, which is what happens with many Babywise babes, too. It's abusive.


This. Mine would eat constantly during the day, usually 2 oz at the time. Usually every hour and half! Then, she would go to bed at 7pm, wake up at 10:30 to eat, wake up at 3am and then wake up between 7 and 8am.

I realize it is not a single 12 hours stretch, but her 10:30 and 3am she would immediately go back to sleep... so, it didn't feel strenuous.

By 12 weeks she was not waking up at 3am anymore. And she went on drinking only 2oz at the time for almost the whole first year. I remember people here on DC Urban Mom saying there was something wrong with her and it was normal for a 7m old only drink 2oz at the time...

Anonymous
Post 01/06/2013 08:55     Subject: Anyone read: "12 hours of sleep by 12 weeks old"?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:i'm 22:34. i recommend baby whisperer. saved my life and sanity.


OK, to take this thread in a different direction-- the "some books work for some babies" direction, maybe?-- how would the EASY routine work for a baby like mine, who I think isn't atypical at 5 weeks because my first was like this until around 5 months too-- who catnaps for a max. of 20 mins. at a time, and therefore can stay awake happily maybe for 15 mins. at a time, and who wants to feed every 2 hours more or less during the day? I read this w/ #1 but just couldn't establish the eat-sleep-play routine (not to mention you time- ha ha ha!) w/ her, and I can't with #2, either. I would love to push her to more regularity or routine, as all these books seem to kind of urge even if they don't recommend schedules, but they all seem to assume babies sleep for good 2 hour naps and can nurse enough w/ each feeding (without spitting it all up) to go 3 hours or so between feedings...all the sleep books did for me for the first 3 months was make me frustrated and resentful of my babies for not doing what they were supposed to. I know baby whisperer is supposed to be an exception (as is Pantley, as is Karp) but looking at all their sample routines/baby "norm"s made me want to cry because it was so far from my experience.


I totally agree! The schedules don't take into account cat nappers and cluster feeders, both of which are totally normal. I don't feel like my baby could have been on anything approximating a real schedule until now at 6 months (and even now he naps no where near as long as they suggest). I never tried to put him on a schedule and can only imagine the frustration.
Anonymous
Post 01/06/2013 08:34     Subject: Anyone read: "12 hours of sleep by 12 weeks old"?
Anonymous wrote:i'm 22:34. i recommend baby whisperer. saved my life and sanity.


OK, to take this thread in a different direction-- the "some books work for some babies" direction, maybe?-- how would the EASY routine work for a baby like mine, who I think isn't atypical at 5 weeks because my first was like this until around 5 months too-- who catnaps for a max. of 20 mins. at a time, and therefore can stay awake happily maybe for 15 mins. at a time, and who wants to feed every 2 hours more or less during the day? I read this w/ #1 but just couldn't establish the eat-sleep-play routine (not to mention you time- ha ha ha!) w/ her, and I can't with #2, either. I would love to push her to more regularity or routine, as all these books seem to kind of urge even if they don't recommend schedules, but they all seem to assume babies sleep for good 2 hour naps and can nurse enough w/ each feeding (without spitting it all up) to go 3 hours or so between feedings...all the sleep books did for me for the first 3 months was make me frustrated and resentful of my babies for not doing what they were supposed to. I know baby whisperer is supposed to be an exception (as is Pantley, as is Karp) but looking at all their sample routines/baby "norm"s made me want to cry because it was so far from my experience.
Anonymous
Post 01/05/2013 22:35     Subject: Anyone read: "12 hours of sleep by 12 weeks old"?
i'm 22:34. i recommend baby whisperer. saved my life and sanity.
Anonymous
Post 01/05/2013 22:34     Subject: Anyone read: "12 hours of sleep by 12 weeks old"?
Anonymous wrote:tried it, didn't work. eating every 4 hours for an 8 week old doesn't sound realistic -- or healthy. my 12 week is just now getting to this point.


tried it too. above was my experience too.
Anonymous
Post 01/05/2013 22:32     Subject: Anyone read: "12 hours of sleep by 12 weeks old"?
Oh and I am pretty sure that with my low supply, trying to cut out night feeds and feed every 4 hours during the day would have led to ftt and a tanked supply.
Anonymous
Post 01/05/2013 22:30     Subject: Anyone read: "12 hours of sleep by 12 weeks old"?
I sleep trained but still kept the night feedings. It's easy - just bf for 20 mins and pop him back in the crib. I don't feel any need to force feed him during the day at this point or try to get him to drop the night feeds until he is ready.
Anonymous
Post 01/05/2013 22:24     Subject: Anyone read: "12 hours of sleep by 12 weeks old"?
ReAd the book. That woman is crazy has no medical expertise and gives borderline dangerous advice. My advice is to stick to Weissbluth and CIO at 16 weeks post due date.
Anonymous
Post 01/05/2013 22:03     Subject: Anyone read: "12 hours of sleep by 12 weeks old"?
Anonymous wrote:Trying to mess with a 12 week old's eating is really not a good idea. They need to eat when they need to eat.

You obviously didn't read the book. Perhaps you should just refrain from commenting on this topic.
Anonymous
Post 01/05/2013 21:21     Subject: Anyone read: "12 hours of sleep by 12 weeks old"?
Trying to mess with a 12 week old's eating is really not a good idea. They need to eat when they need to eat.
Anonymous
Post 01/05/2013 21:17     Subject: Anyone read: "12 hours of sleep by 12 weeks old"?
I found the book very helpful. Not at 12 weeks. But for getting my son to stretch between feedings and sleep longer as a result. Like everything with parenting you read and take what is valuable and useful for your situation.
Anonymous
Post 01/05/2013 20:57     Subject: Anyone read: "12 hours of sleep by 12 weeks old"?
I did it for my first born and by 14 weeks she was sleeping 11-12 hours a night. It worked great but we had to wait a little bit because she was 5lbs when she was born. Oh and she was exclusively breast fed. She would drink 4 6oz bottles 4x a day and slept great. I plan on doing it again for my second one. It saved mine and my husbands sanity because we both worked and i went to school full time and we needed our sleep. I understand that not everyone is okay with the idea and sometimes it was hard to make sure she was in her bed for naps every day but in the end it was so worth it. Oh and she stilled moved from the15th percentile when she was born up to the 80th percentile at one year.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2011 10:24     Subject: Anyone read: "12 hours of sleep by 12 weeks old"?
Anonymous wrote:We followed it and it worked 100% with all of our kids. The trick I think is that you need to be on formula, not breastfeeding. It did not work by 12 weeks, but soon after.

I loved the book.


Prove that it was the book and not your kids.
Signed,
Mom who did NO sleep training before 7 months. Result? One kid who didn't STTN for a year, and the other who STTN at 3 months. (FWIW, the early STTN-er was FF and the other was mostly BF. So perhaps that is a factor? More so than whatever is in the book.)
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2011 09:31     Subject: Anyone read: "12 hours of sleep by 12 weeks old"?
we formula feed. my baby just cannot eat more than 5-6 oz at a time and he's 12 weeks old.
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2011 21:46     Subject: Anyone read: "12 hours of sleep by 12 weeks old"?
We followed it and it worked 100% with all of our kids. The trick I think is that you need to be on formula, not breastfeeding. It did not work by 12 weeks, but soon after.

I loved the book.