Anonymous wrote:What if the three failed marriages lasted each for quite a few years? Could it be a non-compatibility issue and maybe this time around it could work?

Only if she's prepared for this one to fail after "quite a few years" due to "a non-compatibility issue" with her.

What if the three failed marriages lasted each for quite a few years? Could it be a non-compatibility issue and maybe this time around it could work?

No way

My ex (I was #2) is on his 4th. When he was getting ready to marry her a friend of hers, who knew me, asked what advice I would give her.

My advice was - Three failed marriages with three different women, who are bound to be different in their own way points to only one specific central theme.

I was not perfect in my marriage, but three divorces is a lot and at such a young age.

No. PBFC.

No, but I might date the person if I didn't have kids and was financially independent.

Anonymous wrote:GF seems to think that the other marriages failed because of the ex-wives.

Is that what her boyfriend told her? Because then he'll probably blame the next divorce on your friend...

The man I know who has been divorced three times would NOT make a good partner, from what I know of him. (And yes, he would no doubt blame the ex-wives.)

A cousin of mine, who is now in his 60s, married and divorced three times between the ages of about 20-40. He married his fourth wife, had three kids (no kids from first three marriages), he and his fourth wife seemed very happy and everyone thought this would be the one to finally work. Well, after roughly 20-some years of marriage, they are now separated and divorce is probably imminent. So...to your question, NO.

GF seems to think that the other marriages failed because of the ex-wives. I'm trying to tell her that it usually takes two to make a relationship work. I'm concerned for her and I don't want her to get hurt.

Anonymous wrote:Does he have children?

Yes, he does (mid teens).

Nope. Once, yes. People make mistakes, and in my late 30's, I know quite a few folks who had younger marriages that just didn't work out. I did date one guy who had been divorced twice by age 34 and I had issues with him for other reasons, but the two divorces were a red flag for me. Maybe with a different guy, I'd accept two divorces, but honestly, I feel like if someone's been divorced twice, maybe they need to take a step back from the dating world and figure themselves out. Three divorces? I might be his friend-with-benefits, but there's no way I'd date him, expecting things to be different. (I do have two friends who've been divorced twice and one friend who's been divorced three times, with the fourth probably coming soon. I personally think they should all stop trying so hard to be coupled and just chill for awhile.)

No no no no no no.

Only if I were totally prepared for a temporary marriage. This guy's shown a propensity for failing the long haul.

Twice is too many. Three? Hell to the nah.

Does he have children?

No. Don't you think there is something wrong with this person? Why would you even have to ask.