Anonymous wrote:She doesn't get to refuse. I'd tell her she has three seconds to get out of her room and mingle and help, or her bedroom door is being taken off the hinges. Being rude is not allowed.

You’re a psycho

Anonymous wrote:My 15 year old daughter avoids interacting with guests whenever they come over.

Should I be seeking an evaluation? She has freinds at school and other activities.
(Not sure why my other post was deleted, I am not a troll.)

Troll

Just ask her what's up. It could be anything, right? It could be anxiety, but it could also be that high school is harder than school was before, and on her weekends and evenings, she is just zonked. Or maybe she's started clocking some things about the relatives that she didn't before, that bother her now in ways they wouldn't have when she was young (someone making boorish jokes, or being subtly catty, or even maybe political differences that matter to her now), and she's avoiding them rather than getting irritated and risking blurting out something hurtful. Or she could be starting to feel more like the individual adult she will be in a couple years than the little kid she used to be, and just doesn't really feel anymore like part of the family unit that *has* to entertain her family's guests. If it's the latter, you can talk to her about how rude it comes off and see if you can strike a compromise that won't hurt your guests' feelings (like maybe she can greet them, have a few minutes of small talk, and then be sent on an "errand" that will take up some of the time).

Regardless, I think the first step is just asking her what's going on. She may know or she may not, but you might get some useful info.

Teen stays in room and avoids guests at party

News at 11

15 yo are moody and difficult. I have one, a niece and am also a teacher. They are often self centered and want to do what they want to do. That could mean not going to the family party for her little sister in favor of sitting in her room, scrolling on her phone and texting friends. This is not okay and where some strict parenting expectations come in. That’s what’s needed, not an evaluation. She doesn’t have to want to be there or stay for the entire time. She needs to make an appearance, be pleasant to the relatives and stay for a predetermined amount of time before leaving.

Anonymous wrote:Some people don't like large groups and are overstimulated by it. Its ok.

She is shy. Some people are naturally shy. It is not a pathology.