Anonymous
06/15/2026 12:40
Subject: DD only doing summer job for boy?
When I was a freshman in college 20+ years ago, I switched from a biology class to a history class so I could spend time with a girl I liked. We have been married for 15 years and now have 4 kids.
Anonymous
06/15/2026 08:45
Subject: DD only doing summer job for boy?
When I was 20 I had a highly desirable job at a research lab assisting a grad student. It was utterly depressing and lonely because no one spoke English and I ended up quitting to work at a sandwich shop. Completely stupid decision in retrospect but I didn’t have a mentor to talk me out of it and the ONLY thing I could think about was getting the opportunity to meet/flirt with guys (heavily female campus with tons of Chinese students so I was at a huge disadvantage.) never underestimate the single mindedness of a young person…
Anonymous
06/15/2026 08:39
Subject: DD only doing summer job for boy?
Anonymous wrote:Pretty much every life decision I made between ages 16 to 25 was influenced in part by which guys were involved.
This! Including my first job at 16!
Anonymous
06/15/2026 08:35
Subject: DD only doing summer job for boy?
This may be the most normal thing I’ve seen on this site in weeks.
Anonymous
06/15/2026 07:52
Subject: DD only doing summer job for boy?
Pretty much every life decision I made between ages 16 to 25 was influenced in part by which guys were involved.
Anonymous
06/15/2026 07:30
Subject: DD only doing summer job for boy?
When she gets to know him she may stop liking him. Tale as old as time.
Anonymous
06/15/2026 07:19
Subject: DD only doing summer job for boy?
This will be a good learning experience you can refer to in two years when she wants to choose her college based on where her current boyfriend or best friend is going.
Anonymous
06/15/2026 06:16
Subject: DD only doing summer job for boy?
Sounds normal to me.
Anonymous
06/15/2026 06:14
Subject: Re:DD only doing summer job for boy?
Whether or not her motives were “admirable”, having a job has value. She’ll be doing something productive, getting real world experience, and making a little money of her own. At worst, it’ll be a bad job that will help her realize she should have considered more factors than her boyfriend, which is itself a valuable lesson.
Anonymous
06/14/2026 22:46
Subject: DD only doing summer job for boy?
whatever. there are better reasons, but as long as it is a reasonable job, let it go. and watch how it plays out - maybe she'll like this guy or maybe she'll find out he is a jerk. maybe she will like this job or maybe she will realize she should have looked harder.
Anonymous
06/14/2026 22:42
Subject: DD only doing summer job for boy?
Anonymous wrote:Sounds so normal. I would be thankful that the thing she did for a boy was get a job...
+1 joined an extracurricular for a boy in college. Seems pretty normal at that age.
Anonymous
06/14/2026 22:03
Subject: DD only doing summer job for boy?
Oh for heaven's sake, weren't you ever a teenage girl?
Anonymous
06/14/2026 21:48
Subject: DD only doing summer job for boy?
My mom only got a job as a camp counselor because my dad was working there and she had a crush on him. They were happily married for more than 50 years.
Anonymous
06/14/2026 21:46
Subject: DD only doing summer job for boy?
Anonymous wrote:I don't know, I'd be a little worried. What happens if the boy quits?
You are beyond weird. “Worried”?
Anonymous
06/14/2026 21:44
Subject: DD only doing summer job for boy?
Anonymous wrote:My daughter is applying for a job at Taco Bell because she thinks that getting a discount on Taco Bell is the best possible perk for a job. She could have had a number of other jobs, but this is the one she pursued for her own (dumb) reason.
You maybe should consider that "making money" is not a "more admirable" reason than "because she loves their quesadilla" and "because she likes a boy." That's your adult values judging a teenager's job. Let her be a teenager for like 5 minutes before you expect her to have adult values.
I like your kid.