I'm in the "can't live alone, hates homes, wants to live alone, doesn't want to BE alone, oh... what she really wants is to live at her home and have all of her kids live there with her and take care of her!

Like we don't have jobs, kids, pets, obligations or live far away.

It took some digging but that would make her happiest. Not going to happen. Anyone else?

Unable to work full time because of difficult parent who drives away caregivers and needs nearly constant care. Plunged into poverty while they fetter away millions on every gadget they see advertised on tv. Trapped and hoping I outlive them.

My parent buys 1000s of dollars worth of fake supplements to “improve memory”.
When they arrive, he doesn’t remember buying them. When I ask why he bought them, he can’t remember.
Sigh.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the lack of hearing coupled with the lack of gratitude!

Translated it means."I am tone deaf and ungrateful to my aging parents.'

Rude. Don’t imagine you know what kind of special hell it is to be trapped into caring for an aging demanding rude demented parent.

Anonymous wrote:My boomer parents are in their mid 70s and they are great! My four kids love them especially when they get to do sleepovers. They already have a deposit down on a graduated care retirement place nearby so they won’t be a burden on us.

Written by boomer mom.

My boomer parents are in their mid 70s and they are great! My four kids love them especially when they get to do sleepovers. They already have a deposit down on a graduated care retirement place nearby so they won’t be a burden on us.

My boomer parents refuse to admit they can’t do everything they used to, but then get mad when they’re included in plans that require stamina and can’t keep up. One day, it’s “yeah, we’ll be there! We’re retired! We have all the time in the world!” And then the thing’s happening and they sour and are like “we’re 79 years old! We’re too tired for this!” So I increasingly keep our plans secret.

Anonymous wrote:I’m the hoarded mess in the unfinished basement of my IL’s house of 45 years. MIL with dementia is allowed full unfettered access to the basement and picks her way up and down these stairs several times a day to “look around.” I’m the scolding, controlling DIL who recommended door locks, alarms and suggesting professional care be brought in … over a year ago.

And it will still be your fault when she inevitably falls down the stairs or trips over the junk.

I’m the controlling wife who is not allowing visits to the MIL who is perfectly capable or traveling or her son is perfectly capable and has no restrictions on making travel plans. I’m working 40 hours a week, doing the bulk of the housework while he scrolls his phone 10 hours a day as and is in bed another 10. He can make the travel plans to see his parents.

I’m the hoarded mess in the unfinished basement of my IL’s house of 45 years. MIL with dementia is allowed full unfettered access to the basement and picks her way up and down these stairs several times a day to “look around.” I’m the scolding, controlling DIL who recommended door locks, alarms and suggesting professional care be brought in … over a year ago.

Anonymous wrote:I am the expensive private aids who fall
asleep for $30 an hour, and I am also their supervisor who doesn’t reply to phone calls or texts about the situation. (I love this thread, will be back tmrw with more!)

lol

Anonymous wrote:I'm not caring for either of my parents - both 81. They were horrible to me.
DH's mom, OTOH, was wonderful and although doesn't want help, we'd sure give it.

Girllllllllll

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know wtf you are trying to say, but my boomer mom is great. I have taken care of so many elders and so far she is healthier than I am. She's also kind, appreciative, and reasonable. My silent generation father has a lot to answer for.

what was the age difference of your parents?

15 years

Anonymous wrote:English please

Most people on this thread have poor English. Must be contagious.

Anonymous wrote:I'm the lack of hearing coupled with the lack of gratitude!

Translated it means."I am tone deaf and ungrateful to my aging parents.'

I'm "only wants to talk about science 24/7 with anyone within earshot" because I am a bored and literally demented PhD. Though I am Pre-Boomer.