No. Protect your kids

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Anonymous wrote:If i divorce i can't imagine any scenerio where a marriage would be more beneficial to me than staying single.
There is just no good reason to get married now days.

Not living in sin is a very good reason to get married

Explain how signing a government contract changes anything.

PP, your religious purity crap is so inane, please find another board to frequent.

Absolutely not. Please don't do this to the children.

Anonymous wrote:If i divorce i can't imagine any scenerio where a marriage would be more beneficial to me than staying single.
There is just no good reason to get married now days.

Not living in sin is a very good reason to get married

Remarriage is not only worth it, it is a necessity if you want to have sex. Otherwise live a celibate life.

Look into remarrying your ex, if not ur bf is probably the next best bet

Anonymous wrote:From the small sample size I have of my kids' friends, don't do it - none of them are happy with their step siblings.

Eh. I wasn’t happy with my stepmother but loved my stepsibs. I’m still very close with one of them.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes of course. That’s the best time to get remarried. Your love live is super important, and the kids are young so their won’t be problems with them not liking the new spouse. Why waste 10+ years being a single mom?

After 10 plus years, options will dry up and hope for finding a life long partner will be close to zero.

That’s not true at all. Remarrying out of fear would be a terrible decision. But if OP loved her boyfriend and thinks he could be a good stepfather - and is attuned to the needs of the kids - why not? There’s zero point in wasting your life. But would also be fine to not want to physically blend households until later.

People on DCUM threads are so weird and assuming. You don’t have details about someone, yet you assume so much. SMH

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Anonymous wrote:With full time job, household and two young kids, how do you even find time for dating?

How did you assume I or we have full time jobs?? You know nothing about my financial situation so stop assuming. You don’t know how we met, whether I knew him from before, whether I met him organically through friends or whether I dated? STOP ASSUMING and making judgments.

I bet you found a real gem of a boyfriend who wants to marry you because you sound like a real class act.

Anonymous wrote:Yes of course. That’s the best time to get remarried. Your love live is super important, and the kids are young so their won’t be problems with them not liking the new spouse. Why waste 10+ years being a single mom?

Huh? That's not how that works. Also, the boyfriend has a kid, so it's not just moving the boyfriend into the house.

From the small sample size I have of my kids' friends, don't do it - none of them are happy with their step siblings.

Anonymous wrote:If your kids like him and his child and his child likes you and you are in love go for it. Ex’s can be a challenge or not. Your kind of post really attracts naysayers who are projecting their own lives.

More like it attracts realists, but I'm sure OP's situation will be the exception.

Well, exes will stay in your life no matter what. You can’t wait for their approval of your new spouse/partner.

If your kids like him and his child and his child likes you and you are in love go for it. Ex’s can be a challenge or not. Your kind of post really attracts naysayers who are projecting their own lives.

Anonymous wrote:Yes of course. That’s the best time to get remarried. Your love live is super important, and the kids are young so their won’t be problems with them not liking the new spouse. Why waste 10+ years being a single mom?

This is dilulu. If there is an ex involved on either side, many stepparents are hated simply for existing.