Anonymous
Post 06/12/2026 10:30     Subject: Formal summer weddings! Why??
Anonymous wrote:I don't "do" outdoor summer weddings. Makes me think the people getting married hate all their guests.


This. Indoor weddings in the summer are fine. Outdoor? Not in this climate or further south, no way.
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2026 06:51     Subject: Formal summer weddings! Why??
I absolutely love summer, heat and all. I am skeptical you whiners have friends who invite you places.
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2026 06:14     Subject: Formal summer weddings! Why??
If it’s truly formal it will be in the evening. Sandals aren’t going to cut it. It’s either white tie or black. The men will be really uncomfortable, far more than the women.
Ice packs inside the ball gown or waistcoat?
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2026 03:32     Subject: Re:Formal summer weddings! Why??
I think many people plan their weddings in the summer because there is less of a chance that the ceremony will be rained out.

That is the only reason I can think of.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2026 07:53     Subject: Formal summer weddings! Why??
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don't "do" outdoor summer weddings. Makes me think the people getting married hate all their guests.


I have declined several wedding and birthday party invites if they're taking place outdoors in high summer. If there's no beach/ lake/ pool at your summer party, I'm probably not going.


And I'm sure you're sorely missed. Not.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2026 07:26     Subject: Formal summer weddings! Why??
I went to a beach wedding in June in Florida that was formal, that was horrible! It should have been beachy chic but no the bride wanted formal. She was melting too.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2026 21:19     Subject: Formal summer weddings! Why??
I skip outdoor ceremonies but if the reception is indoors, I’ll show up to that if it’s an easy drive. That way I can skip all the uncomfortable heat and the boring blah blah blah and get to eat a free meal and drink free booze and dance if I feel like it. I leave early, too.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2026 20:48     Subject: Formal summer weddings! Why??
Anonymous wrote:I have no issue with a summer formal wedding or even a black tie wedding. I pretty much always have an issue with outdoor weddings though. I hate outdoor weddings, cocktail hours, or receptions. Air conditioning is a magical thing.

And most people don't have a choice when they get married. I chose the only date available in 1.5 years at my venue. It was a fall wedding though.


You chose to prioritize that venue though. Obviously you could have chosen to get married on a different date at a different place.

I'm not the anti summer weddings OP but this reasoning makes no sense.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2026 20:46     Subject: Formal summer weddings! Why??
Silk is breathable.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2026 13:36     Subject: Formal summer weddings! Why??
I have no issue with a summer formal wedding or even a black tie wedding. I pretty much always have an issue with outdoor weddings though. I hate outdoor weddings, cocktail hours, or receptions. Air conditioning is a magical thing.

And most people don't have a choice when they get married. I chose the only date available in 1.5 years at my venue. It was a fall wedding though.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2026 13:36     Subject: Formal summer weddings! Why??
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I love the ones who try to host a black tie affair but its outside??! Hell no. If it's not temperature controlled, it is not black tie.


I did it. Black tie in July. The only reason we did it was because the venue had air conditioning outside. Of course, it broke and ended up being hot as hell. I'm sorry to the universe!


"Air conditioning outside"?? To keep up with DC summer I can't imagine - no wonder it broke.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2026 13:32     Subject: Formal summer weddings! Why??
Anonymous wrote:I love the ones who try to host a black tie affair but its outside??! Hell no. If it's not temperature controlled, it is not black tie.


I did it. Black tie in July. The only reason we did it was because the venue had air conditioning outside. Of course, it broke and ended up being hot as hell. I'm sorry to the universe!
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2026 10:10     Subject: Formal summer weddings! Why??
Anonymous wrote:Don't go. You aren't that important to anyone other than your own ego. You won't be missed.


Wait is it egotistical to want to be comfortable and to want elderly guests to be able to attend and participate? Usually when decent people host an event they consider the comfort and well being of their guests.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2026 09:39     Subject: Formal summer weddings! Why??
Anonymous wrote:I think we may be invited to the same garden wedding in the breezy DC Summer (formal attire preferred as per invitation). Thunderstorms? Mosquitoes? Heat stroke? Melted cake? We will find out soon enough.. lol
See you there ;)


It’s just awful. Often the AC at the venue can’t keep up and it’s like being in a club but with taffeta stuck to people’s backs. The men are all pink and dripping with sweat.

For the outdoor pictures which they always want, uncle Ken has to try to push grandma through the grass in her wheelchair.

The bride then needs another half hour to unfrizz her hair and fix her makeup. It’s all awful.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 19:35     Subject: Formal summer weddings! Why??
Anonymous wrote:We had a summer wedding 20+ years ago because it was easier for our extended family with kids to attend (we had siblings with school-aged children traveling from CA and TX, FL and Rochester, NY). We lucked out, because while it was warm it wasn't humid.

I promise you there are a million reasons why people choose to get married on any particular date, and not a one of them gives a darn about your make-up or your outfit


Get married whenever you want but don't require formalwear! Seersucker and sundresses please.