Anonymous wrote:We have a wedding fund for DC. They can use it by 32 for a home if they prefer. We set this up when they were in ES so open to changes as we move through college ages.

What do you mean when you say “they can use it by 32 for a home if they prefer”?

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Anonymous wrote:26 is really young these days for a college-educated woman to get married. Why not wait until 30 or 35 and then give it as a down payment when she's ready to buy a home?

totally wrong and dangerous, this is when you should be married and having children

Wrong and dangerous lol

I'd talk to her about it so that she's aware that it exists.

Anonymous wrote:Not OP but question - how much is everyone saving for a wedding fund? We are normal class people, not rich.

We’re going to give 100-150k. We’re not rich either but only have one kid. I’ve already mentioned to her that she can use it for a wedding or a down payment, either is okay with us.

She's 26. At 40 you can talk to her about it.

I didn't specifically save for a "wedding fund". We simply saved money.. When my oldest son got married, we paid 50%.

As someone who did not meet my dh until 30, I would not mention it!

I dated and did have my heart broken once so my mom knew about that relationship but really it took from 26 - 30 to meet the one I’d marry. If my parents mentioned a wedding fund, I would not have done anything different.

Keep saving. Either give it to her to buy a house, take a sabbatical, or add to her portion of the will. Either way, you set the money aside for her. So very nice!

I hope by "saved" you mean invested. Keep it growing, OP. I got married at 23, but I know that 26 is young these days.

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Anonymous wrote:26 is really young these days for a college-educated woman to get married. Why not wait until 30 or 35 and then give it as a down payment when she's ready to buy a home?

totally wrong and dangerous, this is when you should be married and having children

It’s Young in Areas like DC in educated and successful women, but 24-27 seems to be the average age for marriage for less successful folks if you look at Reddit.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:26 is really young these days for a college-educated woman to get married. Why not wait until 30 or 35 and then give it as a down payment when she's ready to buy a home?

totally wrong and dangerous, this is when you should be married and having children

Disagree. You should not marry the wrong person and DEFINITELY should NOT have children with them. Better to be single for another ten years enjoying yourself than married to someone who is the wrong person for you.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:26 is really young these days for a college-educated woman to get married. Why not wait until 30 or 35 and then give it as a down payment when she's ready to buy a home?

totally wrong and dangerous, this is when you should be married and having children

Not if you haven’t found the right person or are building your career. Marrying the wrong person, ending up divorced etc is much more likely to result in lost years to have children.