Anonymous
Post 06/12/2026 15:37     Subject: Pet peeve -group gifts

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Group gifts for teachers and coaches are my pet peeve. Stop


Not thanking a volunteer coach for your kid is appallingly rude.


You can thank a volunteer coach by saying thank you, or writing a thank you card. If a volunteer coach is in it for the gift rather than the love of the game, then they shouldn't be volunteering.



Or maybe you could volunteer next time.
Or find something else for your kid.

When you volunteer for kids’ stuff parents who drop their kids off have no idea of the time, planning and unexpected money suck it becomes.

Once, someone calculating whether we’d spent over $100 dollars that year was clearly calculating whether their contribution to a token gift was merited.
We’d actually spent several thousand in addition to the volunteer time. Because we wanted to. And we never told the kids. But it was nice to get two bottles of (ordinary) wine and a thank you note.
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2026 05:06     Subject: Re:Pet peeve -group gifts

My Venmo got hacked. There was about 9 or 10 DoorDash transactions on the same date adding up to 600. I ask about Zelle because it is on my banking app.
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2026 03:29     Subject: Re:Pet peeve -group gifts

Oh…

I was under the impression that Venmo ➕ Zelle were very similar……
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2026 11:04     Subject: Pet peeve -group gifts

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I like the people who say "put me in for $20" and then just never pay....


Never had this happen.


Yes it does.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2026 11:00     Subject: Pet peeve -group gifts

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If I am collecting for a teacher or a coach or whatever, and I say cash or Venmo is fine, please don't email me asking if I take paypal or cash app or zelle or whatever. I'm not a store, or Ebay.


Maybe say “..for electronic payments, I only take Venmo.”


Saying you take Venmo is specific enough. People will still ask for something else because that’s what people do.


I’ve heard some people use Venmo as the generic expression for electronic payment. Kind of like some people say Kleenex for tissues, etc.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2026 10:42     Subject: Pet peeve -group gifts

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Maybe don’t collect. Most people have multiple ways to collect so perhaps someone else can do it.


NP and no. If someone else is doing the favor of taking the donations, you adjust to them. Cash and Venmo are king. Grow up and get Venmo.


Nope. Not getting Venmo
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2026 09:23     Subject: Pet peeve -group gifts

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Maybe don’t collect. Most people have multiple ways to collect so perhaps someone else can do it.


NP and no. If someone else is doing the favor of taking the donations, you adjust to them. Cash and Venmo are king. Grow up and get Venmo.


Cash and Venmo ARE multiple ways. How many different forms of payment do you need to chip in 20 bucks?
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2026 09:22     Subject: Pet peeve -group gifts

Anonymous wrote:Maybe don’t collect. Most people have multiple ways to collect so perhaps someone else can do it.


NP and no. If someone else is doing the favor of taking the donations, you adjust to them. Cash and Venmo are king. Grow up and get Venmo.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2026 09:15     Subject: Pet peeve -group gifts

I hate these too although I try hard to comply with the instructions.

I don’t have a good alternative so I’m grateful for the people who organize them.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2026 08:27     Subject: Pet peeve -group gifts

Anonymous wrote:I like the people who say "put me in for $20" and then just never pay....


Never had this happen.
Anonymous
Post 06/10/2026 08:26     Subject: Pet peeve -group gifts

Anonymous wrote:If I am collecting for a teacher or a coach or whatever, and I say cash or Venmo is fine, please don't email me asking if I take paypal or cash app or zelle or whatever. I'm not a store, or Ebay.

People are f’n stupid.
Anonymous
Post 06/09/2026 07:56     Subject: Pet peeve -group gifts

Anonymous wrote:I like the people who say "put me in for $20" and then just never pay....


I stopped organizing for multiple reasons but when I did, I would buy a gift card with what I had been given at the time. If people said they would pay and did before I gave it but after the gift card, I added that amount in cash in the envelope. If they gave it to me weeks later, I paid it forward to another coach or charity or next season. I was overpaying for almost every gift in the past! People are so strange. I would never do that to someone and especially someone I don’t even know well.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 23:42     Subject: Pet peeve -group gifts

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If I am collecting for a teacher or a coach or whatever, and I say cash or Venmo is fine, please don't email me asking if I take paypal or cash app or zelle or whatever. I'm not a store, or Ebay.


Maybe say “..for electronic payments, I only take Venmo.”


Saying you take Venmo is specific enough. People will still ask for something else because that’s what people do.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 22:31     Subject: Pet peeve -group gifts

I hate group gifts as you never really know where the money goes most of the time.
Anonymous
Post 06/08/2026 22:19     Subject: Pet peeve -group gifts

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Group gifts for teachers and coaches are my pet peeve. Stop


Then don't contribute.
Just don't ask OP if she takes bitcoin or rupees.


I don't know why this made laugh so hard, but thank you. I needed a giggle.