Anonymous wrote:It is becoming a big thing to have dress codes at weddings. There are wedding subreddits on Reddit and it is very common now.

There have always been dress codes. Black Tie. Casual. Business Casual. Whatever. Demanding a color is not a dress code, it's narcissistic social media crap.

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine just went to 3 color coordinated weddings in a row! She is a wealthy Indian and I believe the weddings were in India.

I've lived in India and been to multiple Indian weddings. Not an Indian custom unless the bride is insufferable too, just like here.

Its incredibly tacky and ill-mannered to try to dictate the color of guests' clothing. Formality level to match the time and venue: yes. "Wear pink and purple" is unbelievably gauche and trashy.

I think the request is awful, too, and requiring guests to shop beyond having formal or formal-ish clothing is unkind, assuming not everyone is very wealthy. People often have zero idea of when friends and acquaintances simply cannot afford extra, needless, expenses.

Bride is a control freak and/or social media addict.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I'd be pretty tempted to decline this invitation. It's hard enough to find an outfit that fits and is flattering; that it has to be a certain color just adds to the problem.

I'm also wondering what the color is!

I also think this request is awful. Simply awful. Your guests are not props or scenery in a play you are staging. WTF.

Completely agree. Unless this is a very close family member, I would decline.

+ 1.

Anonymous wrote:It is becoming a big thing to have dress codes at weddings. There are wedding subreddits on Reddit and it is very common now.

Just curious what drives this . . . color-coordinated photo ops for social media?

What color? Unless it's one I like, I'd just wear black or some other neutral and find shoes or a cute bag in whatever color I'm being dictated to wear.

Get a cheap scarf or pashmina in the requested color.

I need to know what color or colors they are demanding before I reply.

I’d wear what I have and then add the theme color as a scarf and jewelry, maybe shoes.

It is becoming a big thing to have dress codes at weddings. There are wedding subreddits on Reddit and it is very common now.

Unless I really loved the person getting married and could write this off as temporary insanity, I'd decline the invitation before I bought a new outfit. I think this is an absurd trend that's incredibly disrespectful of your guests.

If I didn't have the color they requested, I would just wear a understated black dress. Nothing showy that would cause people to even take notice. Then either stand in the back of what you know will be the required group photo, or step off to the side.

If it was someone where my attendance really didn't matter, I might decline the invitation.

The weddings I've been to in the last 6 or 8 years, many of the women wore a black cocktail dress.

What are the men supposed to wear - a tie in the desired color?

A friend of mine just went to 3 color coordinated weddings in a row! She is a wealthy Indian and I believe the weddings were in India.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I'd be pretty tempted to decline this invitation. It's hard enough to find an outfit that fits and is flattering; that it has to be a certain color just adds to the problem.

I'm also wondering what the color is!

I also think this request is awful. Simply awful. Your guests are not props or scenery in a play you are staging. WTF.

Completely agree. Unless this is a very close family member, I would decline.