Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sex.

I’m on my first day of period so really don’t want to. I normally don’t mind a few days into it, but first day is a mess for me.

You can always give a rub and tug.

Anonymous wrote:It wasn’t a huge thing, but he really triggered me. He knew he f’d up and apologized and I know I should get over it, but haven’t been able to. I want to because he’s going to be traveling all next week for work. Help me get over my anger please.

Get over your anger but getting under DH.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sex.

I’m on my first day of period so really don’t want to. I normally don’t mind a few days into it, but first day is a mess for me.

Could that be why you're reacting with stronger emotions than you'd like? Hormones are a b....

Take a deep breath and tell yourself to get over it. Distract your mind with other things. Pretend to feel happier than you do. Fake it, and soon you'll start feeling it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Exercise. Run, walk, something to release the tension. Life is too short to not be able to move on WHEN YOU WANT TO.

When my DH and I were first married, we promised to not go to bed mad. We work hard to be true to that promise, even if it means grudgingly saying: I'm still mad, but I love you anyway. Which somehow releases the anger and defuses the situation.

+1

We've never gone to bed mad.

this doesn’t work for everyone.

+1

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Exercise. Run, walk, something to release the tension. Life is too short to not be able to move on WHEN YOU WANT TO.

When my DH and I were first married, we promised to not go to bed mad. We work hard to be true to that promise, even if it means grudgingly saying: I'm still mad, but I love you anyway. Which somehow releases the anger and defuses the situation.

+1

We've never gone to bed mad.

this doesn’t work for everyone.

Agreed. My husband and I are happily married 20 years and decided at the beginning that sometimes you just need to get some sleep. Everything feels less terrible at 7am versus hashing crap out until the wee hours.

Same, just being too tired makes me angry so sometimes it’s just better to sleep and see if it’s still a big deal in the morning.

What the heck are you all fighting about? I've never been that angry at my husband. Of course, maybe I just don't deal with my anger ... push it down, folks, push it down.

This is why people need to learn how to do meditation because you are literally creating a situation in your brain. It doesn’t need to be there.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Exercise. Run, walk, something to release the tension. Life is too short to not be able to move on WHEN YOU WANT TO.

When my DH and I were first married, we promised to not go to bed mad. We work hard to be true to that promise, even if it means grudgingly saying: I'm still mad, but I love you anyway. Which somehow releases the anger and defuses the situation.

+1

We've never gone to bed mad.

That just means you just haven’t had big problems yet.

There have been 3 times in our 30 year marriage that I've been absolutely furious with my husband, once so angry that I almost packed up the then young kids and left. Actually considered it. 2 of the 3 times he completely apologized, one he said we had to agree to disagree. We are still happily married, but when I think of those 3 times (2 had to do with money, one had to do with one of his family members), my blood pressure still rises. So while I've mostly moved on, and I am 100% glad we are still married, I haven't completely forgotten

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Exercise. Run, walk, something to release the tension. Life is too short to not be able to move on WHEN YOU WANT TO.

When my DH and I were first married, we promised to not go to bed mad. We work hard to be true to that promise, even if it means grudgingly saying: I'm still mad, but I love you anyway. Which somehow releases the anger and defuses the situation.

+1

We've never gone to bed mad.

this doesn’t work for everyone.

Agreed. My husband and I are happily married 20 years and decided at the beginning that sometimes you just need to get some sleep. Everything feels less terrible at 7am versus hashing crap out until the wee hours.

Same, just being too tired makes me angry so sometimes it’s just better to sleep and see if it’s still a big deal in the morning.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Exercise. Run, walk, something to release the tension. Life is too short to not be able to move on WHEN YOU WANT TO.

When my DH and I were first married, we promised to not go to bed mad. We work hard to be true to that promise, even if it means grudgingly saying: I'm still mad, but I love you anyway. Which somehow releases the anger and defuses the situation.

+1

We've never gone to bed mad.

this doesn’t work for everyone.

Agreed. My husband and I are happily married 20 years and decided at the beginning that sometimes you just need to get some sleep. Everything feels less terrible at 7am versus hashing crap out until the wee hours.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Exercise. Run, walk, something to release the tension. Life is too short to not be able to move on WHEN YOU WANT TO.

When my DH and I were first married, we promised to not go to bed mad. We work hard to be true to that promise, even if it means grudgingly saying: I'm still mad, but I love you anyway. Which somehow releases the anger and defuses the situation.

+1

We've never gone to bed mad.

this doesn’t work for everyone.