People like that don’t age well over the years and they end up lonely. My parents were like that and their most genuine and normal friends drifted away and ghosted them. Over time even the superficial friends social climbed higher and faded off. My mother queen of knowing famous wealthy people, exotic travel and snubbing people she didn’t think were classy enough is now human social repellant. No longer gorgeous and connected and no longer able to hide the abusive side she saved for me she is dealing with the consequences of having screwed up values.

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Anonymous wrote:There are people who are not evolved.

I have no idea what you mean by "not evolved." OP described a pretty normal range of topics and it's a range of topics that goes back centuries. See Mrs. Bennet in Pride & Prejudice. And it's because it's normal human interest. Sorry most people aren't interested in discussing fake progressive ideologies.

DP
A normal ‘range’ of topics only includes wealthy people you know and fancy parties you or your dc attended? Interesting perspective you have…

Anonymous wrote:There are people who are not evolved.

I have no idea what you mean by "not evolved." OP described a pretty normal range of topics and it's a range of topics that goes back centuries. See Mrs. Bennet in Pride & Prejudice. And it's because it's normal human interest. Sorry most people aren't interested in discussing fake progressive ideologies.

Some truth to it..

Ignore
Find new friends
Listen be happy for others

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Anonymous wrote:This is a damned if you do damned if you don't thing. People sensitive to how others, like op, feel get accused of being secretive about their trips. You can't talk about your kids because that's annoying to others, same goes for politics, hobbies, food, movies and at least one person will feel left out of the topic and feel sour about it. Try to chill out and be more accepting

This is so strange. No one objected to any of those things. I think the point is that discussions SOLELY focused on shallow and material things can be boring. It’s odd that you don’t see that

Well, I would way rather hear about someone’s travel or hobbies than their damn kids and how brilliant their damn kids are. Talk about boring.

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Anonymous wrote:We just got together and talked about:

- what gets packed for lunch on the last day of school
-perimenopause and histamines
- Girl Scout cookie selling strategies
- sleepaway camp
- orthopedists
- matzoh ball soup
- Indiana (and more specifically, IU)
- stationery and the practice of sending ppl at work cards for various reasons

This is more like the convos I'm involved in. If travel is mentioned it's because people inquired and people are genuinely interested/want recommendations, etc. We're more likely to ask about tofu-pressing tips.

Just found out from my circle that microwaving tofu for 3 -4 minutes eliminates the need to press!

Uh no. In fact, that would automatically alienate you from the group. Don’t name drop or boast. It’s low class.

Anonymous wrote:We just got together and talked about:

- what gets packed for lunch on the last day of school
-perimenopause and histamines
- Girl Scout cookie selling strategies
- sleepaway camp
- orthopedists
- matzoh ball soup
- Indiana (and more specifically, IU)
- stationery and the practice of sending ppl at work cards for various reasons

This is more like the convos I'm involved in. If travel is mentioned it's because people inquired and people are genuinely interested/want recommendations, etc. We're more likely to ask about tofu-pressing tips.

Anonymous wrote:Who went to what party/event/game/vacation/beach house, etc, including which ones your dc were invited to?

Yes I am stealing topics but just curious. I see/hear a lot of this lately in some of my circles and it is so BORING

Although maybe it’s just safer to talk about this stuff than politics

Fake posts on DCUM are what’s boring, and you. Get a life.

Anonymous wrote:This is a damned if you do damned if you don't thing. People sensitive to how others, like op, feel get accused of being secretive about their trips. You can't talk about your kids because that's annoying to others, same goes for politics, hobbies, food, movies and at least one person will feel left out of the topic and feel sour about it. Try to chill out and be more accepting

This is so strange. No one objected to any of those things. I think the point is that discussions SOLELY focused on shallow and material things can be boring. It’s odd that you don’t see that

This is a damned if you do damned if you don't thing. People sensitive to how others, like op, feel get accused of being secretive about their trips. You can't talk about your kids because that's annoying to others, same goes for politics, hobbies, food, movies and at least one person will feel left out of the topic and feel sour about it. Try to chill out and be more accepting

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who went to what party/event/game/vacation/beach house, etc, including which ones your dc were invited to?

Yes I am stealing topics but just curious. I see/hear a lot of this lately in some of my circles and it is so BORING

Although maybe it’s just safer to talk about this stuff than politics

You can talk about these things without it being a "pissing contest."

Your perception of it as a pissing contest may be more about your perspective than about anything these people in your "circles" are doing. At any rate, if it is all-caps BORING, maybe you need new friends and acquaintances.

Found the shallow one in the group!

Found the insecure one!

DP. It’s not insecure to not want to hear people brag about boring things

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Again, every time this question comes up:

You are who your friends are!

Change your friends or stop complaining.

Note that this is also in the family thread so people are likely commenting on family members too.

Anonymous wrote:Who went to what party/event/game/vacation/beach house, etc, including which ones your dc were invited to?

Yes I am stealing topics but just curious. I see/hear a lot of this lately in some of my circles and it is so BORING

Although maybe it’s just safer to talk about this stuff than politics

No, they aren’t. It’s your circles.

Again, every time this question comes up:

You are who your friends are!

Change your friends or stop complaining.