Anonymous wrote:Yes. What kind of school’s this that a 5th grader is cussing your kid out?

I subbed in an "excellent" top district a couple of years ago. I heard a 2nd grading cussing someone out.

Late to the thread but I agree to keep her home today. And I would be down at school, sitting in the front office until the principal had ten minutes to meet, preferably with her homeroom teacher as well.

I would let her stay home!

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Anonymous wrote:No. She needs to stick up for herself and tell the kids "I TOLD the principal I didn't see anything."

And your claim she doesn't know anyone at recess holds no water - did she start at this school yesterday? It's been over half a year of school - surely she's met people.

Nope she’s been here her whole time. There are 6 classes and nearly everyone in her class is new to her except for some of the boys. I’m not sure if the other kids are new students or just were in other classes in previous grades. It’s recess she doesn’t have friends at. For lunch she can at least talk to her friends in the lunch line sometimes. It seems dumb to me you can’t choose where you sit but I’m sure they had issues with open seating.

You just said it again - that the kids are new students and everyone in her class is new to her. But she's spent ALL YEAR with these kids - if she hasn't made friends to play with at recess then she needs more time do build friendships. Nobody who started in August/September is NEW anymore. It's the END of the school year. Regardless, you don't stay home unless you're sick.

This happened to me 50 (!!) years ago in 5th grade, in a school I had attended since kindergarten. I didn't know any of the girls in the class at the beginning of the school year, and only a couple of the boys. It was weird. I never had any problem with bullying and was a pretty self- sufficient kid who did ok in those circumstances, but I didn't make friends with any of the girls that entire year. I never before or after had trouble making friends. I just didn't click with anyone that year. Sometimes that happens.

At this point in the year, OP's DD spending one more day in the company of these kids is not going to make any relationships suddenly materialize. Quit being a jackass.

What a baby

For future: write principal and counselors that your DC is not to be removed from her daily schedule (whether class time, lunch, recess, whatever) to discuss actions of any other child. If they would want to talk to DC, you must be called before hand and present.

Yes. What kind of school’s this that a 5th grader is cussing your kid out?

My daughter changed schools in 4th grade. They were all meeting in the cafeteria with their classmates. She went to sit with them and I left. Unfortunately the two meanest girls in the school globbed on to her. There are always new girls in schools.

I can’t imagine not being able to have conversations with classmates at lunch time. What are her classmates doing at recess?

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Anonymous wrote:No. She needs to stick up for herself and tell the kids "I TOLD the principal I didn't see anything."

And your claim she doesn't know anyone at recess holds no water - did she start at this school yesterday? It's been over half a year of school - surely she's met people.

Nope she’s been here her whole time. There are 6 classes and nearly everyone in her class is new to her except for some of the boys. I’m not sure if the other kids are new students or just were in other classes in previous grades. It’s recess she doesn’t have friends at. For lunch she can at least talk to her friends in the lunch line sometimes. It seems dumb to me you can’t choose where you sit but I’m sure they had issues with open seating.

You just said it again - that the kids are new students and everyone in her class is new to her. But she's spent ALL YEAR with these kids - if she hasn't made friends to play with at recess then she needs more time do build friendships. Nobody who started in August/September is NEW anymore. It's the END of the school year. Regardless, you don't stay home unless you're sick.

DP. Stop. OP obviously meant the other kids were new to her DD at the beginning of the year. And 5th is a tough year to create friendships with other kids if you don't have some kind of existing knowledge, and even worse if the kids already have established friend groups and therefore little motivation to let someone else in.

Emotional/mental health is a perfectly good reason to stay home for one day, especially in a situation like this.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree. Go for it. I'd also ask the principal if she can finish out the year in one of the other classes

This.

The answer is No. They are not going to change someone's class for the last few weeks of school.

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Anonymous wrote:No. She needs to stick up for herself and tell the kids "I TOLD the principal I didn't see anything."

And your claim she doesn't know anyone at recess holds no water - did she start at this school yesterday? It's been over half a year of school - surely she's met people.

Nope she’s been here her whole time. There are 6 classes and nearly everyone in her class is new to her except for some of the boys. I’m not sure if the other kids are new students or just were in other classes in previous grades. It’s recess she doesn’t have friends at. For lunch she can at least talk to her friends in the lunch line sometimes. It seems dumb to me you can’t choose where you sit but I’m sure they had issues with open seating.

You just said it again - that the kids are new students and everyone in her class is new to her. But she's spent ALL YEAR with these kids - if she hasn't made friends to play with at recess then she needs more time do build friendships. Nobody who started in August/September is NEW anymore. It's the END of the school year. Regardless, you don't stay home unless you're sick.