Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You stop donating. And every time someone from development contacts you, you tell them "no" and why it's "no."

Donate? I only donate where I went to school. My “donation” to where my kids attended was done in the form of tuition.

When a tradition is there with multiple family members, alum, etc., they get more donations due to the generational ties the family has with the school. OP’s school lost out and made a dumb decision.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You stop donating. And every time someone from development contacts you, you tell them "no" and why it's "no."

Donate? I only donate where I went to school. My “donation” to where my kids attended was done in the form of tuition.

That's you. But it's not everyone, and it may not be OP . . . until now.

We had this happen. Second child was admitted to 4 Ivies but not the older sibling's school despite having a great anpplication and applying ED1. They went elsewhere, got a 4.0 and applied as a transfer, got in and are going in the fall as a sophomore. First child has a 4.0 at the school in question it wasn't like they've burnt any bridge either.

It's a hard situation because you want to tell the school to f-off but you have a child there AND you're paying them a lot of money. I'm looking forward to putting this behind us and going all-in at this school.

Anonymous wrote:You stop donating. And every time someone from development contacts you, you tell them "no" and why it's "no."

Donate? I only donate where I went to school. My “donation” to where my kids attended was done in the form of tuition.

Anonymous wrote:is the younger sibling a girl? it's easier for boys to get in.

this happened with my two older sisters. my younger sister arguably had a better record. but my older sister was more beloved by the teachers - I bet my older one had better recs.

It actually isn’t easier for top STAT boys, often it’s harder. There is so much gender separation in the majors. Engineering, physics, math, and economics are oversubscribed by boys. History, english , area studies , and other humanities along with nursing and education are oversubscribed by girls. Biology is about even. A lower scoring girl will get in over a higher scoring boy in the hard sciences. A lower scoring boy will get in over a higher scoring boy for humanities.

Anonymous wrote:I get it, it leaves a sour taste and you don’t want it to spoil your previous good feelings with the oldest having a positive experience. The process is so unpredictable, too many capable for too few seats. I hope it softens with time and your kid is even more happy where they end up.

Thank you.

I get it, it leaves a sour taste and you don’t want it to spoil your previous good feelings with the oldest having a positive experience. The process is so unpredictable, too many capable for too few seats. I hope it softens with time and your kid is even more happy where they end up.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I assume that a perfect stats student has some other good option. Think of it as a blessing in disguise that they aren't at the same school so you can stop comparing them.

This. In the long run this is probably healthy for all involved.

We don’t compare and they both wanted to be at the same school.

Anonymous wrote:is the younger sibling a girl? it's easier for boys to get in.

this happened with my two older sisters. my younger sister arguably had a better record. but my older sister was more beloved by the teachers - I bet my older one had better recs.

Nope both boys

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You stop donating. And every time someone from development contacts you, you tell them "no" and why it's "no."

Yeah. That’s the plan. lol

So you're older kid is happy and doing great at this school but you won't donate because the younger one didn't get in?

I wouldn't, either.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You stop donating. And every time someone from development contacts you, you tell them "no" and why it's "no."

Yeah. That’s the plan. lol

So you're older kid is happy and doing great at this school but you won't donate because the younger one didn't get in?

100% sib was just as strong, if not stronger

The fact they took another kid with lesser stats and no connection, I won’t lie, that would seriously piss me off.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You stop donating. And every time someone from development contacts you, you tell them "no" and why it's "no."

Yeah. That’s the plan. lol

So you're older kid is happy and doing great at this school but you won't donate because the younger one didn't get in?

is the younger sibling a girl? it's easier for boys to get in.

this happened with my two older sisters. my younger sister arguably had a better record. but my older sister was more beloved by the teachers - I bet my older one had better recs.

Anonymous wrote:I assume that a perfect stats student has some other good option. Think of it as a blessing in disguise that they aren't at the same school so you can stop comparing them.

This. In the long run this is probably healthy for all involved.