Anonymous
05/24/2026 13:56
Subject: Predicting spousal support
Anonymous wrote:Be honest, you didn't really want to work all that much and preferred being home with the kids rather than enduring corporate or office drudgery. It's a totally fine and understandable preference, but own it. You were relieved that husband's high salary could accommodate that lifestyle preference even if it could potentially end up in a result like this. Well, welcome to the result...
Time to start taking accountability for your choices and preferences and, ultimately, life by probably getting a job now rather than fretting too much over a spousal support settlement.
This.
Anonymous
05/24/2026 13:33
Subject: Predicting spousal support
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Be honest, you didn't really want to work all that much and preferred being home with the kids rather than enduring corporate or office drudgery. It's a totally fine and understandable preference, but own it. You were relieved that husband's high salary could accommodate that lifestyle preference even if it could potentially end up in a result like this. Well, welcome to the result...
Time to start taking accountability for your choices and preferences and, ultimately, life by probably getting a job now rather than fretting too much over a spousal support settlement.
Why would you say this to someone?
Maybe because its true.
Anonymous
05/24/2026 13:25
Subject: Re:Predicting spousal support
Pay attention to retirement and pension too because DH was likely earning that more while you were working part time. Also, did DH have an affair? That could give you leverage in Virginia. I know, divorce attorneys that hire PIs to find out this type of information to help their clients.
Anonymous
05/24/2026 13:23
Subject: Predicting spousal support
Anonymous wrote:Married 20 years and got alimony for 10 years, until youngest was 16. The decision we made TOGETHER for me to do majority of parenting was honored. Also got over 50% of his retirement and full ownership of home.
Aim high.
Leech
Anonymous
05/24/2026 13:23
Subject: Predicting spousal support
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. No oxygen for the troll.
Good, ignore them. Now there’s two!
You deserve alimony, the house, and part of his retirement.
Disagree. That’s not fair to him or his future partner.
Anonymous
05/24/2026 13:20
Subject: Predicting spousal support
Anonymous wrote:Don't bother asking here, this is a lawyer question. In my state, 20 years = alimony for life but I have seen cases where that changes based on educational background, earning potential (even if you didn't work to potential during the marriage), time left with kids under 18 at home, and division of assets. If he makes a ton and you are dividing enormous assets there is not much reason for spousal support on top of that. If you are walking away with even few million that's more than a lot of people still married have accumulated.
What does enormous mean?
Anonymous
05/24/2026 12:44
Subject: Predicting spousal support
Don't bother asking here, this is a lawyer question. In my state, 20 years = alimony for life but I have seen cases where that changes based on educational background, earning potential (even if you didn't work to potential during the marriage), time left with kids under 18 at home, and division of assets. If he makes a ton and you are dividing enormous assets there is not much reason for spousal support on top of that. If you are walking away with even few million that's more than a lot of people still married have accumulated.
Anonymous
05/24/2026 12:33
Subject: Predicting spousal support
Anonymous wrote:OP here. No oxygen for the troll.
Good, ignore them. Now there’s two!
You deserve alimony, the house, and part of his retirement.
Anonymous
05/24/2026 12:28
Subject: Predicting spousal support
OP here. No oxygen for the troll.
Anonymous
05/24/2026 11:30
Subject: Predicting spousal support
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Be honest, you didn't really want to work all that much and preferred being home with the kids rather than enduring corporate or office drudgery. It's a totally fine and understandable preference, but own it. You were relieved that husband's high salary could accommodate that lifestyle preference even if it could potentially end up in a result like this. Well, welcome to the result...
Time to start taking accountability for your choices and preferences and, ultimately, life by probably getting a job now rather than fretting too much over a spousal support settlement.
Be honest. You are a total loser who has no friends and who has parents who regret your conception. That’s why you spend your time trolling anonymous message boards.
Hit dog will holler.
Anonymous
05/24/2026 11:06
Subject: Predicting spousal support
Come on now OP. Be real with us.
I'm a military spouse that runs a successful business despite the demands of my husband's career. I also started that business asa single Mom. It IS possible. But it takes a commitment to make it work.
That said, you'll now need to figure it out. Unfortunately you'll also live at a different lifestyle than before. It is what is it. You supported someone else's success rather than creating your own. You've got that chance now.
I'm a military spouse that runs a successful business despite the demands of my husband's career. I also started that business asa single Mom. It IS possible. But it takes a commitment to make it work.
That said, you'll now need to figure it out. Unfortunately you'll also live at a different lifestyle than before. It is what is it. You supported someone else's success rather than creating your own. You've got that chance now.
Anonymous
05/24/2026 11:03
Subject: Predicting spousal support
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Be honest, you didn't really want to work all that much and preferred being home with the kids rather than enduring corporate or office drudgery. It's a totally fine and understandable preference, but own it. You were relieved that husband's high salary could accommodate that lifestyle preference even if it could potentially end up in a result like this. Well, welcome to the result...
Time to start taking accountability for your choices and preferences and, ultimately, life by probably getting a job now rather than fretting too much over a spousal support settlement.
Why would you say this to someone?
There's this incel who has started dominating the relationship forum. I wish Jeff could ban him.
Anonymous
05/24/2026 10:58
Subject: Predicting spousal support
Anonymous wrote:Be honest, you didn't really want to work all that much and preferred being home with the kids rather than enduring corporate or office drudgery. It's a totally fine and understandable preference, but own it. You were relieved that husband's high salary could accommodate that lifestyle preference even if it could potentially end up in a result like this. Well, welcome to the result...
Time to start taking accountability for your choices and preferences and, ultimately, life by probably getting a job now rather than fretting too much over a spousal support settlement.
Why would you say this to someone?
Anonymous
05/24/2026 10:45
Subject: Predicting spousal support
Anonymous wrote:Be honest, you didn't really want to work all that much and preferred being home with the kids rather than enduring corporate or office drudgery. It's a totally fine and understandable preference, but own it. You were relieved that husband's high salary could accommodate that lifestyle preference even if it could potentially end up in a result like this. Well, welcome to the result...
Time to start taking accountability for your choices and preferences and, ultimately, life by probably getting a job now rather than fretting too much over a spousal support settlement.
Be honest. You are a total loser who has no friends and who has parents who regret your conception. That’s why you spend your time trolling anonymous message boards.
Anonymous
05/24/2026 10:39
Subject: Re:Predicting spousal support
Interview several attorneys not just one