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Anonymous wrote:Op my kid has awful dysgraphia and other disabilities and the reaction of teachers to my kid's issues with motor skills was one of the worst issues I had to face. Most teachers blame parents for the child's inability to write. We had 20 iep meetings one year because the football coach/math teacher (he was a horrible teacher) was angry about my kid's dysgraphia and in our first IEP meeting asked why we hadn't taught our kid to write. He bullied and tormented our very scared child. We had to get lawyers and advocates involved.

The ignorance about dysgraphia by school staff is astounding. My kid's case manager and the Vice Principal responsible for special ed at my kid's high school had no idea what dsygraphia is.

We had a teacher like this - bullying DC and me about dysgraphia. I kept getting notes home asking me to stop scribing for my DC because the teacher thought by doing that I was coddling him and that I was the reason he couldn’t write. Once the teacher called me on the phone and I had to ask, “did you read the neuropsych report I gave you at the beginning of school?” OFC, the teacher had not. I had to cite the page of the report where I was explicitly advised to scribe homework.

That teacher did such permanent damage to DC’s self-esteem that recently, when DC graduated from college (14 years after he had this teacher), DC actually said, “can you imagine if Mr. X could see me graduating from college with honors? Remember how mean he was to me and how he always treated me like I was stupid?”

I would note hold 20 IEP meetings for a non-compliant teacher. First failure to comply with an IEP gets a polite email to teacher outlining facts of failure to comply and reminding that IEp compliance is a legal obligation. Second failure to comply gets a polite email to principal noting facts of second failure to comply, attaching email chain about first failure to comply, and asking principal to provide “professional education and any necessary resources to bring teacher X into compliance with the IEP”. Third failure to comply gets failure #1 and #2 along with details of failure #3 forwarded to either the associate superintendent of special education or the superintendent with a closing line that says, “I look forward to having this matter resolved within 24 hours so that I do not have to resort to my due process options.”

All emails after the first are also copied to the non-compliant teacher. No one likes to be called out in front of their boss. Smart people also don’t like that a written record of non-compliance in a legal obligation is being created.

IF you’re a teacher and you get fired because I am calling out your failure to fulfill your legal duty, that is not my problem. Teaching is a professional job and if you can’t meet your professional obligations you do not belong in the profession.

Anonymous wrote:Op my kid has awful dysgraphia and other disabilities and the reaction of teachers to my kid's issues with motor skills was one of the worst issues I had to face. Most teachers blame parents for the child's inability to write. We had 20 iep meetings one year because the football coach/math teacher (he was a horrible teacher) was angry about my kid's dysgraphia and in our first IEP meeting asked why we hadn't taught our kid to write. He bullied and tormented our very scared child. We had to get lawyers and advocates involved.

The ignorance about dysgraphia by school staff is astounding. My kid's case manager and the Vice Principal responsible for special ed at my kid's high school had no idea what dsygraphia is.

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Anonymous wrote:Teacher just sent them an email that I was copied on. questioning why something was not done in the allotted 15 minutes…also seemed as if they were viewing typing as some sort of special gift.

OP at my kids' school, with most teachers there wouldn't be an email. Just a zero on the grade book - and they would move on without a second thought. Is that what you would prefer?

Not op, but pull that sh*t on my kid and I call an IEP meeting so fast they wouldn't know what hit them. Willfully ignore my kids accommodations and see what happens. I can call a meeting every day of the week if I need.

If you are the teacher described, you need to be removed from your job.

DP and I'm not sure your hostility/escalation is necessary.

Yes, your child has an IEP that should / must be followed. So do about 1/3rd of the students in the class. The teacher is just one human trying to fulfill the required accommodations for every single student in the class simultaneously. Teachers are not able to draw from a well of supernatural powers, which is what teaching in 2026 seems to require.

And I say this as a parent of a child with an IEP. I want my child's IEP to be met, as it should be. But I also know what the teacher is up against, so I'm not going to demand they are "removed from the job" considering the job is completely, 100% impossible now.

You're a lousy teacher if you know a kid has an iep and you're giving them 0s while ignoring their accommodations. Do that to my kid and watch what happens.

Okay. So you’re going to escalate with hostility. Gotcha. Good luck.

OP here-- the teacher did not give my kid a "0" -- I was writing more about the tone and how she handled it (seemed to be coming from a place of blame/wrongdoing VS help)

You need to develop a thicker skin. And don’t assume that the teacher was 100% at fault. There are many kids who misuse the extended time accomodation.

Anonymous wrote:9th grader has very slow processing speed and dysgraphia and a new IEP (moved from 504) that finally allows extra time.

Teacher just sent them an email that I was copied on. questioning why something was not done in the allotted 15 minutes…also seemed as if they were viewing typing as some sort of special gift.

It’s a tough day for them (exams) and a few other sh.. things that are happening. Hate that they have to deal with this too.

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Anonymous wrote:Teacher just sent them an email that I was copied on. questioning why something was not done in the allotted 15 minutes…also seemed as if they were viewing typing as some sort of special gift.

OP at my kids' school, with most teachers there wouldn't be an email. Just a zero on the grade book - and they would move on without a second thought. Is that what you would prefer?

Not op, but pull that sh*t on my kid and I call an IEP meeting so fast they wouldn't know what hit them. Willfully ignore my kids accommodations and see what happens. I can call a meeting every day of the week if I need.

If you are the teacher described, you need to be removed from your job.

DP and I'm not sure your hostility/escalation is necessary.

Yes, your child has an IEP that should / must be followed. So do about 1/3rd of the students in the class. The teacher is just one human trying to fulfill the required accommodations for every single student in the class simultaneously. Teachers are not able to draw from a well of supernatural powers, which is what teaching in 2026 seems to require.

And I say this as a parent of a child with an IEP. I want my child's IEP to be met, as it should be. But I also know what the teacher is up against, so I'm not going to demand they are "removed from the job" considering the job is completely, 100% impossible now.

You're a lousy teacher if you know a kid has an iep and you're giving them 0s while ignoring their accommodations. Do that to my kid and watch what happens.

Okay. So you’re going to escalate with hostility. Gotcha. Good luck.

OP here-- the teacher did not give my kid a "0" -- I was writing more about the tone and how she handled it (seemed to be coming from a place of blame/wrongdoing VS help)

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Anonymous wrote:Teacher just sent them an email that I was copied on. questioning why something was not done in the allotted 15 minutes…also seemed as if they were viewing typing as some sort of special gift.

OP at my kids' school, with most teachers there wouldn't be an email. Just a zero on the grade book - and they would move on without a second thought. Is that what you would prefer?

Not op, but pull that sh*t on my kid and I call an IEP meeting so fast they wouldn't know what hit them. Willfully ignore my kids accommodations and see what happens. I can call a meeting every day of the week if I need.

If you are the teacher described, you need to be removed from your job.

DP and I'm not sure your hostility/escalation is necessary.

Yes, your child has an IEP that should / must be followed. So do about 1/3rd of the students in the class. The teacher is just one human trying to fulfill the required accommodations for every single student in the class simultaneously. Teachers are not able to draw from a well of supernatural powers, which is what teaching in 2026 seems to require.

And I say this as a parent of a child with an IEP. I want my child's IEP to be met, as it should be. But I also know what the teacher is up against, so I'm not going to demand they are "removed from the job" considering the job is completely, 100% impossible now.

You're a lousy teacher if you know a kid has an iep and you're giving them 0s while ignoring their accommodations. Do that to my kid and watch what happens.

Okay. So you’re going to escalate with hostility. Gotcha. Good luck.

Anonymous wrote:Op my kid has awful dysgraphia and other disabilities and the reaction of teachers to my kid's issues with motor skills was one of the worst issues I had to face. Most teachers blame parents for the child's inability to write. We had 20 iep meetings one year because the football coach/math teacher (he was a horrible teacher) was angry about my kid's dysgraphia and in our first IEP meeting asked why we hadn't taught our kid to write. He bullied and tormented our very scared child. We had to get lawyers and advocates involved.

The ignorance about dysgraphia by school staff is astounding. My kid's case manager and the Vice Principal responsible for special ed at my kid's high school had no idea what dsygraphia is.

Anonymous wrote:For all we know it was a 5 min assignment that the teacher allocated 15 min for. Maybe your kid was horsing around. Since he can still finish the work, I would not get bent out of shape over a slightly snarky email. Being overprotective is not helpful to your child in the long run. Even if your child was being perfect and the teacher was off base, you have to pick your battles and model that for your child. I imagine teachers are completely burnt out by this time of year.

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Anonymous wrote:Teacher just sent them an email that I was copied on. questioning why something was not done in the allotted 15 minutes…also seemed as if they were viewing typing as some sort of special gift.

OP at my kids' school, with most teachers there wouldn't be an email. Just a zero on the grade book - and they would move on without a second thought. Is that what you would prefer?

Not op, but pull that sh*t on my kid and I call an IEP meeting so fast they wouldn't know what hit them. Willfully ignore my kids accommodations and see what happens. I can call a meeting every day of the week if I need.

If you are the teacher described, you need to be removed from your job.

DP and I'm not sure your hostility/escalation is necessary.

Yes, your child has an IEP that should / must be followed. So do about 1/3rd of the students in the class. The teacher is just one human trying to fulfill the required accommodations for every single student in the class simultaneously. Teachers are not able to draw from a well of supernatural powers, which is what teaching in 2026 seems to require.

And I say this as a parent of a child with an IEP. I want my child's IEP to be met, as it should be. But I also know what the teacher is up against, so I'm not going to demand they are "removed from the job" considering the job is completely, 100% impossible now.

You're a lousy teacher if you know a kid has an iep and you're giving them 0s while ignoring their accommodations. Do that to my kid and watch what happens.

Okay. So you’re going to escalate with hostility. Gotcha. Good luck.

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Anonymous wrote:To be clear, was the 15 minutes the extended time or was the extended time not given? In the case of the latter, I would send a polite reminder of the IEP- many gen ed teachers don’t see it unless the case manager sends it out, so it is possible the teacher doesn’t know

15 minutes was the original amount of time. It was one of those classes where they rotate stations within a group; so lots of chaos, back noise and a bunch of teens. 15 minutes probably wasn't enough for all but the fastest most on the ball. Though they still have the time to complete the work the email itself felt like they were being called out for not using their typing *quickly* (teacher essentially thinks; since you are "allowed" to type this should be fast). They are still allowed to complete the assignment / no penalty but the email so late in the school year felt unnecessary (they likely only have a couple more total).

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Anonymous wrote:Teacher just sent them an email that I was copied on. questioning why something was not done in the allotted 15 minutes…also seemed as if they were viewing typing as some sort of special gift.

OP at my kids' school, with most teachers there wouldn't be an email. Just a zero on the grade book - and they would move on without a second thought. Is that what you would prefer?

Anonymous wrote:I am not the PP, but I would also immediately escalate a situation where my kid was getting zeros instead of their documented accommodations. Calling an IEP meeting gets the attention of everyone who needs to be on board. I would not describe that reaction as hostile.