Are there any men out there that aren't interested in having children?

Almost every post here is about women having children with men who aren't aren't interested in having children.

Anonymous wrote:The issue is that you're giving them a reason why you don't want to have kids. And it's not something that's insurmountable (you could do IVF/adoption/surrogacy).

Instead you just need to say that you don't want kids. That's the real reason after all.

IVF/adoption/surrogacy are extremely stressful for physical, mental, marital and financial health. If OP doesn't want that hurdle, its not a character flaw, just an educated preference.

OP is fine not wanting to go through it and simultaneously its also fine for a man for not agreeing to it. Both of them can find people who want similar things in their marriage.

The issue is that you're giving them a reason why you don't want to have kids. And it's not something that's insurmountable (you could do IVF/adoption/surrogacy).

Instead you just need to say that you don't want kids. That's the real reason after all.

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your ex was just a jerk.

I have a friend who she and her husband wanted kids but it didn't work out for them (she had severe endo and had multiple ectopic pregnancies). He didn't leave.

If they weren't engaged or married, just dating then it was wise to end it. Its one thing for a married couple to want and try for something and settle for their bad luck if didn't work but here they weren't married and weren't on same page about a major issue in a marriage.

*+drain marital relationship as well

Don't have children, through IVF or adoption if you aren't willing to deal with any struggles. Parenthood drains physical, mental, social, professional and financial heath, it's not for the faint of heart.

Men who want to be good husbands usually want to be good fathers too. You may find single and young unicorns who can be good partners without wanting children but they might change their mind.

Anonymous wrote:There are men out there that aren't interested in children but not many of them. Not wanting children can limit your pool a lot.

I understand how hard it is for you right now but I'd try having at least one if I were in your place. Children are amazing and will compensate for whatever difficulty you might be having at the moment. Don't deny yourself such a beautiful experience.

Your post should be removed. You are so ridiculously limited in your thinking. I have kids and I wanted them but I have zero problem with people who don't want kids. Next time do everyone a favor and just don't post. No one needs to hear your trash opinion.

My DH didn’t want any. I was 32 when we met and he was a bit older. I think the older ones who are not yet married and don’t have kids are often the ones who don’t necessarily want kids. People around DCUM will rant that if a man is late 30s or older and never married with no kids, or god forbid divorced, there is something horribly wrong with him. But that is not necessarily the case.

There are probably plenty of potential partners out there for you.

Anonymous wrote:Most of the 30-something men I’ve dated don’t really want kids, it’s more of a “I’d have them if my partner wanted them”.

I think very, very few men actually want kids the way many women do. So you should be able to find someone.

+1 agree

Anonymous wrote:It's a biological drive, but yes there are plenty of men out there who don't want kids.

I would say most men shouldn't even have kids. They are not willing to give up their selfish lifestyle. The majority of childcare and housechores are still done by FT working moms.

I've always wanted children, but my wife doesn't. I don't want to raise children with someone who doesn't want to, and I don't want to leave her.

So I'd rather have no children.

Anonymous wrote:This is where online dating is helpful. You can be upfront about what you want

I do have a profile although I prioritize meeting offline. Feel more comfortable that way. I have "childfree" on my profile but sometimes wonder if that words has a bad connotation.

Anonymous wrote:There are men out there that aren't interested in children but not many of them. Not wanting children can limit your pool a lot.

I understand how hard it is for you right now but I'd try having at least one if I were in your place. Children are amazing and will compensate for whatever difficulty you might be having at the moment. Don't deny yourself such a beautiful experience.

As somebody that tried to conceive while dealing with infertility and health problems I'm finding this advice extremely tone deaf