Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 21:50     Subject: If you wanted someone to think well of you...
Anonymous wrote:Jeans are too casual and read low class/unprofessional.

I always wear black slacks and nice shoes to such appointments. Depending on weather, I usually wear a blouse and blazer. I essentially dress like I would for work. I carry a nice handbag as well.



How old are you?

Jeans are fine. They just have to be the right jeans.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 21:50     Subject: Re:If you wanted someone to think well of you...
I agree with others that I would not wear jeans in this situation. My usual go to would be black pants but any solid color would be fine, except no bright colors.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 21:22     Subject: If you wanted someone to think well of you...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Blue


Black. Black is always the answer. Chic, slimming, matches everything.


Only if you’re under 40. This rule goes out the window as you age. Few older women look good in black.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 21:04     Subject: If you wanted someone to think well of you...
Dark jeans with a short sleeve black blouse and flats or a simple navy blue cotton dress. No jewelry or makeup other than tinted SPF and lip gloss. Neatly styled hair.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 20:57     Subject: Re:If you wanted someone to think well of you...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't wear jeans to this. Simple dress (no loud patterns/colors or big details like bell sleeves) and flats and minimal jewelry and makeup would be my choice.


To a child's doc appt? This thread is so weird.


I get the sense it’s related to a child’s neurodiversity / mental health specialist, hence OP’s focus on wanting to be perceived a certain way. If that’s the case, OP’s reaction is the right one because they are correct that the specialist is also evaluating the parent(s) as part of the child’s broader evaluation and care plan.


As a parent of two NeuroDiverse children, I’ll tell you the practitioners Don’t give a flip if I’m wearing my cute workout outfit, a bulky sweater because it’s cold or a prom dress.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 20:56     Subject: If you wanted someone to think well of you...
Anonymous wrote:Blue


Black. Black is always the answer. Chic, slimming, matches everything.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 20:54     Subject: If you wanted someone to think well of you...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Jeans are too casual and read low class/unprofessional.

I always wear black slacks and nice shoes to such appointments. Depending on weather, I usually wear a blouse and blazer. I essentially dress like I would for work. I carry a nice handbag as well.



Jeans are not low class, and who uses terms like slacks and handbag? My mother is literally 80 and she doesn’t talk like this. She also wears jeans (gasp).


Go read one of the countless dcum threads on what it means to be old money, upper class, polished, etc.

ICYMI: some of us were raised a certain way and use certain words. How one expresses themselves speaks volumes on many levels.

Poking fun by insinuating that I am old or uncool says more about you, pp.

Anyway, setting all this aside: if the op wants to be taken seriously, then she should dress the part. I’ve literally changed my clothes and shoes before heading to the ER. Why? Because everyone treats you differently based on your appearance. When I’m the patient advocate, I dress my best.

Nice jeans with leather flats and a blazer are fine. Tattered hem jeans and sneakers foster a power differential.


OP here. Honestly, this advice is helpful. The person I'm meeting is from this world and while I am not going to have a personal relationship with them, I don't want the to subconsciously think less of me because of how I'm dressed. I am someone who wears (nice) sweats most days, with no makeup and my hair in a ponytail. That doesn't feel appropriate here. I want advice from people who are kind of judgmental about how others dress because the person I'm meeting might be as well and I need to make a good impression.


NP. Don't wear sweats - even your "nice" ones that don't say anything on the butt or down one leg. You can wear jeans without holes with loafers and a boatneck shirt or button down white shirt (unwrinkled). Wear your hair down - can you blow it out? Don't spend money on a blowout, but do it yourself. Brush your teeth - in the last week I've had TWO meetings with people who had horrific breath. Total turnoff. Either no nail polish or do it the day before, but no chipped nail polish.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 20:51     Subject: Re:If you wanted someone to think well of you...
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't wear jeans to this. Simple dress (no loud patterns/colors or big details like bell sleeves) and flats and minimal jewelry and makeup would be my choice.


Are you Southern?
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 20:29     Subject: Re:If you wanted someone to think well of you...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't wear jeans to this. Simple dress (no loud patterns/colors or big details like bell sleeves) and flats and minimal jewelry and makeup would be my choice.


To a child's doc appt? This thread is so weird.


I get the sense it’s related to a child’s neurodiversity / mental health specialist, hence OP’s focus on wanting to be perceived a certain way. If that’s the case, OP’s reaction is the right one because they are correct that the specialist is also evaluating the parent(s) as part of the child’s broader evaluation and care plan.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 17:11     Subject: If you wanted someone to think well of you...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Jeans are too casual and read low class/unprofessional.

I always wear black slacks and nice shoes to such appointments. Depending on weather, I usually wear a blouse and blazer. I essentially dress like I would for work. I carry a nice handbag as well.



Jeans are not low class, and who uses terms like slacks and handbag? My mother is literally 80 and she doesn’t talk like this. She also wears jeans (gasp).


Go read one of the countless dcum threads on what it means to be old money, upper class, polished, etc.

ICYMI: some of us were raised a certain way and use certain words. How one expresses themselves speaks volumes on many levels.

Poking fun by insinuating that I am old or uncool says more about you, pp.

Anyway, setting all this aside: if the op wants to be taken seriously, then she should dress the part. I’ve literally changed my clothes and shoes before heading to the ER. Why? Because everyone treats you differently based on your appearance. When I’m the patient advocate, I dress my best.

Nice jeans with leather flats and a blazer are fine. Tattered hem jeans and sneakers foster a power differential.


OP here. Honestly, this advice is helpful. The person I'm meeting is from this world and while I am not going to have a personal relationship with them, I don't want the to subconsciously think less of me because of how I'm dressed. I am someone who wears (nice) sweats most days, with no makeup and my hair in a ponytail. That doesn't feel appropriate here. I want advice from people who are kind of judgmental about how others dress because the person I'm meeting might be as well and I need to make a good impression.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 17:00     Subject: If you wanted someone to think well of you...
It is perfectly fine to wear jeans to a doctors appointment and PTC, particularly if you planned to wear a blazer and nice shoes. At that point, your clothes would not be in the way of making a good impression.

The people who say jeans are low class or casual see bad jeans or have limited experience.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 15:19     Subject: If you wanted someone to think well of you...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Jeans are too casual and read low class/unprofessional.

I always wear black slacks and nice shoes to such appointments. Depending on weather, I usually wear a blouse and blazer. I essentially dress like I would for work. I carry a nice handbag as well.



Jeans are not low class, and who uses terms like slacks and handbag? My mother is literally 80 and she doesn’t talk like this. She also wears jeans (gasp).


Go read one of the countless dcum threads on what it means to be old money, upper class, polished, etc.

ICYMI: some of us were raised a certain way and use certain words. How one expresses themselves speaks volumes on many levels.

Poking fun by insinuating that I am old or uncool says more about you, pp.

Anyway, setting all this aside: if the op wants to be taken seriously, then she should dress the part. I’ve literally changed my clothes and shoes before heading to the ER. Why? Because everyone treats you differently based on your appearance. When I’m the patient advocate, I dress my best.

Nice jeans with leather flats and a blazer are fine. Tattered hem jeans and sneakers foster a power differential.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 15:09     Subject: If you wanted someone to think well of you...
I would dress preppy. Natural makeup, neat hair, tasteful jewelry, clean handbag and shoes without obvious logos.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 14:16     Subject: If you wanted someone to think well of you...
Blue
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 12:14     Subject: Re:If you wanted someone to think well of you...
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't wear jeans to this. Simple dress (no loud patterns/colors or big details like bell sleeves) and flats and minimal jewelry and makeup would be my choice.


To a child's doc appt? This thread is so weird.