Anonymous
Post 05/18/2026 10:17     Subject: Feeling uneasy about friend’s beneficiary designation

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sounds fake.


You’ve never heard stories about women who will do literally anything to hold on to a loser man? Even let him abuse her kids? It’s more common than it should be.


No people are saying it's FAKE because you can witness a signature without the witness being privy to the ins and outs of a will, codicil, etc.

If the OP's friend is real and told OP all of this (dumping) in addition to wanting a witness signature, you can just refuse.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 19:44     Subject: Re:Feeling uneasy about friend’s beneficiary designation

My usual advice is MYOB, but in this case, I wouldn't do it. She will likely find someone else to witness and your friendship will be harmed by your refusal, but this is REAL STAKES and she is a making a HUGE MISTAKE.
Anonymous
Post 05/17/2026 19:41     Subject: Feeling uneasy about friend’s beneficiary designation

Drop this friend she's an AH.
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2026 13:28     Subject: Feeling uneasy about friend’s beneficiary designation

Talk to her face to face and calmly, firmly reiterate your concerns. Don’t be vague, ask specific questions. What is going to happen to Kid 1 in x scenario?
Anonymous
Post 05/16/2026 05:11     Subject: Feeling uneasy about friend’s beneficiary designation

Anonymous wrote:Sounds fake.


You’ve never heard stories about women who will do literally anything to hold on to a loser man? Even let him abuse her kids? It’s more common than it should be.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2026 21:03     Subject: Re:Feeling uneasy about friend’s beneficiary designation

You’ve said your piece, leave it at that. She asked you to witness her signature, not agree with her personal decisions. And certainly not to repeat your views more than once. You were well within your rights to decide if you wanted to witness her signature, but not to then repeatedly express your disapproval of her personal choices.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2026 20:26     Subject: Feeling uneasy about friend’s beneficiary designation

I’d tell her that I had serious doubts back then and they’ve just gotten stronger and would she please talk to a professional because i think she’s making a huge mistake.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2026 17:06     Subject: Feeling uneasy about friend’s beneficiary designation

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sounds fake.


I never care but this does sound fake. I just did beneficiaries via power of attorney and didn't need witnesses; just a notary.


This may be dependent on the retirement plan administrator rules.
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2026 14:49     Subject: Feeling uneasy about friend’s beneficiary designation

I witnessed my dad's roommate's will at the nursing home. Had no idea who his beneficiaries were. Put the family (who asked) me couldn't be witnesses for obvious reasons. Because they probably were beneficiaries
Anonymous
Post 05/15/2026 14:48     Subject: Feeling uneasy about friend’s beneficiary designation

Plus if you do need witnesses you are just getting your signature witnessed. They don't even need to see the "business" happening on the document, whatever the document is.