Anonymous
Post 05/15/2026 06:17     Subject: Boys don't go to prom?
Anonymous wrote:Mine isn’t going because he didn’t fill out the paperwork in time despite several reminders from me and the school, he’s disappointed. Guessing it’s not usually the case that boys miss prom for executive function reasons but that’s our story.


What paperwork? You mean he didn’t buy a ticket?
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2026 22:13     Subject: Re:Boys don't go to prom?
Anonymous wrote:These dances have been hijacked into a whole elaborate performative scene for social media. Promposals, photos, party buses. pre-parties, etc.

It sucks. It’s no longer a fun party. Lots of kids barely go the actual prom. Boys are opting out.


My senior went to dinner and down to the memorials to take pictures with a bunch of guys. They then met up with a group of women and they hung out at somebody’s house. Nobody went to the actual prom best I could tell.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2026 20:21     Subject: Boys don't go to prom?
I think boys just don’t take the big group pics or if they do, their parents are less likely to post them online. Like 2 guys in a suit ? It’s just not an insta moment. Girls put more effort into it and want photo ops. Guys don’t usually care. All the group guy pics I’ve seen are when they are all long time childhood friends.

Lots of kids go including boys and don’t make a big deal about it. Our school only does senior prom and most kids go.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2026 09:59     Subject: Boys don't go to prom?
I have boys, they go to prom.

Boys post less. Like barley. Definitely not posed photos.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2026 09:57     Subject: Boys don't go to prom?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My nephew did this crazy elaborate prom ask for his girlfriend with a treasure map, photos and nonsense like it was way above and beyond. I guess this is what a pp meant by "promposal". Honestly when I first saw the picture I thought they were engaged. It's honestly too much if this is common and expected now.


I don’t think it’s nearly as common or expected as the internet might have you think. Or it varies regionally or even by school. I wasn’t aware of any of this happening at my kid’s school.

It's happening in PA and MD, that's for sure. I find it ridiculous, too.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2026 09:56     Subject: Boys don't go to prom?
Anonymous wrote:My boys went to prom, but you will find no evidence of that on line.

+1 DS went with a bunch of boys. Three of them had a date, and five didn't.

My DD is about to go with 6 girls, and 3 guys, only 2 are official dates.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2026 09:50     Subject: Boys don't go to prom?
Anonymous wrote:My nephew did this crazy elaborate prom ask for his girlfriend with a treasure map, photos and nonsense like it was way above and beyond. I guess this is what a pp meant by "promposal". Honestly when I first saw the picture I thought they were engaged. It's honestly too much if this is common and expected now.


I don’t think it’s nearly as common or expected as the internet might have you think. Or it varies regionally or even by school. I wasn’t aware of any of this happening at my kid’s school.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2026 09:49     Subject: Re:Boys don't go to prom?
Anonymous wrote:In 2026, why on earth would a cisgender boy go to prom?


?? Why wouldn’t he?
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2026 09:48     Subject: Re:Boys don't go to prom?
In 2026, why on earth would a cisgender boy go to prom?
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2026 08:10     Subject: Boys don't go to prom?
Mine isn’t going because he didn’t fill out the paperwork in time despite several reminders from me and the school, he’s disappointed. Guessing it’s not usually the case that boys miss prom for executive function reasons but that’s our story.
Anonymous
Post 05/14/2026 01:04     Subject: Re:Boys don't go to prom?
Anonymous wrote:These dances have been hijacked into a whole elaborate performative scene for social media. Promposals, photos, party buses. pre-parties, etc.

It sucks. It’s no longer a fun party. Lots of kids barely go the actual prom. Boys are opting out.


newsflash

most girls prefer going with their girlfriends than boys

The social boys go with groups of guys or ask girls they are friends with. The ones staying home are this generations introvert gamers who dont socialize anyway.

in my daughters school i would say there might have been 5 total promposals and they are couples already dating. most kids if they ask, just ask normally. Mine was asked by a guy friend, going in a small group, no pre party, driving themselves and getting dinner after.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2026 21:34     Subject: Boys don't go to prom?
I think boys do go but don’t care about photos so you don’t see them online. My older son went in 2022 and didn’t share any photos with me. He and his girlfriend met up with friends for photos but I never saw them. My current senior was going to go with a group of all guys but then decided to ask someone so now he is going on a double date and will meet up with the others later. The boys don’t care about the photos. I’m not sure I will have any to post.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2026 21:00     Subject: Boys don't go to prom?
My nephew did this crazy elaborate prom ask for his girlfriend with a treasure map, photos and nonsense like it was way above and beyond. I guess this is what a pp meant by "promposal". Honestly when I first saw the picture I thought they were engaged. It's honestly too much if this is common and expected now.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2026 09:42     Subject: Boys don't go to prom?
Anonymous wrote:DS is in middle school, so this is purely an observation. I have been noticing in group prom photos being shared that it's 2-1 or 3-1 girls and boys. Some groups have no boys. I haven't seen anything equal or groups of just boys. My friends in other parts of the country are noticing the same thing. Here it's senior prom only and I saw a lot of junior girls going and realized they are going as dates with senior girls (whether as friends or more). No way all of these schools are 70% girls, is this an overall trend?



My daughter is a senior and saw her pictures and videos, there was a ratio of 2-1 even 3-1 of girls and boys, most boys went to prom is because they had a date, if they didn't they did something else.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2026 06:12     Subject: Boys don't go to prom?
Anonymous wrote:Not new. I went with a group of girls to senior prom. The only boy who asked me was my ex from the previous year, who'd refused to dance at junior prom, but also didn't want me to have fun without him, so I had to sit at the table with him all evening while everyone else was on the dance floor. Not signing up for that again.

The boys I knew didn't go, found dates, or (in his case) went and moped when he was "abandoned" for in favor of dancing.


Similar. I went with a date junior year and it was awkward and I did not have a good time. Senior year I had a BF but went with a group of friends instead. He didn’t want to go at all.

Now I have a son and daughter. My son, a senior, has never been to any dance and we haven’t pressured him. A few friends have gone but most aren’t into them.

DD loves it all and does the pre parties, complete with decorations and getting ready photos. It’s all girls.