I would be very upset but am on the fence on whether or not I would have the right to be.

I have been in your situation and I get it - - feeling left out sucks.

Anonymous wrote:people have lost their minds. and their manners. I don't know why everyone is just "bucket-listing" and treating each other like they don't matter. I'm sorry you went through that. I would probably say something to the local friend the next time you see them. Or you might want to reevaluate whether you see them as a priority/close friend anymore.

Why point fingers at the local friend? The local friend isn't at fault in this situation. The issue lies with the out of state friend. They failed to inform OP about their visit. It's likely they mentioned it to the local friend since they met up. It wasn't the local friend's duty to notify OP about the out of state friend's schedule. Perhaps the out of state friend preferred to keep their visit a secret from OP. If they intended to meet with OP, it was up to them to reach out and set that up.