Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you two just don't have that much in common anymore OP.

People who are emotionally healthy and intelligent can connect with people even if they don’t have everything in common. I have single friends and I know to ask them about their pets who are like children to them

+1 this

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you two just don't have that much in common anymore OP.

People who are emotionally healthy and intelligent can connect with people even if they don’t have everything in common. I have single friends and I know to ask them about their pets who are like children to them

If we don’t have much in common and you ask me about my pets or my kids, I would find it creepy.

Does she not have kids because she doesn’t want them, or because she couldn’t have them?

Or was she raped as a child and doesn’t have kids because she’s terrified to bring a vulnerable child into this broken world? And would you even know if that was the case?

Many people who were terribly abused as children NEVER tell their friends and loved ones; many never even get therapy. Many only disclose in anonymous support groups, which was the only place I ever talked about it until my 50s when I finally disclosed to a therapist. Most of my very close friends and family know nothing about it.

I love my friends’ children and my nieces and nephews but it hurts me to be too close to them. You might look into attachment disorder and think about which kind your friend might have. What looks like self centeredness to a shallow thinker might in fact be profound pain.

Anonymous wrote:She shows me pics of her life, talks about her issues etc and it’s like my world with dc doesn’t exist. When I mention them, she quickly rushes over the topic, often pathologizing them (if I mention dc has attention issues at school “oh he probably is on the spectrum and has ADD, you should get him on meds’ and then quickly pivots back to her life.

It’s tiring. Wwyd?

I realize this a childless woman are bad mean and selfish troll post but humor us OP what exactly is she supposed to respond to you? Exactly how long should she talk about your kids? If this is real, I bet OP s like most moms who doesn't realize how much she talks about her kids and the same issues sh'e probably heard that story of your kid's attention issues at school 1000 times, and she's sick of it, and you ignore the suffestions from the pediatrician and the teacher because you think if you just stop red dye he'll be fine.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you two just don't have that much in common anymore OP.

People who are emotionally healthy and intelligent can connect with people even if they don’t have everything in common. I have single friends and I know to ask them about their pets who are like children to them

Maybe you two just don't have that much in common anymore OP.

I don't ask my friends about their kids unless they bring it up themselves. That's their private life and I respect their boundaries.

Sadly, my sister was like this. She rarely asked me about my children or grandchildren. She passed away but I never held it against her. She was just self centered.

This behavior is VERY common the DMV

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t care to hear about kids.

I don't care about dogs but ask about my friends' dogs all the time. When you care an out someone, you care about the things and people that matter to them.

Not PP and this is true BUT I know some people who discuss certain topics in annoying way so I don’t care to talk about those issues with them. For example, I love dogs, but I have a friend who thinks her dog is incredibly unique and she talks on and on about the special diet the dog is on and what the dog therapist has to say about things and I just don’t care. So who knows what OP is like when it comes to discussing her kids. Maybe it’s her, maybe it’s the friend.

I knew someone like this. Then she and her wife fostered a kid for a hot second and it was “oh the six year old” this and “the six year old” that.

B, hush. You never asked me once about my kids or myself. I don’t care to hear about your cosplaying.

Anonymous wrote:That’s not a friend, OP. A friend cares about the things that are important to you.

I would consider them an acquaintance, as PP said, and I’d spend very little time with them. They aren’t your real friend.

+1.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t care to hear about kids.

I don't care about dogs but ask about my friends' dogs all the time. When you care a out someone, you care about the things and people that matter to them.

Anonymous wrote:You do not have marriage or kids as common topics.

So, you are foolish if you expect her to have great insights. She is giving you as much knowledge she has because this is not a shared experience of parenthood for her.

Why don't you just enjoy her company? Remember that your thoughts alone can make life and life situations blissful or hellish. So, go do something constructive or go for a walk.

So if your friend is ill and you do not have illness as a common topic, you can just brush the topic aside whenever she speaks of it. /s What nonsense

Anonymous wrote:I don’t care to hear about kids.

It's not like op is scrolling through the photos on her phone asking you to look how cute her kids are. If you are friends with someone who has children, you ought to be interested in their lives. Ignoring or eschewing a friend's kid is a slap in the face. You aren't a friend to a parent. You are an acquaintance or self absorbed a hole.