Anonymous
Post 05/10/2026 17:12     Subject: How concerned should I be?
Anonymous wrote:I shocked one of mother's friends when I told her, as a young adult, that I did not expect to live past 40. She was past 40.

It's one of those things that immature youngsters say, OP. Don't read too much into it. It's not that I didn't enjoy my life. At that age, it just seemed like the years stretched ahead of me endlessly.

Now I'm 46 and I feel that the years fly by. I tell this to my kids: soon enough, the passage of time will accelerate.





Np, and agreed. I distinctively remember thinking 40 was the start of old age when I was 12. Perspectives shift as you age. The only thing that jumped out as unusual in op's post is a 17 year old who needs her roots retouched.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2026 17:06     Subject: How concerned should I be?
What could possibly have been repetitive at 18? She may be trying to sound cool. I remember wishing I had experienced some drama so I would appear less shallow and inexperienced.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2026 16:57     Subject: Re:How concerned should I be?
Keep an eye out.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2026 10:21     Subject: How concerned should I be?
Anonymous wrote:Did she say it with vocal fry?


I love you so much
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2026 10:16     Subject: How concerned should I be?
Anonymous wrote:For a teenager who get her roots touched up, sounds like a case of affluenza.



Ha!
This.
Anonymous
Post 05/09/2026 20:15     Subject: Re:How concerned should I be?
Does she plan to marry her BF?
Anonymous
Post 05/09/2026 19:02     Subject: Re:How concerned should I be?
Sounds normal for a 18 year old.
Anonymous
Post 05/09/2026 17:31     Subject: How concerned should I be?
Anonymous wrote:Did she say it with vocal fry?

😂
Anonymous
Post 05/09/2026 15:36     Subject: Re:How concerned should I be?
Anonymous wrote:I was worried because I didn’t know whether her behavior and thinking were normal at her age, especially the sleeping part, but I guess it can be normal. She doesn’t exercise, no. And she didn’t say it in a vocal fry either, just her normal voice. She dyes her hair because she’s 18 and like a lot of young women her age she cares about her appearance, so I don’t really see how that’s unusual. We do not live in DC, we live in Utah, my husband is from DC, and lives and works in DC most of the year. She does have a boyfriend of two years, and is active with him, yes, which also seems pretty normal for an 18 year old. Academically she’s doing well, and taking calc in 12th grade, she’s just not very interested in activities. By repetitive, she doesn’t really mean her daily schedule in HS, just life in general, including adult life, (waking up, eating, etc). Her dad passed away when she was 5, so blended family.

I’m not sure why some she doesn’t sound like a normal teenager, but I’ll keep an eye on it. It seems like this kind of thinking can be normal at her age.


There’s your problem. Highest rates of antidepressant use in the country.
Anonymous
Post 05/09/2026 15:23     Subject: Re:How concerned should I be?
Anonymous wrote:I was worried because I didn’t know whether her behavior and thinking were normal at her age, especially the sleeping part, but I guess it can be normal. She doesn’t exercise, no. And she didn’t say it in a vocal fry either, just her normal voice. She dyes her hair because she’s 18 and like a lot of young women her age she cares about her appearance, so I don’t really see how that’s unusual. We do not live in DC, we live in Utah, my husband is from DC, and lives and works in DC most of the year. She does have a boyfriend of two years, and is active with him, yes, which also seems pretty normal for an 18 year old. Academically she’s doing well, and taking calc in 12th grade, she’s just not very interested in activities. By repetitive, she doesn’t really mean her daily schedule in HS, just life in general, including adult life, (waking up, eating, etc). Her dad passed away when she was 5, so blended family.

I’m not sure why some she doesn’t sound like a normal teenager, but I’ll keep an eye on it. It seems like this kind of thinking can be normal at her age.


She gets along with you, doing well in school, has a BF, takes care of her appearance, these are all good signs. I guess just sign her up for therapy and gym. Encourage her to get a job and join a charity during summer. She is going to college soon so that's a nice change to reset her view of life.
Anonymous
Post 05/09/2026 14:17     Subject: Re:How concerned should I be?
Anonymous wrote:I was worried because I didn’t know whether her behavior and thinking were normal at her age, especially the sleeping part, but I guess it can be normal. She doesn’t exercise, no. And she didn’t say it in a vocal fry either, just her normal voice. She dyes her hair because she’s 18 and like a lot of young women her age she cares about her appearance, so I don’t really see how that’s unusual. We do not live in DC, we live in Utah, my husband is from DC, and lives and works in DC most of the year. She does have a boyfriend of two years, and is active with him, yes, which also seems pretty normal for an 18 year old. Academically she’s doing well, and taking calc in 12th grade, she’s just not very interested in activities. By repetitive, she doesn’t really mean her daily schedule in HS, just life in general, including adult life, (waking up, eating, etc). Her dad passed away when she was 5, so blended family.

I’m not sure why some she doesn’t sound like a normal teenager, but I’ll keep an eye on it. It seems like this kind of thinking can be normal at her age.

This kind of changes it for me. It might be normal teen ennui but I think I would encourage therapy with that history.
Anonymous
Post 05/09/2026 14:09     Subject: Re:How concerned should I be?
I was worried because I didn’t know whether her behavior and thinking were normal at her age, especially the sleeping part, but I guess it can be normal. She doesn’t exercise, no. And she didn’t say it in a vocal fry either, just her normal voice. She dyes her hair because she’s 18 and like a lot of young women her age she cares about her appearance, so I don’t really see how that’s unusual. We do not live in DC, we live in Utah, my husband is from DC, and lives and works in DC most of the year. She does have a boyfriend of two years, and is active with him, yes, which also seems pretty normal for an 18 year old. Academically she’s doing well, and taking calc in 12th grade, she’s just not very interested in activities. By repetitive, she doesn’t really mean her daily schedule in HS, just life in general, including adult life, (waking up, eating, etc). Her dad passed away when she was 5, so blended family.

I’m not sure why some she doesn’t sound like a normal teenager, but I’ll keep an eye on it. It seems like this kind of thinking can be normal at her age.
Anonymous
Post 05/09/2026 13:59     Subject: How concerned should I be?
Anonymous wrote:For a teenager who get her roots touched up, sounds like a case of affluenza.


This. Also if she is still in high school she probably does repeat the same schedule every single week, with little to no variation.

My parents had an extremely structured life, which I now understand as a middle aged woman, but as a teen looked horribly boring and unfulfilling.

She will leave home (hopefully) and go to college and find some things that interest her, unless her spirit has been completely broken.
Anonymous
Post 05/09/2026 13:55     Subject: How concerned should I be?
I’m 50 and want yo die when I start going downhill. I’ve never wanted to live a long life.
Anonymous
Post 05/09/2026 13:40     Subject: How concerned should I be?
Anonymous wrote:For a teenager who get her roots touched up, sounds like a case of affluenza.


I had a similar take. She's just so bored with her hair, her clothing and accessories, her car, her trips and her parent's obsession with getting her in the "right" school. It sounds like suburban ennui. Maybe she needs more meaningful interactions with the world?