Anonymous
05/11/2026 22:35
Subject: Re:Should I wait about 10 years?
My partner is mid-60s. He married and had his first DC while in his mid-20s.
Anonymous
05/11/2026 15:06
Subject: Re:Sld I wait about 10 years?
Anonymous wrote:The problem is that someone who is okay with you having a young kid might also have a young kid. The last thing I'd want is to date a man with children still living at home. I did it once. He had a 16-yr-old and a 21-yr-old. Both daughters. His ex-wife was all up in his business since they still had raising the kids in common. And his ex was a hot mess. (Lots of skanky boyfriends and would move in with these random men and then get kicked out.) They both indulged their kids in ways that I would never tolerate. (Didn't insist on college in exchange for living expenses post-HS and didn't insist on decent grades from the one still in HS.)
I ended up with a man who has kids from a prior marriage. His ex is also a hot mess. But his two sons are very normal and successful adults who are fully launched and have young families of their own now. My DC really enjoys him being in our lives. He is a resource to my DC (career and school advice) but doesn't try to tell him how to live his life.
My advice is to wait until your kids are away at college.
How old is your partner if this two young sons already have families ? Is he in his late 60s? There very uncommon for 50s men
Anonymous
05/11/2026 15:02
Subject: Re:Sld I wait about 10 years?
The problem is that someone who is okay with you having a young kid might also have a young kid. The last thing I'd want is to date a man with children still living at home. I did it once. He had a 16-yr-old and a 21-yr-old. Both daughters. His ex-wife was all up in his business since they still had raising the kids in common. And his ex was a hot mess. (Lots of skanky boyfriends and would move in with these random men and then get kicked out.) They both indulged their kids in ways that I would never tolerate. (Didn't insist on college in exchange for living expenses post-HS and didn't insist on decent grades from the one still in HS.)
I ended up with a man who has kids from a prior marriage. His ex is also a hot mess. But his two sons are very normal and successful adults who are fully launched and have young families of their own now. My DC really enjoys him being in our lives. He is a resource to my DC (career and school advice) but doesn't try to tell him how to live his life.
My advice is to wait until your kids are away at college.
I ended up with a man who has kids from a prior marriage. His ex is also a hot mess. But his two sons are very normal and successful adults who are fully launched and have young families of their own now. My DC really enjoys him being in our lives. He is a resource to my DC (career and school advice) but doesn't try to tell him how to live his life.
My advice is to wait until your kids are away at college.
Anonymous
05/11/2026 10:49
Subject: Re:Should I wait about 10 years?
Anonymous wrote:How many children do you have total??
Sure there are some men who will not want to date a woman w/young children but there are also plenty that wouldn’t have an issue w/that at all.
I wouldn’t want to wait until I turn fifty to date - - I think it is okay to casually date now - - just make sure your no.#1 priority in life are your kids. ❤️
This. The pickings are slim at 40 and you might as well get started now.
Anonymous
05/11/2026 10:48
Subject: Should I wait about 10 years?
Anonymous wrote:I think a preschooler will be less of a problem than a teen when you bring someone new around
THIS
Anonymous
05/11/2026 10:41
Subject: Should I wait about 10 years?
Anonymous wrote:My youngest is 4, should I wait about 10 years before seriously entertaining dating? I've been divorced for one year and turn 40 this year. My best friend told me most men aren't seriously interested in women with young children.
I wouldn't date if I already put a child through a bad marriage, a divorce and a broken family. This shouldn't be about what men want, it should be about what you want for your child, you being distracted and random men involved in life, isn't likely to help them but only you can decide what works for you.
Anonymous
05/11/2026 07:35
Subject: Should I wait about 10 years?
She wants you
Anonymous
05/08/2026 06:21
Subject: Should I wait about 10 years?
I would date now. I would not introduce a new man to your child unless you've been together more than a year.
Anonymous
05/07/2026 23:38
Subject: Re:Should I wait about 10 years?
How many children do you have total??
Sure there are some men who will not want to date a woman w/young children but there are also plenty that wouldn’t have an issue w/that at all.
I wouldn’t want to wait until I turn fifty to date - - I think it is okay to casually date now - - just make sure your no.#1 priority in life are your kids. ❤️
Sure there are some men who will not want to date a woman w/young children but there are also plenty that wouldn’t have an issue w/that at all.
I wouldn’t want to wait until I turn fifty to date - - I think it is okay to casually date now - - just make sure your no.#1 priority in life are your kids. ❤️
Anonymous
05/07/2026 22:09
Subject: Should I wait about 10 years?
NP. You deserve to have a companion who loves and respects you, and to have your kids see their mom treated with love and respect. If you are ready for a new relationship, start dating.
Anonymous
05/07/2026 21:41
Subject: Should I wait about 10 years?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You don't need "most men" you just need one.
No you don’t. Most women fare better without men. Have some fun if you like (but be VERY safe) but a relationship is a horrible idea.
+1
I divorced at 42 with kids who were five and eight. I’m now 48 and I would never have a serious relationship having my kids. It is too messy. have some fun on the side and that is it. I think it’s absolutely stupid to put kids and dating together.
Anonymous
05/07/2026 21:26
Subject: Should I wait about 10 years?
Anonymous wrote:My youngest is 4, should I wait about 10 years before seriously entertaining dating? I've been divorced for one year and turn 40 this year. My best friend told me most men aren't seriously interested in women with young children.
What do you need a man for? You can take care of yourself and raise your child as a single mom. Stop thinking that you need a man to be fulfilled in life. A man is going to ruin your life. Didn’t you already go through this with your ex?
Anonymous
05/07/2026 16:22
Subject: Should I wait about 10 years?
Anonymous wrote:You don't need "most men" you just need one.
No you don’t. Most women fare better without men. Have some fun if you like (but be VERY safe) but a relationship is a horrible idea.
Anonymous
05/07/2026 15:51
Subject: Should I wait about 10 years?
Anonymous wrote:My youngest is 4, should I wait about 10 years before seriously entertaining dating? I've been divorced for one year and turn 40 this year. My best friend told me most men aren't seriously interested in women with young children.
Is your best friend married with kids?
Anonymous
05/07/2026 15:49
Subject: Should I wait about 10 years?
Anonymous wrote:No, it's better to do this young. Teenagers will really hate being forced to "blend".
+1. I cannot even imagine the drama of bringing a new life partner into a 14 year old’s life. But really, you have to be very, very careful here. Blended families are super difficult. And the statistics are that stepdads and stepbrothers can be difficult to assess from a predator perspective. Being a stepmom isnt a particularly great role either. You need to really get a handle on who you think these people are before bringing the kids into the mix.