What do you actually want?

Here is my attempt to answer:

Like in life, in relationships, all of

I want a fun companion. She should be smart, empathetic, interesting and attractive. She should be horny frequently and enjoy having sex with me.

How can women make things better for you?

She can be calming when things are stressful. She can remind me of good things about me when things are going badly. She can be horny frequently and enjoy having sex with me..

What makes you feel respected or valued?

I feel respected and valued when a woman expresses and her conduct shows respect, and when she says and her conduct shows she values me. Talk is good but talk is cheap. She also has to be horny frequently and enjoy having sex with me.

What do you want from the woman you’re with?

I want stimulating conversation, honesty, intellect, and kindness. She also should be horny frequently and and enjoy having sex with me.

What kind of woman do you actually want to date?

I want to date a smart, kind, funny, attractive woman.
Age is unimportant if she's younger. If she's older, she better be incredible.She also should be horny frequently and enjoy having sex with me.


And do you think men are devalued right now?

I think women think that because men are bad at expressing their emotions, men must not have emotions. That's a common attitude and it's really dumb. Some women also don't realize how important men are in their lives and the lives of their children.

Anonymous wrote:55 y.o. male lawyer here, make around $400k, have 2 DC's, one wife.
Generally, life is pretty good, as I get to do spend time on what I love: my DC's, family, work, exercising, and a few hours a week on my obscure hobby.
What would I like?
1) i wish everyone (my wife and DC's) appreciated how demanding it is to come up with the $20k per month that is required to keep the household running. I'm not saying that we don't live well, but that private school, that big house, all those school extra curricular activities aren't free, and I'm the one responsible for them. On top of that, I still have to attend recitals, teach them how to ride a bike, and be a therapist when a DC is having an emotional crisis.
2) I also LOVE it when my wife makes the effort to look hot. After everything that I do for (1), it's a nice reward that I wish I got more often.

Sad that you perceive these parenting activities as obligations/burdens.

Anonymous wrote:55 y.o. male lawyer here, make around $400k, have 2 DC's, one wife.
Generally, life is pretty good, as I get to do spend time on what I love: my DC's, family, work, exercising, and a few hours a week on my obscure hobby.
What would I like?
1) i wish everyone (my wife and DC's) appreciated how demanding it is to come up with the $20k per month that is required to keep the household running. I'm not saying that we don't live well, but that private school, that big house, all those school extra curricular activities aren't free, and I'm the one responsible for them. On top of that, I still have to attend recitals, teach them how to ride a bike, and be a therapist when a DC is having an emotional crisis.
2) I also LOVE it when my wife makes the effort to look hot. After everything that I do for (1), it's a nice reward that I wish I got more often.

Sir DCUM is getting ready to tear you you to pieces

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Anonymous wrote:55 y.o. male lawyer here, make around $400k, have 2 DC's, one wife.
Generally, life is pretty good, as I get to do spend time on what I love: my DC's, family, work, exercising, and a few hours a week on my obscure hobby.
What would I like?
1) i wish everyone (my wife and DC's) appreciated how demanding it is to come up with the $20k per month that is required to keep the household running. I'm not saying that we don't live well, but that private school, that big house, all those school extra curricular activities aren't free, and I'm the one responsible for them. On top of that, I still have to attend recitals, teach them how to ride a bike, and be a therapist when a DC is having an emotional crisis.
2) I also LOVE it when my wife makes the effort to look hot. After everything that I do for (1), it's a nice reward that I wish I got more often.

What is involved in her looking hot? Do you mean going to the gym and dieting, wearing (more?) makeup, more expensive clothes, getting her hair dyed? Or wearing sexier clothes like tighter and shorter? Or something else?

DP
You'll get different answers, but for me it's not about looking like Sydney Sweeney or Beyonce, it's just about doing something to indicate she wants me to notice and engage at a physical level. It doesn't even have to actually work on a fashion level. Just the act of trying to glam up a bit shows what she's thinking, and that's what makes me feel appreciated and excited.

And I wouldn't touch Beyonce with a 10' pole.

Why not?

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Anonymous wrote:55 y.o. male lawyer here, make around $400k, have 2 DC's, one wife.
Generally, life is pretty good, as I get to do spend time on what I love: my DC's, family, work, exercising, and a few hours a week on my obscure hobby.
What would I like?
1) i wish everyone (my wife and DC's) appreciated how demanding it is to come up with the $20k per month that is required to keep the household running. I'm not saying that we don't live well, but that private school, that big house, all those school extra curricular activities aren't free, and I'm the one responsible for them. On top of that, I still have to attend recitals, teach them how to ride a bike, and be a therapist when a DC is having an emotional crisis.
2) I also LOVE it when my wife makes the effort to look hot. After everything that I do for (1), it's a nice reward that I wish I got more often.

Count your blessings.
I am a 47 y.o. female lawyer. This year I will earn low seven figures. Yet I do everything on my own for the kid and the household, of my husband is checked out.

Ummmm.
Why?

Do tell us more.

Faithfulness is highly valued.
I was always faithful to a woman who cheated a couple of times on me and whom.I was head over heels in love with.
I eventually moved on to another woman who has never cheated on me and whom I completely trust. I married her.
Before we were married, the 1st woman attempted to get back with me, but I knew I'd never be able to completely trust her.
The hardest, most heart breaking painful, and the correct decision to say no to her.

Anonymous wrote:The coven can't help themselves lol...

No, it's very revealing about how many women's base instincts are incredibly petty and nasty, which is usually a reflection of their own self-hatred and sense of worthlessness (which is a self-fulfilling prophecy, because attitudes like these do make them effectively worthless).

I'm bored so I thought I'd answer these.

What do you actually want? No idea, I'm chronically and cyclically depressed. Every moment of happiness is met with an equal moment of depression.

Like in life, in relationships, all of

How can women make things better for you?
Lots of things, but it doesn't matter, because it's not their responsibility to make things better for me. There's no logical reason for women, strangers or those who know me to put in any effort to make things better for me.

What makes you feel respected or valued?
I guess praise or compliments.

What do you want from the woman you’re with?
To feel desired. To feel like I am enough for them. To feel loved and adored. To be taken care of the way I would care for them.

What kind of woman do you actually want to date?
A kind, thoughtful, supportive woman.

And do you think men are devalued right now?
I think in general men's expectations are that they will have some inherent value. The truth is they don't. They are "devalued" in the sense that their expectations are not meeting reality.

Some men are highly valued. But, most men are treated as they are worthless.

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Anonymous wrote:55 y.o. male lawyer here, make around $400k, have 2 DC's, one wife.
Generally, life is pretty good, as I get to do spend time on what I love: my DC's, family, work, exercising, and a few hours a week on my obscure hobby.
What would I like?
1) i wish everyone (my wife and DC's) appreciated how demanding it is to come up with the $20k per month that is required to keep the household running. I'm not saying that we don't live well, but that private school, that big house, all those school extra curricular activities aren't free, and I'm the one responsible for them. On top of that, I still have to attend recitals, teach them how to ride a bike, and be a therapist when a DC is having an emotional crisis.
2) I also LOVE it when my wife makes the effort to look hot. After everything that I do for (1), it's a nice reward that I wish I got more often.

lol you want big thank yous for paying the bills and teaching your kids to ride a bike? That ain’t how it works. You just do those things and be the parent and when the kids are like 25 they realize and will be grateful.

PP is absolutely right. Men should just pay for everything and STFU. (And yet you still wonder why so many 45 y.o. men are looking at 25 y.o. women?)

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Anonymous wrote:55 y.o. male lawyer here, make around $400k, have 2 DC's, one wife.
Generally, life is pretty good, as I get to do spend time on what I love: my DC's, family, work, exercising, and a few hours a week on my obscure hobby.
What would I like?
1) i wish everyone (my wife and DC's) appreciated how demanding it is to come up with the $20k per month that is required to keep the household running. I'm not saying that we don't live well, but that private school, that big house, all those school extra curricular activities aren't free, and I'm the one responsible for them. On top of that, I still have to attend recitals, teach them how to ride a bike, and be a therapist when a DC is having an emotional crisis.
2) I also LOVE it when my wife makes the effort to look hot. After everything that I do for (1), it's a nice reward that I wish I got more often.

What is involved in her looking hot? Do you mean going to the gym and dieting, wearing (more?) makeup, more expensive clothes, getting her hair dyed? Or wearing sexier clothes like tighter and shorter? Or something else?

DP
You'll get different answers, but for me it's not about looking like Sydney Sweeney or Beyonce, it's just about doing something to indicate she wants me to notice and engage at a physical level. It doesn't even have to actually work on a fashion level. Just the act of trying to glam up a bit shows what she's thinking, and that's what makes me feel appreciated and excited.

And I wouldn't touch Beyonce with a 10' pole.

Anonymous wrote:I like when I see men commenting on posts here, it actually makes me feel happy and kind of like… wow. Even when you don’t agree with the OP, it’s usually more like “I don’t like that” without attacking, and I respect that. It makes me want to talk to men more. Most of my friends are men, and I think men are underappreciated. A lot of women hate men for no reason, and it’s odd.

First and most importantly, how are you doing? I hope everything going well in your life.

What do you actually want?
Like in life, in relationships, all of

How can women make things better for you?

What makes you feel respected or valued?

What do you want from the woman you’re with?

What kind of woman do you actually want to date?

And do you think men are devalued right now?

This is kind of weird , pickme, "not like other girls" behavior.

It feels like you're fetishizing the idea of men, not being interested in men as actual people.

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Anonymous wrote:55 y.o. male lawyer here, make around $400k, have 2 DC's, one wife.
Generally, life is pretty good, as I get to do spend time on what I love: my DC's, family, work, exercising, and a few hours a week on my obscure hobby.
What would I like?
1) i wish everyone (my wife and DC's) appreciated how demanding it is to come up with the $20k per month that is required to keep the household running. I'm not saying that we don't live well, but that private school, that big house, all those school extra curricular activities aren't free, and I'm the one responsible for them. On top of that, I still have to attend recitals, teach them how to ride a bike, and be a therapist when a DC is having an emotional crisis.
2) I also LOVE it when my wife makes the effort to look hot. After everything that I do for (1), it's a nice reward that I wish I got more often.

What is involved in her looking hot? Do you mean going to the gym and dieting, wearing (more?) makeup, more expensive clothes, getting her hair dyed? Or wearing sexier clothes like tighter and shorter? Or something else?

DP
You'll get different answers, but for me it's not about looking like Sydney Sweeney or Beyonce, it's just about doing something to indicate she wants me to notice and engage at a physical level. It doesn't even have to actually work on a fashion level. Just the act of trying to glam up a bit shows what she's thinking, and that's what makes me feel appreciated and excited.

The coven can't help themselves lol...

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Anonymous wrote:55 y.o. male lawyer here, make around $400k, have 2 DC's, one wife.
Generally, life is pretty good, as I get to do spend time on what I love: my DC's, family, work, exercising, and a few hours a week on my obscure hobby.
What would I like?
1) i wish everyone (my wife and DC's) appreciated how demanding it is to come up with the $20k per month that is required to keep the household running. I'm not saying that we don't live well, but that private school, that big house, all those school extra curricular activities aren't free, and I'm the one responsible for them. On top of that, I still have to attend recitals, teach them how to ride a bike, and be a therapist when a DC is having an emotional crisis.
2) I also LOVE it when my wife makes the effort to look hot. After everything that I do for (1), it's a nice reward that I wish I got more often.

Count your blessings.
I am a 47 y.o. female lawyer. This year I will earn low seven figures. Yet I do everything on my own for the kid and the household, my husband is checked out.

Why are you tryin gto flex? Really dumb...

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Anonymous wrote:55 y.o. male lawyer here, make around $400k, have 2 DC's, one wife.
Generally, life is pretty good, as I get to do spend time on what I love: my DC's, family, work, exercising, and a few hours a week on my obscure hobby.
What would I like?
1) i wish everyone (my wife and DC's) appreciated how demanding it is to come up with the $20k per month that is required to keep the household running. I'm not saying that we don't live well, but that private school, that big house, all those school extra curricular activities aren't free, and I'm the one responsible for them. On top of that, I still have to attend recitals, teach them how to ride a bike, and be a therapist when a DC is having an emotional crisis.
2) I also LOVE it when my wife makes the effort to look hot. After everything that I do for (1), it's a nice reward that I wish I got more often.

I LOVE how PP has no concept of how #2 and #1 are related.

Willingly chose a transactional relationship and is upset that he isn't Mr Art of The Deal he thought he was.

Yes,
Moron. He chose a “hot” women who wanted the big house and private school and all the other accoutrements of the rich and now wahhh it’s so hard.