Anonymous
Post 04/23/2026 11:49     Subject: should I redshirt DD

Size doesn't matter that much for girls.

If she's substantially ahead of the curve now, being twice as far ahead, due to repeating the grade, is liable to make everything worse, not better.
Anonymous
Post 04/23/2026 08:49     Subject: should I redshirt DD

That is the dumbest reason I have ever heard for holding a kid back. I don't think the school would even allow you to do this.
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2026 18:09     Subject: should I redshirt DD

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Have you considered your DD’s self esteem when you hold her back one year? “Sorry Larla, you can’t be in class with your friends because you are petite.” This is crazy talk.

Agree completely it's school not hunger games
Jfc the scarcity mindset is out of controlllllll


Right??? This is the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard. I was always the shortest one in my class (remember when they used to make us line up by height). But I was also smart and I would have been bored out of my mind if I had been held back on account of being petite.
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2026 13:28     Subject: should I redshirt DD

You're considering having your child repeat first grade because she is short? Not due to struggling academically or socially or having a late birthday but because she is a few inches shorter than some of her peers? That is completely nuts.

If she has complex needs you did not address in your post that would warrant repeating a year, then yes.

FWIW, my DD is 7 and in 2nd grade. She turns 8 over the summer. She is about two inches taller and two pounds heavier than your child and a full academic year ahead. I would never, ever have her repeat a grade because she was not as tall as other students. She is also far from the smallest in her grade.

Anonymous
Post 04/20/2026 18:56     Subject: should I redshirt DD

You should redshirt that bum
Anonymous
Post 04/20/2026 18:03     Subject: should I redshirt DD

She should have been in kindergarten last year. At this rate, she will be a 21 year old high school senior. I'm not joking. Do you think that is better?
Anonymous
Post 04/20/2026 17:58     Subject: should I redshirt DD

You dum
Anonymous
Post 04/20/2026 14:45     Subject: should I redshirt DD

You should probably homeschool.
Anonymous
Post 04/20/2026 14:08     Subject: should I redshirt DD

No! I am a small woman with an August birthday (born before redshirting was a thing) and I was fine. Just send her.
Anonymous
Post 04/20/2026 14:07     Subject: should I redshirt DD

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I meant she just passed 7, but 6.


She turned 7 recently and is in first grade.

You want to hold her back so she will be 7-8 repeating first next year, and 8-9 in second?

Is that correct?


A girl I wouldn’t worry about. I liked being small as a female and did gymnastics.
Anonymous
Post 04/20/2026 13:35     Subject: should I redshirt DD

If she is in first grade and turned 7 recently (as in March/April) that is a very appropriate age for grade. People typically redshirt Aug/Sept birthdays, not March/April.

Unless she had profound special needs, holding her back at this point would be inappropriate
Anonymous
Post 04/20/2026 13:34     Subject: Re:should I redshirt DD

She’ll be the oldest girl in the class because typically girls are more mature than boys and aren't held back. If she’s as smart and as mature as you claim it would be a big mistake holding her back.
Anonymous
Post 04/20/2026 13:10     Subject: Re:should I redshirt DD

Speaking as a 4'11" woman who has always been small, why would you hold your daughter back if there are no social or academic issues. Someone is always going to be on the small side. It is way easier to be a small girl than a small boy.

I have a small boy 4'2" and 55lbs. Like I said, someone has to be the smallest. My son does fine academically and socially.

I would never think of holding my son back. I think, unless you are changing schools, you will do more damage by holding your daughter back.
Anonymous
Post 04/20/2026 12:16     Subject: should I redshirt DD

Yes, OP. Hold back your petite DD for a couple of years.
Anonymous
Post 04/20/2026 12:14     Subject: should I redshirt DD

Anonymous wrote:Have you considered your DD’s self esteem when you hold her back one year? “Sorry Larla, you can’t be in class with your friends because you are petite.” This is crazy talk.

Agree completely it's school not hunger games
Jfc the scarcity mindset is out of controlllllll